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Processing The Newtown, Connecticut School Shooting As A Parent

Friday, December 14th, 2012

2 years.

Dear Jack,

While I will always do my best to give you answers¬†about life, there are certain things that just can’t be explained with a reasonable answer. Today will be most remembered as the day a gunman killed seven adults and 20 children at an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut.

People ask, “Why did this happen?”

No one can give a reasonable explanation, because nothing about this incident was reasonable or explainable.

My attempt at an explanation is that some people in this world feel so broken, unloved, and numb that they give up on life.

The irony is, as hopeless and alone as they feel, they still don’t want to die alone.

It’s times like these that cause some people to ask, “If there is a God, why would He allow such an unthinkable event to happen?”

Others ask, “How could an event like this not cause people to turn to God, in the hope that there is a saving grace stronger than the depravity of man?”

In these moments we are forced to both contemplate and appreciate our own lives.

After all, we are the ones that still have the gift of life.

As messed up as it gets sometimes, we still share this gift. We still have the opportunity to love others as ourselves.

People who destroy the lives of others don’t, and maybe even can’t, understand this concept. I’m sure part of the reason is that they themselves weren’t shown enough love in their own life, but that doesn’t give them any excuse.

That’s why as your dad, I will always be teaching you the importance of making people feel special and included. If we all did that the best we could, maybe we could help create a butterfly effect where we passed along hope instead of despair.

I will teach you to seek out the lost, the friendless, the misunderstood, and the lonely. They need a good friend.

And I believe you will make a good one.

We can never explain events like the one that happened today. We can only do our part to quench the pattern of brokenness and fear with a pattern of love and hope.

I love you, Son. I hugged you extra close tonight. So did Mommy. We’re going to take good care of you.





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