The Half Abortion: Only Keeping One Twin

Eight months.

In today’s publication of the New York Times, there is an article entitled The Two-Minus-One Pregnancy. It tells of the growing number of women who are pregnant with twins and choose to abort only one of the fetuses, and allowing the other to survive.  In other words, these women are having a “half abortion.”

According to the article, New York’s Mount Sinai Medical Center performed 101 abortions last year; 38 of those pregnancy terminations involved a mother pregnant with twins who decided to only abort one unborn child.  And that’s just one medical center in the entire country.

One mother who used fertility drugs to get pregnant, then aborted only one fetus, gives her reasoning for the decision:

“If I had conceived these twins naturally, I wouldn’t have reduced this pregnancy, because you feel like if there’s a natural order, then you don’t want to disturb it. But we created this child in such an artificial manner — in a test tube, choosing an egg donor, having the embryo placed in me — and somehow, making a decision about how many to carry seemed to be just another choice. The pregnancy was all so consumerish to begin with, and this became yet another thing we could control.”

What is it about the idea of a half abortion that somehow seems more difficult to grasp than a “normal” abortion?  The immediate thing that comes to mind is that it is an ultimate case of “playing God.” As if a “normal” abortion wasn’t already giving one person the authority to choose another human being’s ability to live, a half abortion gives a person the ability to decide which unborn child deserves to live and which one deserves to die. That’s playing God, times two.

Is there any justification for a half abortion? The article in the New York Times gives several examples of why women made their decision:

1. The mother was 45 years old and already had children.  She felt financially insecure, as well as, too old to have twins.

2. The mother was known as a “good parent,” highly devoted to her children.  Pregnant with twins, she decided she couldn’t be equally devoted to two more; just one.

3. The mother already had a son. Then she got pregnant with twins; a boy and a girl.  She chose to keep the girl.

4. Many of these mothers were in their 2nd marriage and already have kids from their previous marriages.  Twins would have been too complicated, compared to only one more addition to the family.

5.  Some were single mothers.

6. Some mothers did not want to jeopardize their education.

7. Some did not want to jeopardize their careers.

8. One woman’s husband was an officer in the Army, fighting in Iraq. They already had a few kids.  Twins were too much a risk if something happened to her husband.

For those of us unfamiliar with the idea of a half abortion until today, we now make a decision in our own minds of whether it is ethically justifiable or wrong. The fact that The New York Times is doing a story about it says something in and of itself: This is not your typical “gray area” moral dilemma.

This isn’t a discussion about whether abortion is right or wrong, in general.  Honestly, “pro-choice vs. pro-life” debates bore me. Polls show that our nation is split 50/50 on abortion.  Most of us have already made up our minds on the issue and the truth is, we are not going to convince each other otherwise via comments on a blog post; especially if we ourselves play God by judging other people’s character and life decisions.

I hope it is clear that I am not asking anyone to cast stones, but instead to think with an open mind about a tough issue that has some undeniable ethical questions surrounding it. I enjoy mature, mutually respectable, deep conversations. Therefore, I’m curious to know how other people feel about the “two minus one pregnancy.”  What ethical issues does the half abortion raise?

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  1. by Beth

    On August 14, 2011 at 8:51 pm

    As for the mom who had said it was acceptable because of the fertility treatment, the odds of an embryo actually implanting are not controlled by a test tube.
    I am a twin and I can say that I am very happy my mother did not choose to abort either myself or my twin sister.

  2. by Judy Goldberg

    On August 14, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    I don’t think you can judge anyone until you’ve walked in their shoes. I think all of these reproductive decisions are best left to the person who is reproducing.

  3. by Nick Shell

    On August 15, 2011 at 12:07 am

    Hi Judy, I agree with you regarding the importance of not judging the persons involved. I hope it was clear that I am not asking anyone to cast stones, but instead to think with an open mind about a tough issue that has some undeniable ethical questions surrounding it.

  4. by Jim

    On August 15, 2011 at 8:24 am

    This is really disturbing. For a mother to say “I already have a boy, so I don’t need another. I’ll just terminate (or kill) him. I do want the girl though. I’ll keep her.”

    Whatever the details of each situation, this line of thinking does not make any sense.

  5. by Eryn

    On August 15, 2011 at 8:59 am

    I find this disturbing. I had never heard of of the two-minus-one abortion before. I am an identical twin and I couldn’t imagine life without my twin sister and best friend. My parents only wanted one child but felt blessed to have two at once. I wouldn’t want my life any other way than it is now. What if it had been me who didn’t have the chance at life? This is mind-blowing to me.

  6. by MLR

    On August 15, 2011 at 10:39 am

    There are so many ways these days that we can exercise control over our lives where once we had none. This has become our prerogative, I suppose. Yet by exercising this prerogative it seems that we are robbing ourselves of experiences and opportunities of which our limited minds, in their current states, could not even fathom. How many of us have thought “oh I could never…” and then found ourselves in said situation thinking, “I cannot imagine my life without this experience.” We do not always know beforehand what is best for ourselves, which is the best part about this wonderful journey called life. We can be both intelligent and open to the experiences of life, without losing our common sense.

  7. by Brenda

    On August 16, 2011 at 2:48 am

    I’ve never been one to believe abortion is right, however, it should be up to the one that has to live with the results. I just know that I couldn’t make this kind of decision unless perhaps it was seriously medical and even then it wouldn’t be an easy choice to make because I know someone who was told her child would be deformed and mentally retarded that decided against abortion and that child turned out normal. My daughter had twins and it was a very difficult risky pregnancy. The boy born first had medical issues needed a trach and GI tube. The girl was fine. The boy died at seven months. We wouldn’t trade those seven months for nothing in the world and would do it over again and again if we had to. He was a wonderful happy baby through it all, and yes he did suffer some, but he had the chance too to live for a time as we believe God intended. So it’s really a matter of choice that depends on who you are, how you were raised and what you believe.

  8. by JM

    On August 16, 2011 at 7:12 am

    Most of the reasons given are financial or emotional, not medical or concerning the pregnancy itself. If that is the case,why not give one child away for adoption, especially with so many families experiencing infertility? My brother is adopted, and I am so glad his bio mother chose to carry him to term.

  9. by Theresa

    On August 16, 2011 at 7:55 am

    All I can say is what a shame. My daughter has lost 2 babies one at the 13th week and one at the 6th. She would have given anything to have these aborted babies – anything. This is a shame and we wonder why our world is going in the direct it is. This selfishness is one reason why.

  10. by Zeek

    On August 16, 2011 at 8:13 am

    I had twins. Twins are a high risk pregnancy, and my experience with a multiples pregnacy was just that. My singletons did not send my blood pressure into the stratosphere and cause preterm labor, etc, as twins did. I had to have a c-section a little early to prevent a stroke, and the babies did well. Some women have health conditions that make a singular pregnancy risky, and a multiples pregnancy extremely risky to the babies and to the mother. Do I agree with all abortions? No. But abortion has been a sad truth in human history for centuries. When we ban it, women still get them, but in the case where women seek illegal abortions, all to frequently it is not only a unborn child that dies, it is the mother, who often leaves behind other children who needed her. I can judge her, but it won’t change realities we simply cannot change. I think it is sad that we live in a world where we have so many circumstances where a child cannot have a place, but we do. I am sad when people who would be good parents and are financially well set abort, but for the masses that live on welfare and produce offspring that serve only to bolster our prison populations and up our crime rate, I think we should sterilize them and offer free abortions as a back up. It seems the trash reproduces like rabbits, while the cream of the crop is stingy with progeny. It should be the other way around.

  11. by E.E.M

    On August 16, 2011 at 8:45 am

    I cannot imagine doing this. I had an unplanned pregnacy at 18 and gave birth to a beatiful baby girl and became a single mother. Not easy, but I love my daughter. I had a second unplanned pregnancy at 30 and again delivered a beautiful baby girl. I am blessed. I am very against abortion for myself, I could never have one, no matter the situation. I can’t believe that people think it’s ok to pick and choose which children to have. It sickes me. We don’t know what beautiful minds we are destroying. Abortions may kill future leaders that would have made huge contributions. I just don’t get it and never will. I can’ imagine aborting a twin just because I could. Unreal. This world has no morals anymore.

