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Sunday, December 22nd, 2013
3 years, 1 month.
Here’s the dilemma:
I’m quicker and more efficient at getting you to bed for both naps and bedtime.
Mommy is quicker and more efficient at doing the dishes after meals.
However, Mommy depends on that quality time with you of putting you to bed… so I do the dishes while she puts you to bed.
And that’s no problem. I’m cool with whatever, asking myself the question, “What would Jack Jackson do?“
He would do the dishes. So I do, too.
But here lately, you have really… what’s another way of saying “taken advantage of the situation”?
You’ve really capitalized on the fact that you know Mommy will come back to comfort you if you call her after she leaves your bedroom.
Of course, you don’t do that with me if I happen to be putting you to bed. You just go to sleep because I make things less interesting, and comforting, I suppose.
So this weekend, Mommy and I tried an experiment.
For your noontime naps, Mommy went through the typical routine for bedtime for you, while I did the dishes from the recent meal, but then she called me upstairs right as it was time for her to leave the room and for you to start falling asleep.
Then, Mommy had to go to get gas for her car. (Or drive to the next neighborhood while I closed the deal with you.)
The most important part of this plan working was that you actually saw Mommy literally drive away. All I did after that was sing you a quick version of the theme song from The Lorax, and you were in Dreamland by the time I could walk downstairs.
With there being no hope of her coming back to your room to comfort you anytime soon, you gave up trying to delay falling asleep.
That’s when I texted Mommy to come back, just a few minutes after she drove away; that the coast was clear.
Hey man… it works
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Thursday, February 9th, 2012
Up until last weekend, I wasn’t okay with the idea of Jack becoming dependent on my driving him around in the car in order to get him to sleep.
Though I trained him to sleep through the night at 7 months, he has continued to put up a fight when it comes to daytime naps.
Given that I’m pretty sure I’ve developed a bit of Carpal Tunnel in my left hand from toting him around, I realize the need to give my wrist a rest whenever I can.
So I’m not one of those dads, like this guy I work with, Greg, who will spend hours at a time rocking his son to sleep and keeping him asleep.
Maybe I’m French or something, but I don’t want my son to become physically dependent on me for his naps.
So I figured if I have to choose between him being dependent on me doing something in order to sleep, I’d rather it be of me driving him around the neighborhood. It’s a win-win-win situation.
Jack fell asleep within 10 minutes of riding in his car seat as I listened to the jazz station on the radio. Then, once I heard him snoring, I pulled the car into a parking spot, turned off the engine and kept the radio on.
That’s when I pulled out the current book I was reading. It was Jon Acuff’s Quitter; which between the 4 naps on Saturday and Sunday, allowed me to basically finish the thing cover to cover.
Meanwhile, my wife was able to get some housework done and eventually got some chill-out time; which she spent watching House Hunters on her laptop.
So to answer the question I asked in the title of this… no. Not only is it not bad, it’s good. Really good.
Jack gets a nap. I get to read a book while listening to jazz. My wife gets time to catch up on things, including rest.
I always appreciate our time together as a family. But it’s also important that we all have time to do our own things separately. Win-win-win.
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Wednesday, September 21st, 2011
Cliche phrases annoy me. Perhaps the one I despise the most is “patience is a virtue,” which is often assumed to originate from the Bible, though it is instead taken from a poem from the 5th century entitled “Psychomachia.”
The reason it probably urks me so badly is because the people who tend to say it the most are typically people who are… too patient!
There’s a decent chance they are also the same ones prone to use other worn-out phrases on a daily basis, like, “I’m not gonna lie…” as to anticipate telling some candid revelation, which they don’t. Another one is “just sayin’,” as to excuse themselves after saying something that is passive aggressively rude.
I’m not gonna lie, I’m not a patient person. Sure, it’s probably something I should care about trying to improve. But really, I’m a parent. I have a 10 month old son. If anything is going to teach me patience, whatever that even means, then it’s going to be my dealings with him.
Yes, I know: I’ve got it easy. My kid is very laid back and loves to be around people. It’s easy for anyone to love him. I know I’m one lucky guy.
Still though, he doesn’t have a pause button. Sometimes, especially on a Sunday afternoon when I am aching for a good three hour nap, I wouldn’t mind a pause button.
I wouldn’t mind being able to carry on a meaningful conversation with my wife during dinner without him interrupting because he’s not being engaged enough as we eat and attempt to feed him in the process.
Instead, the only pausing he does is during the 11+ hours from around 7 PM to 6:30 AM each day. But by that time, most of our energy has been spent.
Thank God for my son. I love him so much. I adore him. Awesomest baby ever.
But I am not a patient guy. Just sayin’.
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