Big Love? Man Donates Sperm For His Son’s Baby

16 months.

Today on MSN’s home page there was a strange headline proclaiming “Buzz About Father Donating Sperm For Son’s Baby.” I couldn’t resist. I had to read it.

As the article explains, a man in The Netherlands stepped up to the plate for his son who is biologically incapable of having a child with his wife.

So the baby’s biological father will actually be his legal grandfather. Accordingly, the baby’s legal father will be his biological half-brother.

This is not illegal. Though it is pretty weird.  I think for most people, the word “creepy” comes to mind.

But again, it’s not against the law. Should it be? Are there any particular moral issues involved here?

I think it’s safe to say that there are some psychological time bombs regarding this family’s dynamics. But does this case break a moral code, or does it just go against what is considered normal and acceptable in our society?

It’s not like the the father and daughter-in-law became sexually involved in order to have a child in the son’s place. But by the father donating his sperm, the ultimate outcome is still produced when the baby is born.

Imagine knowing that your own child is half of your spouse and half of one of your parents.

I feel like this is the strange twist ending of some psychological thriller movie.

Actually, this situation is very similar a story line in HBO’s drama series, Big Love. Nicki Grant’s ex-husband marries her mom in an attempt to have a biological child with her; having already fathered a child with Nicki.

When that plot revealed itself I remember thinking, “Okay, that’s an interesting story, but it’s simply unbelievable.”

Well, now that I’ve read this story, I’m less disappointed by the previously unbelievable story line on Big Love.

Right now I have the song “Hello Muddah, Hello Fadduh (A Letter from Camp)” stuck in my head, only the words are “Hello Grandpa, hello Father…”.

So here’s what I want to know: Is there anyone out there willing to defend this dad who donated sperm for his son?

Anybody?

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  1. by mandie hutchinson

    On March 28, 2012 at 6:07 am

    I’d defend him. I think that biology is only half of what makes a father a father. It’s not like his sister is donating an egg. The kid would never have to know and the man wants a kid but can’t have one. So what he is raising his technical “little brother”. He can still be a wonderful father to him. The situation may be a little out of the ordinary but I don’t see anything jaded or wrong about. I think in order to judge someone over simply wanting to help their son in any way possible is the wrong.

  2. by Alice

    On March 28, 2012 at 10:16 am

    This is CREEPY and totally unnecessary. I’d rather go to a sperm bank than carry my father in law’s child (that’s what it is). Having FIL as sperm donor won’t make the baby the husband’s baby, and it just creates baggage for the poor kid and the family as a whole.

  3. by Daniela

    On March 29, 2012 at 7:53 am

    I’d defend him.At least his son can have a child who,anyway,will be related to him and not to a stranger.what really matters is that the child grows surrounded by love,the rest are just details.

  4. by dealuser

    On July 20, 2012 at 10:16 am

    I think that it is the right idea. It is a lot better than having the child growing up without his or her biological dad around.