  12. by AD4

    On August 16, 2011 at 8:48 am

    I find this absolutely disgusting. All I heard from these women that made the choice to abort one of their children is that it was inconvenient for them to have twins. Well some times you really just need to suck it up and deal with what gets thrown in your lap. I am 26 years old with 4 kids. I had my first when I was 19, I had my second when I was 20, and I had my twins when I was 23. I never once thought of taking the easy way out. I love every single one of my kids and would not change a single thing. I am not suggesting that these women do not love their children but how can you even start to make a decision like this. I understand that there are circumstances when there is a medically sound reason that the pregnancy may need to be terminated but to abort a child just on the fact that it would be to much work or they already had a boy so they don’t want another one. Give me a break this is a human, a little defenseless life that can’t scream “I want to live”. Since when did it become alright and socially accepted to “baby shop”? I just don’t understand how some one could pick and choose which baby they want like they were at the store deciding what brand of bread to buy!? Yes I had some mild panic and my twin pregnancy did not go the greatest but I have survived and so have they. Each day is a new beginning and sometimes we all need a challenge.

  13. by Tracie

    On August 17, 2011 at 1:35 am

    All’s I can say is WOW. This is horrible. I had my first kid when I was 18 and my second when i was 20. I wouldnt change it for the world. They brighten my life everyday. I personally dont believe in abortions, but this is taking it to far. If you can’t handle more kids get your tubes tied, close your legs and last but not least ADOPTION. They also do closed adoptions where you have no contact with the child. This is very selfish and wrong. There is nothing mature about this, if you want a mature conversation, make a mature choice. Aborting a kid because you already have a boy or girl is not mature, it’s a disgrace to the human race.

  14. by Sirena

    On August 17, 2011 at 2:23 am

    Wow! What a shocking report. I think twins have a special bond and when its broken either naturally or not it effects those souls left on their own. I am not a twin and dont know from personal experience but I do know twins and they all feel this way! Imagine what it would be like to share the womb with someone else. For the woman who used fertility drugs to rationalize her choice by thinking the conception was unnatural is puzzling to me. Different yes, but unnatural to have a baby- I dont agree! Usually people faced with having to take this route are well aware their chances of multiples are High! Many poor woman dont ever get to even have a successful IVF after multiple attempts, they never get to see what that lil baby or babies looks like on the US monitor! Every woman deserves their choice but choices made based on the babies sex is inhumane!

  15. by betty anderson

    On August 17, 2011 at 6:30 am

    I hope that the mothers will be prepared for the emotional backlash when their child finds out that they murdered a twin. Personally I would never forgive my mother, there is always adoption, people willing to pay all expenses just to be able to have a child. It is time for people to accept responsibility for their actions, this is very disturbing.

  16. by Ana

    On August 17, 2011 at 7:02 am

    My mother would have loved to have twins. However, she miscarried my fraternal twin during her second trimester. My entire life I’ve felt that loss, that something important was missing from my life. Being a twin is a rare and precious thing: it seems selfish to deny your children the richness of that experience. One I would have given anything to have.

  17. by Kasey

    On August 18, 2011 at 8:37 am

    This is completely unacceptable. These women are destroying a human life because that life inconveniences them. What a horrible shame. These women are selfish, thinking only of themselves. If they didn’t want to have the babies they shouldn’t have had the fertility treatments, I am certain that was explained to them. Some of these women have committed gendercide – choosing to abort based on gender.

    When I was 18 I had an unplanned pregnancy, but when I found out I was pregnant, it was not an unwanted one. I ended up placing her for adoption after having a very difficult pregnancy with toxemia and nearly having a stroke. I have no regrets about it. There are alternatives to taking a life, you can give that life to a family who is struggling with fertility.

  18. by Lydia

    On August 19, 2011 at 5:23 am

    I find this disturbing. Like Betty said, those that lived will feel the loss of their twin, perhaps better to follow shamelessness with another lie of ommission – just never tell them huh? Sorry if anyone finds this too harsh but really – what are these people thinking? I wonder how any will feel if they lose the one they chose to keep through death in infancy, it is a cruel possibility. I guess they will just go manufacture another…

  19. by Lydia

    On August 19, 2011 at 5:25 am

    In fact, while I am at it – why even try to be better than animals? Why not just eat the one you don’t want?

  20. by Howard

    On August 19, 2011 at 8:00 am

    For someone who doesn’t want to “cast stones” you certainly painted a very biased picture. As someone with a close family member who works in the medical field performing these procedures I know that the VAST majority are done for medical reasons – not for any of the reasons given in your article. Most of the aborted fetuses have serious medical issues – i.e. missing a brain, missing a head, missing lungs, that would not allow the child to survive. Other reasons are that one twin is “destroying” the other twin as they develop in the womb. Next time you want to not “cast stones” don’t write such an obviously biased article. It is articles like this, and people like you that cause a lot of pain to others.

  21. by unknown

    On August 19, 2011 at 8:33 am

    so shes saying the baby is just ” an artificial matter” :(

  22. by Unbiased ....

    On August 19, 2011 at 9:00 am

    Howard, right on! You are correct in pointing out how slanted this article is, and the author using only the trivial responses for examples of why they aborted. Yes, of course, doing it out of ease is a lame excuse, but believe me, there are many medical reasons. The persons that choose do “reduce” the pregnancy will definitely feel the loss forever, as will the twin possibly?? One will never know, that is the sad part. And pro-choice has NOTHING to do with this article. This is pro-SELF, all about convenience and what’s best for ME.

  23. by Bryan

    On August 19, 2011 at 11:38 am

    I do not really see any ethical or moral issue here. Any abortion up until approximately the 22 week is really no more immoral or unethical than plucking a carrot from the ground. For the fetus, there is no experience (qualia) of pain, or pleasure, or desire, or joy that is possible before that 22nd week. So there is nothing especially human about the fetus (if it cannot experience pain or joy or any of the above). I believe it was Richard Carrier who pointed out that without a fully formed cerebral cortex, none of the above sensations are possible. It would also then be true that there is no way for the fetus to form a personality. And it is that personality which we seem to value most as what makes us human. So, if it is not possible to form personality then it is not proper to call the fetus fully human. It is merely a collection of cells. Technically alive, but not human. So there is no moral or ethical basis for seeing a choice to abort one or both (or more in the case of triplets and above) fetuses as wrong. It is a non issue.

  24. by Lumi Karu

    On August 20, 2011 at 10:25 am

    The woman quoted in the article said it well, when conceiving/having a baby is a consumer choice, then why not use all your options? If people accept legal abortion of one child for any reason, how is this terribly different? I guess is just makes it seem egregiously wrong even to the “pro-choice” crowd.
    You are softening it to call it a “half-abortion”, it really is just abortion. In addition to the 53 million already permormed in the U.S. since RVW.
    This is why a certain group rejects abortion, IVF, etc. Because it doesn’t respect human life and it is all “playing God”.

  25. by Catherine

    On August 20, 2011 at 12:04 pm

    This is by far, the most heart break thing I’ve ever read. I have twin brothers, they are a different kid without the other.

  26. by Rachel

    On August 20, 2011 at 12:25 pm

    My twin died 11 hours after our birth, and I felt his loss even before I knew I was a twin. Unless there is a life and death medical issue, I find it unfathomable to try to understand how a parent could do this to his or her child.

  27. by brigitte

    On August 20, 2011 at 1:15 pm

    What shocks me is the medical centres doing these types of abortions aside from extreme medical grounds-like one twin has already died and controlled removal maintains the remaining one. Normal women are devastated if that happens. These partial abortions are doomed choices from immature selfish women.They fail to recognise that getting pregnant means you should know you have surrendered to an unknown outcome for their own body and that with each child. You could need to be making ongoing adaptations at any time or at any level. These mindless callous women will later pay a hefty price. Partners seeing the reality of their remaining baby will leave revolted by the reminder of a sick woman’s sick choice, any disability arising with remaining child rub in their “wrong kid ” kept choice. Kid ends up accident prone(result of having a cold insightless insightless parent)permanently brain damaged injured and dependant. Kid finds out about twin extermination and has ongoing contempt for the parent. The stupid though not calous woman later keeps being haunted by the constant reminder of what the other executed child should be growing to, even impairing her connecting to the remaining one. The remaining child procludes resolving issues that a singleton abortion can bring. Add other relatives, the grandparents, aunts and uncles, always reminded of there ought to be two not one and the remaining child growing up perplexed by a background of mourning when visited.
    This practice will probably diminish when one of the families hit such unanticipated anguish suing the clinic for psychological damages they will feel they were not properly informed on. It can take over a year for the justified denial to erode and will in many of these types of abortions.

  28. by SEM

    On August 20, 2011 at 8:48 pm

    Just another step toward genetic engineering.

  29. by Twin2

    On August 20, 2011 at 9:17 pm

    I am a 38 yr old twin. I still feel when my twin is feeling bad, hurt, sad, or otherwise. And we live in two different countries with a ocean inbetween. I think this is a horrible precident to set. I find it one step closer to shopping for babies. I understand not all of these proceedures are for non-medical reasons. I don’t have a problem with medically founded reasons, but it also makes me wonder how long before we choose one set of grandparents to let live over another. Soylent Green anyone. I do think it’s an issue that is declining our countries moral and ethical standing.

