Thursday, July 28th, 2011
I love John Mayer’s music. He shares my same love for the year 1983. The first date my wife and I went on was to one of his concerts. I will confidently buy every single album that he ever releases, knowing that John Mayer just can’t produce a dud. When it comes to making music and writing songs, he’s undeniably a class act.
In 2005, John Mayer won a Grammy for his Top Ten hit song, “Daughters.” The song contains the lyrics, “On behalf of every man looking out for every girl. You are the guide and the weight of her world. So fathers, be good to your daughters. Daughters will love like you do.” He wrote the song completely on his own. And it is definitely one well crafted and well written song.
However, I know to separate the music from the man. Technically, John Mayer’s dating life is none of my business. But after all, one of the most played albums in our house is Jack’s favorite Taylor Swift album, Speak Now, which contains the song, “Dear John.”
After hearing the song the first 23 times, it became pretty clear to me that the song is most likely about the highly speculated, brief relationship between the then 19 year old Taylor Swift and the 32 year old John Mayer. One of the most stand out lines in the song is, “Don’t you think nineteen’s too young to be messed with? The girl in the dress cried the whole way home. I should have known.”
Whether or not it should, it definitely bothers me that the man who wrote “Daughters” does not apply the song’s advice in his personal life. It’s not just Taylor Swift that he’s messed with. Granted, it’s not a matter of whether Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Aniston, and Taylor Swift should have known better. It’s a matter of John Mayer knowing better.
In the same way that Bentley is known as the infamous player/villain from the Ashley Hebert season of The Bachelorette, so John Mayer falls into this same category. Just like in his song, “Who Says,” where he nonchalantly states, “Who says I can’t get stoned? Call up a girl that I used to know. Fake love for an hour or so.” This kind of talk just doesn’t sound like it should be coming from the guy who was intuitive enough to write “Daughters.”
I view John Mayer as a modern day King Solomon, having access to countless beautiful women, unending wealth and glorious fame. Yet as King Solomon admitted later in his life, in the book of Ecclesiastes, it was all meaningless. Similarly, John Mayer admits in another one of his more well known songs from the same album, “something’s missing and I don’t know how to fix it.”
So while I think John Mayer is flawless when it comes to making music and writing songs, I recognize that there’s a disconnect between what he knows is truth and the way he actually treats the “daughters” he dates.
And that is why I am giving away a free copy of the book Daddy Dates to the first 5 readers who request it by leaving a comment on this post. I will need your mailing address, whether you leave it in the comment itself or would prefer to email it to me (firstname.lastname@example.org) right after you leave the comment.
The nonfiction book Daddy Dates is written by Greg Wright, who regularly takes his four daughters on “dates.” In other words, he is making a very conscious effort to spend individual, quality time with his daughters, assuring them that they are beautiful, loved, and worthy of being loved. Coming from the guy whose mission is to positively re-brand fatherhood (I’m referring to myself,) I admire Greg Wright for what he is doing.
Therefore, I proudly give away his book here on The Dadabase.
*Within an hour or so of this post being published, I got my 5 winners for the book. Hint: When I give away books here on The Dadabase, it’s always on Thursday nights around 8PM Central Time. But not every Thursday…