Saturday, July 7th, 2012
There’s this classic look my son now gives me at least once a day. It’s the “Am I in trouble for this?” look.
Like when he decided to color the dog in one of my wife’s magazines, as opposed to one of his coloring books. Or whenever he squeezes a toy too hard and hears it creek, thinking it’s about to break.
What’s funny is that this look of his always catches me off guard. He never makes the face when he should.
He will stand on his Leaptop (toy laptop) or chew the rubber tire off an old Hot Wheels car of mine or throw a piece of food in the middle of dinner without any fear.
Despite the fact I have regularly scolded him for all of these things.
If you’re a regular reader of The Dadabase, then you know that one of my biggest “parent peeves” is when a parent warns and threatens their child but then doesn’t follow through with the discipline.
Well, I definitely follow through. My son knows to expect time-out or having a toy taken away from him; according to the crime.
He’s at a stage right now where he’s learning the patterns of what I will and will not accept as proper behavior. So some of these “things Dada won’t let me do” haven’t been firmly enough established.
Jack learns through trial and error. And so do I, in regards to what I’m okay with.
But what’s interesting is that the only things I will discipline him for are the things I’ve already instructed him against at least once.
My son knows that coloring the the coffee table with his crayons is not okay. He knows to get his Sesame Street coloring book to use as his canvas. So even when I gave him my wife’s magazine to color a dog in an ad and said, “Jack, let’s color this dog blue,” it still seemed too much like something he wasn’t allowed to do.
So he gave me the ”Am I in trouble for this?” look.
He and I will always be figuring these things out as we go.