  30. by Jen

    On August 20, 2011 at 10:47 pm

    What a bunch of BS. I think this entire story is the product of the writers imagination and everyone who believed it without questioning it is foolish.

  31. by Les

    On August 20, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    I don’t judge any woman who chooses to have an abortion, I personally would not ever have one, but this circumstance does seen a little vain. I understand that there are serious issues to abort babies, but that is not the topic of this article. This article is about those who do want a baby, just not two. I think adoption should always be an option…

  32. by Sarah

    On August 21, 2011 at 1:41 am

    I’m not against abortion at all, I think that it can often be the best decision for everyone involved, but it sort of seems like, if there are no health implications involved, if you are going to have one baby you most as well have two? You would constantly have the non-aborted child around reminding you what the aborted one would look like.

    I also find twins quite magical, and how would you choose which one to abort? And what if the non aborted one found out and was heart broken? What if you accidentally aborted the best one? (joke)

    It seems like a much more complicated situation than aborting one baby. It would be a very hard decision to make.

  33. by M. Fields

    On August 21, 2011 at 5:40 am

    My experience was this: I had a child, and was on welfare. I had just received acceptance into college when I found out I was pregnant. I never thought I would have to make a decision like this – to better my current family’s situation, or just continue on and let things fall where they may. I chose the abortion, for better or for worse, and I can now take care of my family and be a productive member of society. For all you pro-lifers – don’t worry, I go through my own personal hell just about every day; if it had been born, it would be 7 years old this March.

  34. by Lisa

    On August 21, 2011 at 1:54 pm

    I had twins almost 8 years ago and one of my daughters was silently born. I was devastated. How do you have “one twin”? My husband and I were so excited to have our two little girls, not just one, to add to our boy and girl we already had. It still hurts so much to not have Olivia here. Anna is going into second grade on September 1st and I’ll cry knowing that she’s heading to her classroom by herself. I just can’t even imagine willingly aborting a baby. The cruelest thing someone said to me after losing Olivia was my own mother. She said, “well, maybe there would have been something wrong with Olivia”. As if having a disabled child would make me love her any less :(

  35. by Nick Shell

    On August 21, 2011 at 2:12 pm

    Lisa, thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear about what you’ve had to go through. And good point about the phrase, “one twin.”

  36. by Ally

    On August 23, 2011 at 7:23 am

    I am an idential twin – conceived naturally and born healthy. And I am not against abortion – I may like want one myself or like the choices of others – but they are just that – the choices of others.

    HOWEVER, while I can see the desire to reduce risk to mother, mother’s career, her own thoughts of parenting two children and I don’t take offense to the choices for those moms — waiting until the sex of the children is known before aborting… now THAT is ridiculous. That sounds like a bad science fiction movie about picking and choosing your children. Especially if you got twins by invetro and therefore you know almost immediately that you are having twins but you wait to find out the sex first. That just doesn’t sit well with me.

  37. by Ilove Karma

    On August 24, 2011 at 2:57 am

    The Half Abortion is still an Abortion and to try to justify it is disgusting. Any doctor that would end the life of a child simply because “mom” doesnt want more than one has a lot of answering to do when he/she meets their maker…as well as “mom” and any woman who would do such a thing doesnt deserve to be called a mother. This is murder and it is not justifiable no matter what the circumstances….poverty, give it up for adoption, dont want more than one, use birth control until your ready for any…two children will interfere with your education/career…how selfish…another sin….This is infuriating…nobody plays God but God and if he blesses you with twins…you dont take one away…just because….

  38. by K

    On August 24, 2011 at 3:15 am

    Disgusting. Completely disgusting. I went and read the new york times article. I literally felt like throwing up.

    In a lot of the pregnancies it talks about how the doctor just randomly chooses since both babies are healthy and the same sex. Or they pick whichever baby is “easiest to reach”. These are people who have no business having kids in the first place.

    Abortion is murder. Killing one kid because it’s just inconvenient and you only wanted one is worse. And for the lady who said she chose to reduce because she was 45 and not financially secure. Uhm, you’re not financially secure and you fill it is a risk because of your age… but you have spent how much on fertility treatments? and you are still having a baby.

    Most people who are “financially insecure” can’t afford fertility treatments… Sounds like a lame and flimsy excuse to me.

    Why not just wait till the kids are born and then kill one? same thing, right? only difference is they are outside of the body. Then you can see which one you “like” better. You know, take them for a test drive like a car. (That is sarcasm.)

    I hope these people are tormented every day by the fact that they just killed a perfectly healthy baby because they only wanted one and were “inconvenienced” by two… Most people consider getting two when they only tried for one a blessing, by the way.

  39. by Peggy

    On August 24, 2011 at 3:21 am

    @Jen–This blogger is writing based on an article in the NYT. I read the article last week and could not believe the reasons given for the “partial abortions.” According to the article, many doctors refuse to do reductions from twins to singleton pregnancy. The technology has been available for years, and is often offered to mothers who are pregnant with “high order multiples.” It is called pregnancy reduction.

    @ Unbiased–The reasons that are quoted are accurate, as reported in the NYT. The fact that one finds them “trivial” just underscores the ethical and moral issues with the “partial” abortion.

    Personally–call it “partial” if you want–it is still a full abortion of an otherwise healthy fetus/ending a normal twin pregnancy. There were NO reasons given in the NYT article that stated the twin was aborted because of congenital defects or for the health of the mother, but entirely for convenience. Several mothers let the doctor decide which twin to abort so that they would not have that decision on their conscience. The fact that they did not want to make that decision again shows the moral ambiguity of the whole decision.

  40. by Kat

    On August 25, 2011 at 6:09 am

    in my case.. I was offered by the doctor the choice to “selectively reduce” my twin pregnancy as one of my twins was supposedly going to be born with Down’s syndrome. I respectfully declined. Doctor was stunned..why would you burden yourself with a less than perfect child I was asked? I cannot write my response to the doctor here but it wasn’t nice.. And went on to give birth to two beautiful healthy twins. When I asked that same doctor to “tie my tubes” as I was preparing to have the twins, he refused. The twins were #3 and 4 for me so I didn’t want more kids. Apparently I had not signed some form.. So I was offered a selective abortion for a supposedly less than perfect child but when I tried to prevent myself from having the ability to have more children I was refused… go figure

  41. by Nick Shell

    On August 25, 2011 at 6:58 pm

    Thanks for sharing, Kat. I love stories like this!

  42. by Amber

    On August 26, 2011 at 9:54 am

    Honestly, I find it sad that someone wouldn’t want to have twins. I am an only child and growing up I’d pretend i had a twin sister. But at the same time, most of the reasons the mothers had were acceptable. Especially the one about the father in Iraq. Or the one about the financially insecure. Would you, as a parent, rather have 1 child who was very happy, or 2 children who were not as happy?

  43. by Karen

    On August 26, 2011 at 10:35 am

    What distrubs me is none of the reasons had to do with health concerns. I could understand the worry over a risk to you or the child, choosing to give te strongest a better chance. But the other reasons lead you to wonder why they are bothering to have the one child at all. One might be easier, but no child is going to be a walk in the park. If you don’t understand that from the start – maybe you shouldn’t have kids at all.

    Also, I wonder what this does to the child that is born to know their twin wasn’t wanted. If you did decide to do this, I hope you never tell your surviving child.

  44. by Candice

    On August 27, 2011 at 2:49 am

    How does anyone justify abortion, let alone making a “Sophie’s Choice?” My husband and I often debate the ethics of abortion. My opinion is it is never an option under any circumstances save three: 1) the “morning after” pill immediately after sex or rape; 2) serious, dire (or fatal) health risks to the child if born; or 3) the mother will die and she already has young children dependent on her. His opinion is everyone should be free to decide on abortion, no matter the reason – up until the end of the first trimester.

    I love my husband, but I cannot fathom this. I saw our daughter on the sonogram at 10 weeks – tiny, but with fully formed body, head and limbs. Yes, I understand her cerebral cortex is not fully developed. Yes, I understand she is still more akin to a parasite than an independent, self-sustaining creature. But, isn’t that the point of it all??? Our bodies are meant to cultivate life. The womb is not only required biologically, but I firmly believe the emotional and spiritual development of being a mother starts as soon as your body reacts to implantation of the embryo. This act of creation is so precious, so much bigger than one person’s selfish fears or issues in that moment. How can anyone say it is ok to disregard this life coming into being? Completely selfish.

