What Are Your Biggest Parent Peeves?

A year and a half.

What things do you see other parents do that annoy you, even though they shouldn’t? Plus, what things should bother you, enough to speak up against them?

I have a few “parent peeves” that come to mind…

Like hearing another parent making empty threats of discipline to their obviously undisciplined kid:

Preston, I’m never gonna take you out in public again. You’re gettin’ a butt whoopin’ when you get home and Santa Clause isn’t gonna visit you this Christmas!”

Or watching a parent give their toddler a 24 ounce caffeinated soda.

My biggest one is medicating a toddler for ADHD or hyperactivity. But I’ve already preached my sermon on that one

When should these things bother us as compared to when it’s none of our business? How do we know it’s our responsibility to butt in and try to do something about it?

Recently I asked whether we should really care what other parents think about us. Well today, I’m asking why (and when) we should care how other parents do their job.

To help answer these questions, I have designed a system for figuring that out and I want to share it with you today:

Superficial disagreement- A difference of petty opinion or personal preference. Action required: Think to self, “Hmm… that’s weird. That’s not how I would do it.”

Personal disagreement- A difference of opinion so strong it offends you. Action required: Write a Facebook status update or blog entry generically dissin’ it.

Moral disagreement- A difference of moral viewpoint. Action required: Personally confront the parent or the authorities.

I think all parent peeves fall into one of those 3 categories and it’s a matter of sorting out which action should follow on our behalf.

To demonstrate, I’ll throw you a few examples:

A parent calls their kid an idiot in the school parking lot.

A parent slaps their kid on their face at the park.

A parent lets their kids run around and play loudly in the department store.

A parent uses the “cry it out” method on their 4 month-old.

A parent lets their now 3 year-old sleep in the bed every single night with them.

You get the idea. What’s interesting is that I’m pretty sure there are parents to defend either side of each of those examples.

So ultimately, it comes to a case of good old-fashioned relative morality.

Yes, I’ve had people defend the one of slapping their kid on the face. I was told that internationally it’s not a big deal.

Your turn. What are your biggest parent peeves?

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  1. by Sharon

    On June 4, 2012 at 7:15 pm

    Can’t waste my time judging other people’s parenting. My own parenting is hard enough.

  2. by Jessica

    On June 5, 2012 at 4:58 am

    Other then seeing a parent do something to their child that hurts the child, my biggest pet peeve would be watching a child toddler and older just run around and do what they chose without the parent intervening. Example: I was at the zoo in the nature preserve area and the kids were pulling the plants out of the ground, tearing off leaves, ect. and the parents were a few feet a head on their cell phones not caring. There were signs everywhere saying do not touch but some parents just let their kids have no borders.

  3. by Celia

    On July 4, 2012 at 11:56 am

    I am very much against empty threats, and the “anticipation” of punishments (“Whoopin’ when we get home!”) With the kid anticipating punishment, their behavior, in my experience, gets MUCH worse.
    I have voiced this opinion to other parents, and they said they just pop them in the store right then and there. I dunno. I don’t think I could personally do that to my children, never have. The more you supervise and praise the positive, the least likely they will find themselves “in trouble”.

  4. by Faith

    On August 12, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    I don’t like it when parents start shouting at their kids, or getting angry when the kid misbehaves. I also don’t like to see the parent’s constantly working to keep the child quiet.