My Toddler’s Dependency on Drugs (And Why I’m His Enabler)

15 months.

I’m not comfortable with the fact my son is quite regularly under the influence of either Children’s Advil or Amoxicillin. But it’s not like I have a choice.

Being at daycare, he  is constantly exposed to germs which often cause him to get a fever, resulting in him being sent home for that day and the next.

Additionally, the fever tends to be the product of an ear infection or pneumonia or something of that nature which requires a prescription for Amoxicillin.

So I’m constantly praying each day while I’m at work that he doesn’t get a fever or I’m wondering if I should have given him fever reducer that morning to prevent him from being sent home.

I feel horrible about keeping my son drugged up on such a reoccurring basis.

Ultimately, I feel like a hypocrite because I’m so adamant on not feeding him foods in which I don’t know what the ingredients are, yet I don’t truly know the long-term effects all these drugs have on my toddler son.

In the ideal world, which is evidently America in the 1950′s, my wife could just stay home with our son all the time and I’d actually make enough money to support the three of us.

That way, we wouldn’t have to put our son in a position to be exposed to so many germs or have to be given fever reducer to avoid being sent home, causing either my wife or me to miss work.

But in reality, my wife actually makes more money than I do and has the more stable job. We both have to work and our son has to go to daycare.

Yet again, what option do I have to allow him to live a more natural, yet healthy, life? How can I possibly avoid this path for him, as his parent?

Should I just assume that going through two bottles of Children’s Advil per month is normal and justified?

Several times now I have written about my distrust of the FDA; how they approve red food dye made from crushed bugs and petroleum, which has shown side effects in children, such as myself in the Eighties.

And how I hate the fact that not even can confirm or deny that “natural” vanilla flavoring in ice cream and cookies is made from the anal glands of beavers.

With all that the FDA says is okay for us to eat, how can I know that these over-the-counter and prescription medicines are truly safe for my son?

I wish we could just say no to drugs, even over-the-counter ones.

Image Credit: Signe Wilkinson, Drug-Free America.

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  1. by Kay

    On February 28, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Nick, I am not a doctor, pharmacist, scientist, etc. I am just a mom. A mom who has been blessed with an amazing doctor. He is a family doctor and a pediatrician. When I read your post, it pulled at my heart. I know the heartbreak you feel when your child is sick. To see them in discomfort is a horrible feeling and you feel helpless. What concerns me is the amount of medication you are giving your little one. If the doctor has advised you that it is ok, then I would recommend going to another dr, and another, until you find one that tells you to ease up. Who knows what the long term affect can have. Just as there are suspect ingredients in food, there are suspect ingredients in medicines. The FDA has been known to turn a blind eye for a buck. I saw a show on autism a few years ago and there was a boy who developed it at the age of 7. True story. No signs of it for the first 6 years, and they had multiple home videos to confirm.
    Do some online research for alternatives. Popsicles and cold wash clothes applied to the head and neck can work wonders.
    Listen, I get that you are coming from a good, loving place. I have been frustrated with my dr when he woukd tell me to let it runs it’s course and wouldn’t give her an antibiotic. But my Dr thinks outside the box. He doesn’t tell me what I want to hear, he tells me what is best for my daughter. The only time he gave her antibiotics was when she had whooping cough. A one week supply, that’s it.
    Just like an adult, a child can become immune to medication. Especially antibiotics and Advil. Sorry to go on and on, but I’m hoping this helps. Finally, I have no doubt that you could call their office, run your situation by one of the receptionist. She will take down your name and number, talk to the dr about it at the end of his shift, and call you back with his advice. His name is Dr. Jay and he’s in NJ. (856) 983-9939. They won’t think you’re weird, I promise.

  2. by Kay

    On February 28, 2012 at 10:49 am

    Ok, I know I have a lot to say. You can hate me for it if you wish, no hard feelings. Again, if anything I say helps, then that is all that matters.
    Parenting goes so much further and deeper than what we see at the surface. You are concerned about your son’s health at the moment, but take a moment to think about how this could possibly be the start of something that can change his life as an adult. You medicate him now for symptoms. As he gets a little older, more medicines are introduced. Headache, allery, stomach, nerves, this, that, the other. All out of a good place within your heart. Only as a teenager, or in adulthood, as he journeys through the normal ups and downs life, he has been conditioned to turn to medication whenever he has discomfort. This could include prescription pills, alcohol or drugs.