    If an alien race viewed the human race, then I think they would find us senseless and barbaric for conducting abortions. Our society essentially sends the message that women and men can have all the sex they want with no consequences. You can have sex any time you want – it’s your right – and if you get pregnant and do not want the baby, then you can always have an abortion or adopt. This makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever! We reward irresponsible behavior and choices – and further pollute our bodies, planet and culture with negative karma – by allowing the aborting of unwanted children. Senseless and selfish.

    The first response I always get back is, “What about rape? She did not ask to have sex or get pregnant.” Rape scars one for life – I know. It is extremely unfair to burden a woman with the psychological, emotional and physical scars of rape – let alone a baby in her belly. If a woman is raped, then the immediate treatment should be to take a plan B or morning after pill. These pills prevent conception, which, in my opinion, is the best option in a world of bad options. At least there is no implantation at that point nor the start of the mother-fetus bonding. This should be standard part of any medical treatment after a rape. I understand not all women have acess to medical care or know what this pill can do, but for those reasons we should start a campaign to inform these rape victims of their options. Finally, rapists, child molesters or anyone who exploits or abuses anyone should receive the fullest punishment under the law, to include sterilization or even castration. Yes, I said it. Castrate those assholes and they will never be able to rape again. I bet a rapist would think twice before harming another victim if he will lose his penis.

    With all of that said, there is no excuse for irresonsible behavior. Our sons and daughters must be taught to respect each other and the lives they create through reproduction. “It’s her choice,” is a stupid, nonsensical and irresponsible retort that is unacceptable.

    “Oh, but we have too many people in the world as it is. The system is overburdened already.” This, to me, is a short-term, narrow-sighted non-solution to the bigger problem of social irresponsibility. Just as women should not be allowed to have an abortion whenever they want, so should people be screened to have children in the first place. No longer can we say everyone should have a child – we are not trying to populate the planet anymore. I understand this type of screening and control is not entirely possible at this point in time, but it should be the ultimate goal of society to use science, responsible parenting and education to limit the people and number of children allowed. Controversial – yes. Responsible – definitely. Note: this would not be conditioned on financial ability – that of course would create a terrible system whereby the rich once again have it all and the poor have nothing. I do not pretend to have the answer to creating this system, I just know the time has come to take a hard look at how we reproduce in this country. No more irresponsible decisions, 19 children per couple of putting up with abortions. We must educate our youth on responsible reproduction and respect for life and our planet. Period.

    Finally, I am an identical twin and if my mother had aborted my sister, I don’t think I ever would have forgiven her unless it was medically necessary.

  45. by Tressa

    On August 27, 2011 at 9:15 am

    No medical excuses is what bothers me too. I mean in the health and safety of the mother and other twin is one thing. I’m not saying that would cause me do make that decision. I would probably opt to take my chances and attempt to have both twins.

    I had twins while I was living over 1,000 miles away from my family and friends while I was a sophomore in college. I made up my mind that my education was what was going to get my kids and I to a better life and I didn’t allow having them to slow me down. I stayed in school, achieved a 4.0 gpa and went on to become a very successful teacher and mother.

    Making a decision like the ones the mothers in this story are making are purely selfish. Sure kids are hard work but I can honestly say that 12 years after their birth, and LOTS of hard work and sacrifice on my part, I have no regrets.

    I’m not so sure anyone who has had a abortion feels the same.

  46. by Praveena

    On August 29, 2011 at 7:57 am

    Aborting a healthy baby who is fit and eligible to live on this earth is not fair whatsoever the reason be. I’m a twin and I’m so much bonded to my twin sister than anyone else on earth. The bonding of twins takes place right from the womb. It’s a pleasure to be born as twins, to be accompanied by a soulmate right from formation in the womb.

  47. by Nabilah

    On August 30, 2011 at 7:06 am

    I found that all of the ‘excuses’ or ‘reasons’ given were repugnant and/or baseless excuses. I feel fine with judging. It is just plain wrong to do this.

    BTW, I am a twin,my parents spent my entire childhood struggling to support us (and eventually my little sister). Which one of us was disposable? I’m glad I didn’t have to grow up knowing that my mom and dad decided to kill one of us to make life easier for them or the surviving children. Our lives would not have been significantly easier, better or more well provided for if one of us or even two of the children were missing. And our lives would be significantly less if we did not each individual child in our family.

  48. by Rachel

    On August 30, 2011 at 9:07 am

    Beginning with the fertility treatments is slightly playing god to begin with. I find that people who take fertility treatments are usually more accepting of a abortion option.
    When you start fertility treatments your counciled on the risk of multiples in your pregnancy, if this was not acceptable why proceed?
    There are few medical reasons to have an abortion. It is far more likely a woman aborting the child for selfish reasons and not anything to do with their or their childs health.
    I have known atleast 3 women who have used abortion as birth control haveing 2 or 3 abortions each. Just appauling!

  49. by jackie

    On August 30, 2011 at 5:02 pm

    Three women you know have used abortion for birth control? And your statement that it is more likely that women choose reduction for selfish reasons more likely than health reasons is based upon what? Where did all you LW’s come from? Find me the women described in this article – bet you can’t do it. I don’t even think they exist. The writer just blogged about a topic that he thought would get people to comment and did it in such a biased way as to make people who don’t question things think he was talking something that happens all the time. If it happened once, I might believe it, but I highly doubt that any doctor is going to do an abortion for the reasons cited, not to mention several of them.

  50. by Joseph

    On August 31, 2011 at 2:38 am

    The article refers to this as “half an abortion”. This is offensive and an outright lie. It is totally an abortion, period. They are not aborting 1/2 a baby.

  51. by Anne

    On August 31, 2011 at 5:28 am

    This is one of the saddest things that I have ever heard of. If you don’t want to raise twins, then have them both and put one up for adoption.

  52. by Leann

    On August 31, 2011 at 6:10 am

    I’m pro-choice, though I am AGAINST partial birth abortion. The type of abortion described here is sick and perverse!

  53. by Louisiana

    On August 31, 2011 at 7:03 am

    I understand both sides of the issue; a mother not being able to provide for the additional child and the moral side of the matter, but Right or Wrong, its not our place to pass judgement. None of us or angels/Saints and all of us had made choices that may not have been right for everyone, but was right for us, so who are we to say a women should not have this done. God will be the one to pass judment, if he so chooses.

  54. by Nicole

    On August 31, 2011 at 12:03 pm

    When I was young(about 10years ago) and unable to be a good mother I made a very hard choice to terminate a pregnancy. It was hardest thing I have ever done. I do not regret my choice but I do think about it all the time. Now more then ever. I am the proud mother of an almost two year old daughter. She is amazing.That being said, as a mother now I could never make the same choice I made 10 years ago. No matter what the reasoning behind it is. I could never end the excistance of a child that will be just as amazing as my daughter is. I love her and would love any other child i may have as much. I know another child right now may be a bit much, so I am on birth controll. I also know that twins run in both my husbands and my familys. It is something we have thought about. We are willing to take that risk in the future and will love all possible children to come.Just because you want one more does not mean that that is what you will get. Remember this when planning for children.

  55. by Kati

    On September 1, 2011 at 3:35 am

    I am a little confused by the woman who went to all that trouble with IVF only to abort one of the children. I am having trouble wrapping my head around that one.
    I do understand why some people choose to have abortions. I am not saying I condone it or would choose it, but some do have more reasonable excuses than others. This situation, however, does not make sense to me. Yes, twins might be difficult – and a lot of expense all at once – but who said that having children was supposed to be easy in the first place? If I put myself in that situation I do not think I could go through every day wondering what might have been if I had carried both of my babies to term. I would be reminded of my choice every time I looked at my child.
    I cannot imagine the sadness and even guilt of the children that survived if these stories come to light. Those families are surely going to have a difficult time when the other children are made aware of what happened. Also, the fathers were not mentioned in this article. I wonder how many of them feel about these choices.
    I do not have much of an understanding of how abortions are actually performed, but I would assume that the procedure poses a risk to both children and that’s something to consider as well. Medical issues were not mentioned either, but in the event that one twin was healthy and the other was not and this somehow posed a risk to BOTH children I would possibly reconsider the situation.

  56. by Tiffany

    On September 1, 2011 at 9:03 am

    I work at a large local hospital that typically handles high-risk pregnancies. I can’t tell you how many women I work with everyday that have used in vitro or some other fertility treatment to get pregnant, end up pregnant with multiples (usually 2-3), and then choose to “selectively reduce” the pregnancy to 1-2 babies. For you who don’t believe it happens, it happens all the time. As much as it breaks my heart and I struggle to understand it still–why would I work so hard to get pregnant, spending thousands of dollars out of my own pocket only to decide to then “selectively reduce” the number of babies I was carrying–I have yet to work with one of these moms and have her NOT express some kind of regret or at least mixed feelings about having decided to kill one of her own children. I think it hits them after they see the living child/children, and they suddenly realize what they did to the other baby. Very, very sad.

