Dadvice #4: Would You Recommend Using A Midwife?

16 months.

Knowing that my wife Jill and I were gung-ho about have a natural as possible delivery for our son back in November 2010 and used a group of midwives featured on TLC’s “Baby’s First Day,” a Dadabase reader asks about our thoughts on it in retrospect.

“Hey Nick and Jill!

I am pregnant again.  Although I had a natural and mostly intervention free labor and delivery with my first child, I had to fight for what I wanted the whole time.

Thinking about doing all that again makes me anxious and exhausted. I’ve seen the show on TLC ‘Baby’s First Day’ that takes place at Vanderbilt and it appears they are very natural friendly. Is it really like that?

From what I’ve found on the web I don’t see any restrictions for sibling visitors any time of the year. Is there any particular midwife or group you would recommend?

I know there will be a higher price tag to deliver outside of our town (Clarksville, TN) and the inconvience of driving to Nashville for all the prenatal appointments but I think the end result will be positive.

Thanks for taking time to help me out!”

It’s funny; we were actually invited to be featured on the first season of “Baby’s First Day” because decided against since all we’d get for our trouble was a free DVD of the episode we’d appear on. Interestingly, one the women who gave birth the same night as Jill is on one of those episodes. Could have been us…

To answer your question, I passionately recommend going through the Vanderbilt Nurse-Midwives in Nashville and I think it would be worth the drive for all your appointments.

I just hope you don’t get Elaine: During one of the appointments she told me to make my hands into a vagina and then she demonstrated forcefully how to massage to bring upon the labor process. That was with my mother-in-law in the room.


Other than that, we couldn’t have been more pleased. They completely respected all of our wishes concerning our attempt to go “all natural” to the end. In fact, if we have another child, we will absolutely be going through them again.

Regarding visitors, I can tell you this: The morning after Jack was born, among the visitors was a couple with a toddler and an infant. Those kiddos made it through so I imagine your child will permitted without any hassle.

If you haven’t already watched “The Business of Being Born” on Netflix streaming, I think it would be a great idea to get you even more pumped up about doing this your way; with the encouragement of midwives.

And congratulations!

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  1. by Joe

    On March 19, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    You chose to have “a natural as possible delivery”, but still chose to circumcise your son? There’s NOTHING natural about a circumcision…where’s the disconnect?

  2. by Adrianne Smith

    On March 19, 2012 at 10:50 pm

    Thanks so much for the info Nick and Jill! I’m so excited to use a midwife with this pregnancy. I have watched The Business of Being Born and More Business of Being Born. Most of all I’m thrilled to know that our daughter can share this experience with us!

  3. by Nick Shell

    On March 20, 2012 at 6:06 am

    I see your point. It’s my opinion that circumcision is the healthier way to go in the long run; add to that, I see it as the Biblical example.

  4. by Nick Shell

    On March 20, 2012 at 6:07 am

    Cool! Thanks for asking for my dadvice :)