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Parents’ Day 2012: Why We Really Are(n’t) Heroes

Sunday, July 22nd, 2012

20 months.

Watching news coverage of the Aurora shooting reminds me of what a true hero says when they are asked the cliche TV interviewer question, “Would you consider yourself a hero?”

The person always responds with, “I’m no hero. I saw someone who needed help so I helped them. No, I’m not a hero.”

When we see these stories where everyday citizens help save the lives of a strangers in the midst of an accident or a tragedy, which in this case meant pulling injured victims to safety out of the line of fire in that movie theatre, we feel gratitude knowing that there are people all around us willing to become real life heroes when the moment arises.

Just like the way a real leader doesn’t have to go around proclaiming their authority, nor does a real hero announce their deeds.

Today is Parents’ Day. (Yes, it is an actual American holiday.)

Most of us have probably never ran inside a burning building to save someone’s life. But as parents, we’re still saving someone’s life everyday.

We sacrifice a whole lot to not only keep our children alive each day (which is sort of the bare minimum goal) but are also constantly teaching them how to survive when we’re not around. And when I say “survive” I don’t just mean physically.

I also mean socially and psychologically. Without our guidance, instruction, and discipline, how would they function?

Yet, do we really consider ourselves as heroes? I sure don’t. My child needs my help so I help him. That’s it.

You can’t refuse to take care of your child because then you wouldn’t be a parent anymore.

But I say, you are a parent, and therefore, you are a hero. You are Supermom. You are Superdad.

Even if you won’t admit it.

 

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The Winner Of HP’s “Tech-Over” Giveaway For Mother’s Day

Thursday, May 10th, 2012

17 months.

A month ago I revealed that HP would be giving one lucky mom a full “tech-over” for Mother’s Day. I invited everyone to submit a mom for the contest, telling why she should win this glorious prize package.

Today, I shall announce the lucky mom out there who will definitely have an awesome Mother’s Day gift. Drum roll please.

And the winner is…

My wife. I, I mean, she really needs a new computer and she’s such a good sport about me writing about her all the time…

Angry yet? You shouldn’t be. You should know me well enough by now I’m just joking. Gotcha! (I hope.)

Seriously, here’s the actual winning entry:

Hi Nick & Parents.com,
I am not sure if voting oneself to win is acceptable, but I truly have to give myself credit as being a super MOM! I have two beautiful daughters that I have raised, one is 8 yrs. and the other is 7 yrs., on my own. I have been known to have  three jobs and attend college full time, and wonder when i would get to just spend a relaxing afternoon with my daughters. But now I have a debilitating head condition that has caused me to not be able to hold down not even one full time job. I truly believe if I were lucky enough to win HP’s ” Tech-Over”, I would still be able to spend the much needed quality time with my daughters. To be able to expand their knowledge in today’s ever-so growing Internet world would make my dreams come true!
Sincerely, Laura Kendrick

Here’s the thing that stood out most about Laura’s entry. In the very first line, she credited her self as a “Supermom,” not to mention that she submitted herself for the contest.
Why is that so cool?

Two months ago here on The Dadabase, I wrote a post entitled “Can We Just Nix This Idea Of The Perfect ‘Supermom’ Already?

Here’s an essential excerpt  from it:

“You are Supermom; the real-life version of her. The main difference I see is that the fictional version never complains. But is that a good thing? To never complain? Nope. It’s absolutely necessary to communicate your frustrations as a parent.”

Instead of Laura focusing on what she’s not, she focuses on what she is. I love that. I celebrate her confidence and determination.

Congratulations Laura and Happy Mother’s Day!

 

 

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Can We Just Nix This Idea Of The Perfect “Supermom” Already?

Tuesday, March 6th, 2012

15 months.

I think I’m getting annoyed by now when I hear moms contrast themselves to Supermom, a fictional character who flawlessly takes care of the kids and the house, and her husband, all while never having a hair fall out of place.

It’s ridiculous when moms continue to believe in this imaginary saint who is naturally better than them at being a mother.

I get it, though. Part of being a modern parent is to using self-deprecating humor.

