Monday, June 6th, 2011
My wife Jill and I have a spunky and animated friend named Lisa Welch (pictured right), who mentioned to us that when she thinks of us, she sees us as the “Joe Cool” of parents; that we are really “laid-back, groovy people.” And because of that, our son Jack will surely be the same way. Well, he is, actually.
As Jack’s parents we were flattered, though we never really thought about how people perceived us. To the two of us, we’re just a normal married couple who go through the same stuff as everyone else. I guess it’s easy to be unaware of how others perceive you. Because how can you know, not being able to crawl outside of your head and observe yourself with a viewpoint that is not preconceived or idealized in some way?
So now I analyze us:
We are nearly vegetarians and are kosher abiding, though we are not Jewish (other than possibly a great-grandmother or two). Every morning, I eat hemp seeds in my oatmeal, simply because it’s so healthy for me.
My wife is from northern California. Some of the most played music in our house is by Dave Matthews Band, Bob Marley, and Jack Johnson.
I’m a Ron Paul supporter who believes that it’s morally wrong for the government to legally prevent cancer sufferers from benefiting from medical marijuana. Additionally, I agree with Ron Paul that we should put an end to income tax and abolish the IRS.
We are passionate supporters of Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution. Jill makes all of Jack’s baby food herself. We are experimenting with cloth diapers for Jack. Normal cologne (alcohol based) is too strong for me to wear; so instead, I wear patchouli and my wife likes that I do. Oh, and we’re not really into sports.
I guess that covers enough of the bases. The cultural criteria is there for us to be “chill” kind of people. Obviously, a child picks up on the vibes of his parents. I didn’t realize it can happen at such a young age. But it’s pretty obvious, at six months old, Jack just doesn’t let much bother him. Jack is very outgoing, so he doesn’t get afraid of new people. And we are blessed that he is so easy to travel with, because I would say that traveling is one of our main hobbies.
He only cries when he’s hungry, tired, or needs a diaper change. Other than that, he’s happy just to bop around and enjoy the scenery.
Because my writing style is largely based on finding the irony in situations, here it is: We do enjoy the title of “Joe Cool” and being seen as laid back– but don’t be fooled, we do have a serious side, too. We are both very big into structure and setting expectations to live by. Having order and control is very important to us.
We are the paradox of being both laid-back, yet very focused. We are old-fashioned, yet still free thinking and open-minded. And it looks like our son will be the same way.
Entertain me: How has your child adopted your personality traits? I am truly curious to hear other examples.