  57. by Nick Shell

    On September 1, 2011 at 6:27 pm

    Tiffany, thank you so much for legitimizing my article. I truly appreciate you taking the time to comment and contribute this valuable information.

  58. by Anne

    On September 1, 2011 at 9:55 pm

    I work in a high-risk ob-gyn office in NYC (not too many bigger cities out there) and I can tell you that the reasons given for reducing multiples in this article would never pass muster with any of the doctors in our office and we treat nothing but these types of cases. The writer took an article about 4 or 5 ridiculous women and made it sound like this type of procedure is done everyday. Tiffany doesn’t say why those women chose to “reduce” but I’m willing to bet it’s because the doctor’s feel that keeping all of the embryos would pose a risk to the mother’s health or the health of the babies. If she wants me to believe that she witnesses reductions for reasons as stated in this article everyday I would say she is lying. Please tell me what hospital you work at so those people who are so adament that this happens “all the time” can actually do something and go protest in front of it. And if it “breaks your heart” so much – why do you stay there? The medical field is in high demand – I’m sure you could find a job someplace where women aren’t killing babies because they don’t want to deal with twins.

  59. by Andy

    On September 3, 2011 at 12:28 am

    All good excuses, but she should have killed the child that was outside the womb, that poses less risk for the mother.

  60. by Erin

    On September 3, 2011 at 1:22 am

    My issue with this is that if the mother is going to carry one baby anyway, why not just carry two of them and then give the one up for adoption. If the excuse is two is too many then have it since she is going through with the pregnancy. It is less dangerous having both babies then scraping out one and possibly aborting both accidentally. I think the surviving twin would also be horrified to know they had a sibling that their mother chose to kill.

  61. by Michele

    On September 3, 2011 at 8:05 am

    Chilling that we have come to this point. It is child sacrifice. It is no different from the evil practice of throwing a baby into a fire to please the gods and have a better life.
    Elective abortion has created a culture where a simple excuse is sufficient reason to end a growing baby’s life, and somehow that’s ok. It’s evil, it’s wrong, and sadly, it will be a painful journey for those who finally realize what they have done.

  62. by Opa

    On September 3, 2011 at 8:33 am

    It’s hard to imagine anyone making the decision to abort a twin. If there was a medical necessity, then the choice would be more reasonable. Having twins is higher risk, but for most manageable. There are always adoption options.

  63. by Anne

    On September 4, 2011 at 1:27 am

    Choice = Just the right sex please; Just when I want ‘it’ please; Just the right egg and sperm please; Just if I feel financially secure, emotionally stable, mentally fit, physically ready please.
    Never mind that life is unpredictable… markets crash, jobs end, hormones rage, mental and emotionally stability vary, relationships change or end, people get sick or die. We live in a culture that tries to make us feel that we are in control of all these things.
    What if that ‘chosen’ twin, the right one, the proper gender, timing, genetics is less than all you had hoped; not ‘perfectly’ designed after all… autistic maybe, has medical challenges later in life, or is just a nasty brat. How bout we choose a post birth abortion? How much pressure is put on a kid that was designed to the parents specifications and for their convenience and pleasure. Is it ok (read pc)to call anything evil anymore?

  64. by Pat

    On September 4, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    I wonder if the surviving twin will someday have to deal with some sort of primal memory and loss.

  65. by bruce

    On September 4, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    Ghastly. This is where ‘pro abortion’ takes you. I want the baby, because it’s a ‘boy’, or because it has ‘blue eyes’, otherwise kill him/her.

    A ghastly and wretched choice.

    If it’s not rape, or the health of the mother, that what is this? By the way, I had kids at 26… and it was hard for years to pay the bills and feed everyone, but now things are better. It’s always hard to have kids… for one reason or another… that’s not a reason to kill someone.


  66. by Jen

    On September 5, 2011 at 11:47 am

    I’m surprised you didn’t list medical complications as a potential reason. There are plenty of healthy normal twins, but also quite a few with life-long problems due to premature birth.

  67. by jlaurel

    On September 5, 2011 at 1:15 pm

    Speechless…utterly speechless

    There are so many facets as to why this is so incomprehensible…

    If you want to know just how many children you’ll be “getting” or a sure-fire way of knowing the sex….ADOPT!

  68. by Nicole

    On September 5, 2011 at 1:30 pm

    Wow, this is tough.
    I do not want to judge anyone for their decisions.
    But my sister and her husband tried unsuccesfully for a baby on their own for years.
    They had to turn to an egg donor after meeting with a fertility specialist.
    They will be on their 3rd try this fall. The first 2 times the embroyos did not make it.
    They are two good Christians who have hearts of gold.
    And to read this article where people can pick and choose terminating a baby. Just makes you feel sad.
    They would have loved those babies.

  69. by Kara

    On September 6, 2011 at 8:08 am

    I’ve never believed in abortion, and this whole concept just reaffirms my beliefs. In this day and age, you do have control over whether you have a child or not, so there’s no need to take such extreme measures. Even in the case of rape, you can take the morning after pill (I know some consider this a form of abortion also). So, there really is no need for abortion.
    Everybody knows the possible consequences of unprotected sex- you can’t blame it on a lack of education. As far as pro-choice goes, the choice that you should be making is- if you don’t choose to have a baby, then you know that you need to protect yourself by using birth control. It is definitely a choice. And for the miniscule number of children conceived due to birth control failure, there are people in this country who wait for years to adopt a baby. There are people who go outside of this country, because the wait is so long. There is no need for talk of unwanted babies. If you don’t want your baby, I guarantee there is someone else who does. 9 months of possible discomfort is not too much to deal with especially since you already made the choice to accept the possibility of a pregnancy. You can still go to work and school with a big belly. People do it all the time.

    And yes, even young teenagers know that pregnancy is not caused by kissing.

  70. by Heidi K

    On September 6, 2011 at 8:52 am

    I am a mother of a two minus one. But this was a natural birth…. That is why this article caught my attention. I knew I was pregnate on day 3, and the father did not believe me. Week three I felt cramping, and lost a clot–the twin and I knew I was still pregnate. I purchased the first response kit. Positively prego. I went to the doctor who confirmed my pregnancy. I sold cars during the winter which caused me to almost give birth at 6 months and 3 cm dialated… I prayed. God granted me my son 2 days early, whew, was I lucky.
    My son acted like a twin until he was 4 years of age. At age 20 now…he has so many friends that will help him out at the drop of a hat. This may be a twin trait. His missing link he makes up for with people. The reason why I know he was actually a twin…after you give birth…the Doctor (Blouw…God rest his soul, as he had delivered over 10 thousand babies since WW11–and even did the football catch, great man!) this Dr told me to push again. I said your joking, I know there is only one in there, he said push and smiled. Out came the placenta. He said push again, this time I was worried, out came a smaller placenta. To this day I wonder if the bigger placenta belonged to the twin, and possibly the smaller to my son, because he was eating from it? Life’s little mysteries. I can go on to this psychic whom I called at a younger age when I was coming to terms of a grandpa passing on. This psychic told me you have a child who is in the universe, he is lost, waiting for you to acknowledge him so he can move on the the omniverse. This really got me thinking about all the stories that you hear with sudden death experiences, even hauntings. I thought this was my son’s fraternal twin…I prayed that night, told this child I did not come to know, that if he was born, I would love him and take care of him just like his brother. Wow, that really sent me for a loop. So the mystery of life, humanity, souls and beliefs, quite possibly we are humans before the 6 weeks gestation that the government believes for a fetus to have rights. We are incredible, and life is not to be taken for granted. This is a bit of a story that you cannot really tell too many. I thought this was my chance on this site, so thankyou for listening! Kudos to all the twins out there because I know that there is a strong bond between live twins, and the ones not here…and it is not spooky, it is a family connection.

  71. by diana

    On September 6, 2011 at 9:09 am

    I would love to hear the Mother try to explain to her child that she killed her twin because she didn’t want two kids at once.

  72. by Jason

    On September 6, 2011 at 9:21 am

    Every fetus is pro life.It’s only some of us that employ illogical thinking and mental gymnastics to rationalize the decision that it’s OK to pick and choose who lives and dies after we are born.

  73. by Nick Shell

    On September 6, 2011 at 7:33 pm

    Thanks for sharing, Heidi.

