Tuesday, August 16th, 2011
A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog post questioning why statistically one out of every five people on Earth, both locally and worldwide, smoke tobacco; despite an often negative social stigma; despite addiction; despite the smell a smoker becomes accustomed to yet non-smokers find offensive; despite the fact that cigarettes are the leading cause of house fires and fire related deaths; and despite the fact it’s an expensive habit. I was simply curious and uneducated on what I was missing out on.
One of my former college roommates at Liberty University, James Nasman, explained it in a way that actually made the most sense, through a very short and simple comment: “There’s a certain comfort in routine.”
It took me nearly two weeks to finally let that soak in to where I can understand it and now apply it to my life. I started thinking about my own daily routines that I subconsciously rely on as forms of comforting structure. Like the way my wife and I say a quick prayer each morning before we leave for work. And how I ride my mountain bike to the nearest Starbucks during my lunch break to read whatever the newest book is that I will be giving away next here on The Dadabase.
Simply going to work everyday, despite it being work, is a comfortable routine. So is driving back and forth to work everyday. So is that sub-par cup of coffee at work to start the day. They are all part of my routine, and in some basic ways, I rely on them.
We are wired in a way that we enjoy positive, unexpected rewards in life. I think that’s part of the thrill of checking our Facebook and Twitter accounts. Of course, when it comes to life’s negative surprises in life, we actually need some sort of vice to be able to handle them. For me, one of my most reliable devices isdepending on the routine itself as a way to have control over it.
Parenting is stressful. If not, you’re in denial as you are attempting perfection and are nearing a nervous breakdown but just don’t know it yet.
I openly admit and confess my parenting stress. But I remember just how normal the craziness of parenting has been- for thousands of years and for billions of people throughout the course of time.