Sure, a few specific jabs at our own parenting imperfections is healthy and funny. What I think needs to go is this concept, that as moms, you’re not already doing a wonderful job.

Who’s telling you you’re not a good enough mother, by the way?

Could it perhaps have something to do with exaggerated notions of other fellow moms you respect and subconsciously model yourselves after?

I’m going to say something now and you have to believe it, because it’s true.

You are Supermom.

No, as the daddy blogger of Parents.com I’m not trying to grow my female readership in some cheap attempt.

I just simply know the truth of the situation, as an outsider. You moms already do it all. And everybody else knows this. So just embrace the good reality already.

You are Supermom; the real-life version of her. The main difference I see is that the fictional version never complains. But is that a good thing? To never complain?

Nope. It’s absolutely necessary to communicate your frustrations as a parent.

In fact, as a dad, one of my biggest struggles is not that I contrast myself to Superdad, but that I am overly aware of how seemingly effortless moms seem to be at parenting.

If it weren’t for Supermoms, how in the world would Superdads ever know what we are doing?

Please don’t be your own Kryptonite. Instead, be kind to yourself today… Supermom.

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President Obama’s “Strong Fathers, Strong Families” Initiative

Friday, June 17th, 2011

Seven months.

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Recently in my post entitled, “The Positive Re-branding of Fatherhood,” I noted that dads are making a comeback and becoming more involved in their kids’ lives.  Call it a trend, call it a movement; I call it a necessary revolution: Men are changing the future of society now by priding themselves in not settling for mediocre fatherhood, but instead, awesome fatherhood.  And maybe even one day the term “Superdad” will actually be as familiar as “Supermom.”

In fact, I was pleasantly unsurprised to read today in another blog here on Parents.com about a recent poll showing that, compared to 50 years ago, fathers are indeed more involved in the lives of their children.  Granted, these days there are less households where the dad actually lives in the same household as his kids.  But for the dads who do dwell with their kids, these dads are definitely more active compared to 50 years ago.

So it’s not all in my head!  Dads really are making a comeback.  What a cool time to be a dad.  This is what The Dadabase is all about.

President Obama Strong Fathers Strong Families

Today, I want to brag on President Barack Obama.  Last week he introduced a new initiative called “Strong Fathers, Strong Families,” which is a program that provides ways for fathers to spend quality time with their children, via free or discounted pricing on fun activities, such as bowling, sports games, and zoos.

In his recent essay, “Being the Father I Never Had,” he openly recognized the fact that despite the heroism of single moms who have raised a large portion of recent generations, the presence of an active father is valuable to the well-being and future of today’s children:

“And even though my sister and I were lucky enough to be raised by a wonderful mother and caring grandparents, I always felt [my father’s] absence and wondered what it would have been like if he had been a greater presence in my life. I still do. It is perhaps for this reason that fatherhood is so important to me, and why I’ve tried so hard to be there for my own children.” –President Barack Obama

For a guy like me whose active campaign and passionate mission is to positively re-brand fatherhood through this blog on Parents.com, I can’t help but feel strong admiration for our President in his public support for the “Strong Fathers, Strong Families.”  I tip my hat to Mr. Obama for using his voice for an idea so necessary and positive for the good of our country.

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I believe that it has become easy and normal to downplay the importance of fathers in the lives of their children. Because we as a society have learned to, in order to survive and move forward.  But I don’t want our American society to simply survive; I want it to thrive.  And even just the name of President Obama’s initiative itself spells it out pretty clearly: A strong father will lead and grow a strong family.

President Obama is not only taking action in sharing my same passion for parenting; but also just like I am doing, he is using his public platform to openly support active fatherhood.  I get it, not every child has the option of being raised by a good man. Many children have selfish, abusive, and/or absent biological fathers; some who have left by choice while others were good men but have unfortunately passed away.

Still, children need a positive adult male role model to fill that void, whether it’s an uncle, family friend, step-dad, a pastor, or neighbor.  It’s not okay that kids are growing up without good dads. Nor is it okay to deny the need or importance of a positive adult male role model in a child’s life.

Dads matter.

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