  74. by Cheryl Freestone

    On September 7, 2011 at 2:59 am

    I found out at 19 weeks that my baby would have spina bifida myelomeningocele, would likely develop hydrocephalus and require multiple surgeries. Three perineonatologists told me that most women wouldn’t go through with this pregnancy. I kept my baby through multiple prenatal hospitalizations and weekly ultrasounds. He was such a beautiful baby and is a the absolute joy of my life. My little angel. He hugs everyone, and has never met a stranger. Do his hospitalizations make life difficult for our son who is three years older. Sometimes, particularly since his older brother is autistic.

    I wish life were easier for my children, but I wouldn’t give up either of them for the world. I cannot judge another woman’s situation, but if they reacted primarily to their doctor’s opinion…well I would have missed out on the joy of my life if I had.

  75. by Nick Shell

    On September 7, 2011 at 7:24 pm

    Cheryl, bless you for sharing this.

  76. by Charlotte

    On September 8, 2011 at 7:52 am

    No, “judging others” is NOT playing God. Taking a life is. And saying killing an unborn child is wrong is no more “judgemental” than saying killing a newborn baby is wrong. “Don’t judge me!” is just a cop-out that people use to justify their poor choices and prevent others from questioning actions that need to be questioned. Every aborted child is not just the mother’s child, but someone’s grandhild, sister, brother, niece, nephew, future spouse, future friend, future neighbor, and future mother or father. The law gives the mother the “choice” to take a human life even though that human being had no choice and neither did anyone else who loved that child. I personally have a dead niece or nephew because a mother “chose” to kill him/her, so this is not just an “ethical dilemma” for me. This is a real child who is really gone forever from my family. And before you ask, yes I would have adopted him/her in a heartbeat and I had a high-risk pregnancy that nearly ended in death to me and my baby who was born 2 months early and spent a month in the NICU so I know all about the medical risks of pregnancy.

  77. by Charlotte

    On September 8, 2011 at 7:58 am

    Cheryl, that’s a beautiful testimony! I have two friends with spina bifida and I think it’s absolutely horrible that so many people would have chosen to abort them just because of their condition. They live full, active lives despite using a wheel chair. Really, of all the health issues a person could have I think spina bifida has among the least impact on over all quality of life. The only reason to abort a spina bifida child is because the mom is afraid to have a child who isn’t “perfect.”

  78. by Bell

    On September 9, 2011 at 8:02 am

    if they had all these excuses as to why they couldn’t carry twins (see above)why even do the AI? selfish and pathetic.

  79. by mary

    On September 10, 2011 at 1:34 am

    It would be nice if the US didn’t look at unborn children as potted plants – to be tossed if the house is a little crowded. And to those who say not to judge until you’re in their shoes – I call BS. I can think of NO reason to kill a child – born or not. That “don’t judge me” statement is just a way to avoid being responsible for trying to explain WHY – since most of the reasons (as were listed in the article above) are completely selfish.

  80. by Liz

    On September 10, 2011 at 10:24 am

    Just another step downwards on the slippery slope of the “Lifeboat” experiment. Who is a productive member of society and who needs to be thrown off the boat cause they’re a burden. In 10-15 years we’ll be deciding these things on which older people should live and which should be euthanized so they’re “put out of their misery.” It unfortunately doesn’t end here…things will continue to progress in a downward spiral once human life isn’t sacred anymore…it’s not worthy of protection.

  81. by greg

    On September 10, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Whatever happened to adoption? This needs to be carefully thought out all around by everyone involved specially the agency operating this. They should be prepared and provide counsel for this ever happens. Instead of killing the baby we had abundant of families going overseas just to adopt a baby. This half abortion is senseless killing…

  82. by razzley

    On September 11, 2011 at 1:40 am

    I see no dilemma since our values are contingent. There are no absolutes. We don’t kill things, not because we flatly “don’t kill things and that’s that”, it’s because we don’t want to cause pain to a person, or emotional trauma, or fear, or hurt the people that depend on them and love them. A fetus can neither think, fear, has no life experience, no outside connections, and can’t feel pain before month five. You can choose whether you want that result to occur or not, and at an early stage, it honestly makes no difference. Seriously, all this abortion melodrama is just emotional manipulation and propaganda.

  83. by Gary

    On September 11, 2011 at 2:29 pm

    “There are no absolutes,” says one writer. How sad, frightening, and untrue (and doubly sad that those holding such views may not realize just how wrong they were until they meet their Maker).

    So why do people have abortions?
    Please note the great majority of abortions are done for convenience, and *not* to save the life of the mother or due to deformed babies. Here are statistics on the top 89% of reasons for abortions:
    21% can’t afford a baby now
    21% are not ready for the responsibility
    16% are concerned how a baby will changer life
    12% have relationship issues/don’t want to be a
    single parent
    11% are too young/immature to have a child
    8% already have all the children they want.
    Source: University of Pennsylvania, “Legalized Abortion and the Homicide of Young
    Children: An Empirical Investigation” located

  84. by Rachel

    On September 11, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    You call this procedure a “half abortion”; do you call what’s left a half-birth?

  85. by Nick Shell

    On September 11, 2011 at 6:42 pm

    Exactly, Rachel. Perhaps I feel the same way and therefore named this article the way I did for a reason…

  86. by Anon

    On September 12, 2011 at 1:56 am

    I really hope this story is made-up, because it’s thoroughly disturbing. I can’t stand mothers who play favorites with their live children, much less their unborn. And those so-called reasons given, complete and utter bs!

  87. by Lisa

    On September 12, 2011 at 4:10 am

    This is just disturbing. When you do fertility treatments, you know multiples are a chance. I think this parent is an unfit parent. What will she do when the child doesn’t want to play the sport she prefers? Or wear the clothes the mom prefers? Seriously. This sounds like some sort of step ford child situation. ” be exactly what I want or I will kill you.” I hope CPS watches her closely.

  88. by Heather

    On September 13, 2011 at 2:14 am

    If you are mature enough to make the decision to use fertiluty treatments to conceive then you are well aware of the chances of multiple embryos implanting. If you are not accepting of ALL risks, complications, etc (including the chance of ending up with more than one child) do not enter into the committment. I am pro-life for myself because I could never go through with an abortion however, as against the procedure as I am, i’m pro-choice for others. I don’t believe its my right to control others & what they choose to do to their bodies. However, I do feel like you should go into this (sex, fertility treatments, etc) with knowledge and should pay the consequences of your actions/decisions reguardless of how mabt children you ebd up with.

  89. by peggy smith

    On September 13, 2011 at 8:20 am

    OMG – Selfish selfish selfish….self-centered, self-serving, stupid….what the heck are these women thinking…..what will these surviving children think of their Moms? You KNOW they will eventually find out what has been done. I pray for those beautiful children and for the twins they lost.

  90. by ChrisFL

    On September 13, 2011 at 8:39 am

    If and when the survivor finds out he/she had a twin, and that he/she was purposely killed out of convenience, what does that do to his/her relationship with his/her parents? What about survivor guilt? I wonder if the parents thought about how this would affect the child they chose to live.

  91. by julz

    On September 13, 2011 at 9:43 am

    I think it is deplorable, and I can’t wrap my head around how a mother could look her child in the face knowing that she murdered her child’s twin. The only way I could be at peace with a decision like that is if the doctors were certain a multiple pregnancy would have a high probability of killing the mother, or losing both babies.

    I had twins, a boy and a girl, and it was very high risk, and hard on me physically, emotionally, and financially…but there is not a day that goes by that I am not proud of them, and feel very blessed to have them.

    Some people are idiots and do not realize what they have. I guess some parents worry more about affording a new car every few years or their salon appointments so they have to murder one of their children.

  92. by Diana

    On September 13, 2011 at 9:48 am

    Can you imagine them explaining this to their child? What is their child going to think when she realizes that her own mother killed her twin and that it could have been her instead? I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Whether a woman has one or eight children at once, it didn’t just happen for no good reason. Each and every one of those children were meant to be born. To play God like that, is very dangerous and disturbing. Hitler played God when he tried to eliminate the Jews. Abortion and race extinction is the same thing–murder. If any type of killing is permitted, what is stopping it to go further? “I decided my daughter was too out of control, she drove me crazy, so I just killed her. She’s my child, I brought her into this world, I can take her out.”

  93. by Gabriella

    On September 13, 2011 at 9:52 am

    I suppose the women who abort have never heard of adoption? If you don’t want a baby, there are plenty of people who can’t have children and would love to adopt.

  94. by Elijah

    On September 13, 2011 at 10:01 am

    “by razzley

    On September 11, 2011 at 1:40 am

    I see no dilemma since our values are contingent. There are no absolutes. We don’t kill things, not because we flatly “don’t kill things and that’s that”, it’s because we don’t want to cause pain to a person, or emotional trauma, or fear, or hurt the people that depend on them and love them. A fetus can neither think, fear, has no life experience, no outside connections, and can’t feel pain before month five. You can choose whether you want that result to occur or not, and at an early stage, it honestly makes no difference. Seriously, all this abortion melodrama is just emotional manipulation and propaganda.”

