I Want To Do It… I Need Help…

2 years, 3 months.

Dear Jack,

Today I took a really late lunch from work so I could drive you to the nearby park, just down the street from your daycare and from where my office is.

It was 2:40 and you had just woken up from your nap, so I’m pretty sure you thought you might still be dreaming since I don’t regularly get the opportunity to see you during the workday.

As soon as we pulled into the parking lot, you set your sights on your goal… the big boy slide.

The only way to get to that 7 foot tall slide was to go up the climbing wall.

I placed my hands around your waist, allowing you to reach for the grips and pull yourself up.

You instantly turned around to me and resisted: “I want to do it.”

I pulled my hands away where you could no longer feel them but where they were close enough in case you fell.

About three seconds passed… “I need help.”

That situation happens several times a day now. Whether it’s opening a fruit snack or putting on your shoes, you have to attempt to do it yourself first, then you’ll ask me to do it.

These days I just need to remember to assume you want to do everything yourself. I suppose it’s pretty much a waste of time for me to even try to help you, because I know what will happen:

“I want to do it… I need help.”

This is the stage where you are realizing you can actually do some stuff yourself. You don’t actually need me for everything anymore.

It’s like each situation is a new pickle jar to be opened.

I am your OnStar, your tech support, and your extra muscles.





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  1. by Kam Shows

    On February 26, 2013 at 12:02 pm


    Such a sweet article. This note to your little one (LO), Jack warmed my heart. Comparing the support we offer to that of a father is definitely a high compliment.

    Warm regards,
    Kameya Shows
    OnStar Communications

  2. by Nick Shell

    On February 26, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    Thank you Kameya. After Chevy sent my family on a road trip to the FL Keys in a Chevy Volt, I realized how revolutionary that OnStar is. It’s the best comparison I could think of.

  3. by Melissa Pheterson

    On February 26, 2013 at 10:39 pm

    Independence and neediness…is there a cuter combo under the sun? My three-year-old boy is cautious to the core, standing and watching intently before attempting, perhaps picking up on my anxiety, only recently getting brave on the playground. My twenty-month-old daughter waves me away from wiping her face or getting her shoes or even reading aloud from a book. “I do it! I read it! I help you!” As a thirtysomething who still relies heavily on my own parents, I find her brushing me aside a little frightening :)