    Sadly, most abortions are AFTER 5 months to “make sure they get it all” (quoted from Planned Parenthood). If not being able to “feel” pain or think (which has been proven otherwise) is an excuse that makes it okay to kill, then why are there so many women who are scarred emotionally after having an abortion? If that’s the excuse, what’s stopping people from killing others who supposedly can’t “think” or “feel”? Come on, people, wake up to reality. We are not robots–we are alive. We are all individuals who add our own special personality to this world. Like so many others have said, if you don’t want the baby, give it to someone who does!

  95. by Chad

    On September 14, 2011 at 8:51 am

    I disagree with abortion altogether, so I will not even go there, my only question is, what do these selfish “mothers” think that aborting a twin will do to the one they choose to keep? There is an obvious connection that twins have. Almost like telepathy. They can feel things the other feels and so on. My friend, who never even wanted to have kids in the first place, got pregnant with twins and had complications with one. He died before he was 1 yr, but she would never change a thing that happened. He was here, he was given his chance to live. He didn’t have it snuffed out before he could be born by a selfish egg sack.

  96. by Shirley

    On September 14, 2011 at 9:33 am

    I am a twin. My parents already had a 7 year old daughter. They didn’t want another. My twin is male. I am female. If this were possible back in 1957, I would not be here to write this.

    This is shameful. If you’re too old, have too many kids already, etc., use protection or have an operation. If you are using fertility treatments, this comes with the territory. If you don’t want more than one, don’t have any this way. Or have the children and give one up for adoption. Give your child to someone who actually wants it.

  97. by M. Wat

    On September 14, 2011 at 11:41 am

    These women who have “half abortions” are fooling themselves, selfish, and should not have started the pregnancy in the first place. If you want children and use invitro, it should be done with thought (don’t become an ‘octomon’) and the children produce should all be born and accepted.

  98. by Nan

    On September 18, 2011 at 6:39 pm

    This article is so sad. How can anyone kill one and be devoted to the other. My husband and I were never able to have children and it almost destroyed our marriage. Thankfully after 28 years together we are now working on our 4th adoption. All of our children have special needs,two with Autism and we honestly couldn’t be more blessed.People should be weary of abortion,it’s called a conscience.Just because the government makes it legal it doesn’t make it right.We too could have gone the invitro route but believed there was a reason beyond ourselves for our infertility.Bottom line,we are all dealt difficult hands sometime in our lives and really only faith and hope see us through.

  99. by Cathy

    On September 18, 2011 at 11:22 pm

    This is just SICK!

  100. by Valeria

    On September 19, 2011 at 12:33 am

    I had my first abortion at 18, my second at 19, my third and fourth at 22, and my fifth at 23. I now have one beautiful daughter, and we are both very happy with our lives, and my boyfriend and I are very grateful that we have the resources to raise her properly. I can’t imagine what live would be like with 6-7 kids right now. Unbearable for all of us, I’m sure.

  101. by Henry

    On September 19, 2011 at 1:48 am

    Maybe it is because i am a guy. But I don’t understand why many find it easier to abort an unwanted child rather than give it up for adoption. Especially in this case where they are going to proceed with a pregnancy anyway. To me it seems that knowing the child was alive and well in the world would be easier than dealing with the fact a choice had been made to terminate it’s life.

  102. by Eva

    On September 19, 2011 at 11:35 am

    I agree this is highly disturbing. It is another symptom of a selfish society. It breaks my heart. I read about an 8 month abortion in China where the woman felt the child struggling inside until all movement stopped and it haunted me for days and still now when I think of it. But this is worse actually because people are not forced in any way. Although, I would have lost my house before I let that full term baby die. My son was born at 8 months. Judgement time will come though for all of these people. Please stop valuing materials over people.

  103. by Eva

    On September 19, 2011 at 11:39 am

    In response to some other recent posts:
    Instead of abortion, please consider contraception or adoption (thanks Henry!). I am from a family of seven children and it was not unbearable for anyone.

  104. by Brad

    On September 19, 2011 at 3:56 pm

    If a woman has an abortion for any other reason than she could die from the birth or was molested or raped, she is a selfish individual. If you can’t bear the responsibility of being a mother to twins, then you don’t deserve the right to be a mother to just 1 of them. Choosing which child to abort is unethical and disturbing. What’s going to happen when the one you let live finds out that they should have had a brother or sister. Do they really think that is going to go over very well. Probably not.

  105. by Misti

    On September 21, 2011 at 7:49 am

    Wow. Having had fertility problems, I just cannot imagine. There is a risk of multiples with treatments. You shouldn’t go through with them if you are not ready to accept the responsibility of that. We’re not talking 8 kids, we are talking ONE more. Those women should be ashamed.

  106. by kim

    On September 23, 2011 at 9:09 am

    i used IVF and let me tell you it is not CONSUMERISH..i am greatly offended that she felt it was ok since god did not place her babies in!!! they told us during my ivf that if i got pregnant with more than 2 that they would have to do a selective abortion i said i don’t think so..if my body can handle it then we will not decide to murder a child that “GOD” did let me create…so from what this mother says does she believe her child is less than other children conceived me it sounds like she is cold towards the child anyway since it was a donor egg…maybe she should have had none…this is terrible..just terrible and to choose over sex..i hope these kids find out they were twins or more and let their parents know exactly what they think of them ripping their brother or sister from their arms while in the womb

  107. by C.Ryan

    On September 25, 2011 at 11:24 pm

    To everyone saying that infertile couples would love to have these “aborted” babies… There are already far too many humans on this planet, and as a species we should be trying to reign in our reproductive tendencies. Besides, there are thousands of children already in foster care who can be adopted. But they will not be adopted because they are not infants.

  108. by Amanda

    On September 26, 2011 at 11:36 am

    I am the mother of 3 year old twins. I am also Aunt to 2 sets of twins, each belonging to one of my older sisters. Needless to say I have a lot of experience with the connection between twins. I cannot imagine what a child who had been a twin but who’s parents decided to terminate their siblings life would experience emotionally, even if never told of their other half. A lifetime of feeling like something was missing, something wasn’t right…. Not fair. People who are trying to get pregnant (especially women who are at a higher risk of multiples) need to be prepared for more than one baby. If you aren’t, then don’t get pregnant.

    Yes, twins are a lot of work. Yes, it is more expense. But really in the long run? It’s an experience that is immensely rewarding. And double the love. I think anyone who chooses to undergo this kind of procedure for selfish reasons is just that – selfish. They probably shouldn’t be having any more children if they are able to discard one so easily.

  109. by karen

    On September 27, 2011 at 10:16 am

    My husband and I tried to have a second child for 9 years. We already had a beautiful daughter and wanted her to have siblings to grow up with. My own Mother passed away when I was 19 leaving behind 4 children. My siblings were everything to me. We finally were able to conceive through fertility drugs and artificial insemination and to our delight we were adding twin boys to the family. I believe that all children are miracles. Some people go through all types of infertility treatment and still end up with empty arms. We prayed over every shot that I took before it was administered as we believe that God is still the giver of life. I cannot imagine chosing to let one live over the other. I do not believe in abortion for myself but God is the judge; not me. My twin boys are such joys. I am a very small woman and carrying twins was not easy on my 4’11 frame. They came 10 weeks early We depended greatly on prayer to carry us through the 5 weeks of ups and downs in the NICU. They will be 10 years old this year and are perfectly healthy with no problems with their prematurity. None of us can imagine life without are beautiful boys!

  110. by Carla

    On September 29, 2011 at 2:17 pm

    As a twin mom myself, I feel sadden by hearing stories of “half abortions.” True, having twins is hard; it might take you 20 minutes to get out of the house whereas it would take a mom of a singleton only 10 minutes. Yes, it is more expensive to have twins, but the argument that they are twice as expensive or that keeping the sibling would tip the financial scale to one of overburden or poverty is not true. My husband and I both work and we are by no means rich. We are just your average family where both spouses need to work in order to pay the mortgage, the bills and daycare, but you just need to adjust. You don’t need to buy two of everything. Teaching them to share early on is good for them. Be wise and buy second-hand items from Craigslist or second hand shops. Kids outgrow these things so fast (ie. clothes, shoes, toys, etc…). I can’t compare how it is to mother twins vs mothering a singleton, because all I know are twins. I have fraternal twin boys who will be 2 in October and although I knew the risks with having twins, I never for a moment thought of aborting one of them. Lucky for me, I had a healthy pregnancy, only problem was gestational diabetes and I was able to carry them to term although I am a petite woman (5’4 113 Ibs pre-pregnancy). If I had to do it over, I’d say don’t worry too much about the risks of having twins, trust in your Dr, because they do an amazing job and constantly are monitoring you, especially when you are having multiples.

  111. by C

    On October 1, 2011 at 9:54 am

    Wow. Seriously? I know the chances of both embryos implanting are low, but if you seriously only want one baby when you’re doing ART, ONLY TRANSFER ONE EMBRYO. Why is that hard? I know that multiples pregnancies are higher risk, but you have that choice when you’re doing ART.

    You are choosing which one of your children lives or dies. And won’t you one day when the baby is 3 and throwing a temper tantrum wonder “I wonder if the other twin would have been this difficult?”

  112. by Julie

    On October 3, 2011 at 12:31 pm

    As a mom of twins, I can’t express my horror of this. Who would I choose? Billy or Mike? Billy is smarter, but Mike has such a warm personality. Mike is taller and got that athletic scholarship, but Billy’s music brings so much joy to many people! The time when the boys were four, and Billy gave me that little puppy paperweight, it broke my heart over his love for me, but when Mike drew me that picture of us in second grade, I felt like I’d never loved him more.

    Hmmmm, let’s see–which one should I keep, and which one should I kill? It’s only because I’m such a good mother that I want to get rid of one–so I can keep being such a good mother.

  113. by Elle

    On October 7, 2011 at 7:23 pm

    @ C.Ryan (9/25)

    Actually, you’re incorrect. There are not “thousands of children already in foster care who can be adopted. But they will not be adopted because they are not infants” – the vast majority of children in the foster care system are un-adoptable because the final goal of the foster care system is reunification with the biological parent/s. A child in the foster system can only be adopted if the biological parent/s relinquish their parental rights, or the courts rule that to be so. I work in the field and have done plenty of those cases where a couple has established a relationship with a child in the foster system and is ready and willing to adopt that child – the only thing standing in the way of that adoption is the biological parents’ refusal to relinquish their parental rights.

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  115. by Audrey

    On October 27, 2011 at 1:39 pm

    It’s just really sad that our society has allowed this. There is no way around the fact that “terminating a pregnancy” means that you are choosing to end the life of your child. You can sugarcoat it all you want so the decision seems easier or justified, but it does not change the nature of this immoral act.

  116. by Tonya

    On October 27, 2011 at 1:41 pm

    what if this parent lost their child – sickness or accident, and do they tell the child they were a twin and mommy killed your brother/sister before he/she was born = this is in so many ways wrong and you should not get pregnant at all. It is a blessing and a miracle to have a child, God will provide for you in your times of need… you tell him that you can handle it yourself and do not need him, never call on him when in need than.

  117. by asdfnhjk

    On November 1, 2011 at 11:34 pm

    I think what is so messed up about this, it that the women are ready and willing to have children, but don’t want the trouble of two, so they kill one of them.

    Whether you are for or against abortion, I can see little argument that there is a fundamental difference between a “half abortion,” and an abortion done due the mother not being in a position to be able take care of a child at that point in her life.

  118. by Deb

    On November 2, 2011 at 1:50 pm

    There’s obviously a lot of opinions posted in the comment area. I can’t believe that’s even possible to abort one and keep the other. This eventually causes psychological problems with the mother, because women naturally tend to nurture their loved ones, whether its a child, lover, parent, or friend. One day your twin does something wrong you think to yourself, I wonder if my aborted child would’ve been nicer or sweeter. The mother unintentionally compares, in her heart, without trying, her child to her dead child. So I’m not sure why half abortions are permitted. Its amazing how a person who chooses to fill their lungs with smoke, isn’t allowed to smoke in peace, but a person KILLING, yes killing, we can’t mask it anymore than society already does, a creature isn’t wrong. Why are some things ok and some aren’t ok? I’m not trying to judge, I do believe that you can only understand if you’re in a person’s shoes, but I don’t see doctors saying that things like this will cause psychological damage. That’s why there’s so many depressed women and they don’t know why. Sorry, but I just had to let it out.

  119. by Momof2

    On November 2, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    I had an unplaned pregnancy when I was 17. My parents forced me to have an abortion. I’ve never been able to forgive myself for this and live with the pain of the child I lost. I now have a beautiful son whom I love with all my heart. Having been through the experience, I can’t imagine looking at one baby from a pregnancy and knowing there should be two. To me that’s incredibly heartles. Every child is a gift. And if you don’t want that particular gift there are ways to prevent pregnancy or people who want the child. This is just a heartbreaking story.

  120. by Nick Shell

    On November 2, 2011 at 6:56 pm

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  121. by arameth

    On November 6, 2011 at 1:01 am

    Regardless of popular opinion, the choice should be left up to the individual woman. Abortion is not new it is certainly more humane than exposure.

    Which was a common after birth practice of our ancestors. Aborting a child is also much better than having a child you don’t want and will abuse or neglect.

    Simply put the first criteria for having a child should be the parents desire to do so; as should their choice to keep it.

  122. by Megan

    On November 26, 2011 at 8:48 am

    Do you think the mothers are ultimately happy with the decision in the end? I would be one that would constantly wonder what the other twin would have looked like. They also say that twins have crazy bonds, who are we to know that they don’t start in the womb, and at how early they are spiritually connected…what if the kept twin lives their lives with not knowing why they feel like they are missing a part of themselves? I couldn’t do it because of all the questions that would come up to me later in the kept child’s life. If people are truly able to believe that at the point they abort it is not a child then I guess they wouldn’t have those questions and would basically be able to live fairly well with the decision.

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  124. by George Hilbert

    On December 12, 2011 at 12:00 am

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  125. by Natalia

    On December 12, 2011 at 7:15 am

    Wow. I’m a highschool student and I find 80% of these comments to be really harsh.

    Disgusting? Heartless? Really? I’m 16 and I know not to judge a person for his or her actions.

    I’m more mature than 80% of you.

    You’re not in their shoes, so stop judging them as if you were them. You’re all mothers, correct? Well then, why can’t you support other women even if you don’t agree with it.

    Honestly, if I were to ever have twins, I would abort one IF I felt that I should.

    Oh how dare I! I deserve to be locked up because I’m a heartless woman!

    Those are difficult decsions to make, your harsh views only make it harder for them.

  126. by Valerie Cuneo

    On December 12, 2011 at 10:36 am

    I am too poor, I am too busy, I already have a boy, This was not my choice!! You had a choice. KEEP YOUR LEGS SHUT!! Killing these babies is not your choice. Have these babies and ask God for his help. He will not give you more than you can handle. Join a church and let the congregation know off your hardships and they will provide for you. Killing babies is not the answer. America is getting so lazy and useless. It makes me sick.

  127. by Jennifer

    On December 12, 2011 at 9:12 pm

    This complete respect of life just blows my mind! How can these women live with themselves and sleep at night knowing they choose to end the life of one of their babies all because it was inconvenient to have twins! It makes me sick! There is a special place in Hell for these women….

  128. by Delia

    On December 16, 2011 at 11:50 am

    My cousin was uing fertility drugs when she became pregnant with five. Due to some medical reasons beyond the multiple pregnancy, the doctor advised her to abort at least three of the babies. These are the situations that I struggle with. I am pro-life, but if she had carried the babies and lost them all, or worse lost her own life she would have left behind 2 young children. How can you sit and judge someone for making the decision to only carry twins in this case? Which is better? five, possibly six deaths or three? These are the grey areas. I am not for using abortion as a birth control method, but I can’t say what I would or wouldn’t do if the doctor told me that there was a 90% chance that I would be leaving my husband and son behind if I chose to follow through with the pregnancy.

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  130. by 1=2

    On December 28, 2011 at 11:30 pm

    I read the NYT article and others like it while preparing for our second donor egg IVF cycle (the first resulted in a son
    just over 4 years ago). While I have very little issue with the featured families and their choices, what I kept reading was regret at even transferring more than one embryo. Since my family was extremely uncomfortable with the notion of a twin pregnancy and twin offspring, we transferred ONE embryo. Early ultrasound indicated that the embryo had split into 2–identical twins. I was devastated. The only thing that gave me hope was the promise that I could abort one. Unfortunately, I later learned that twins sharing a placenta, a potentially very risky pregnancy, could not be “partially” aborted. I realize so many of you think this is a blessing. I assure you, that it is NOT, for my family. Now we are facing a difficult choice of terminating both, or waiting to see if, and when, we have to make additional difficult decisions.

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  132. by kate

    On March 12, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    I am a journalist and I write for a national women’s weekly magazine in the UK. I am really interested in speaking to someone who has been through selective reduction in order to reach out to other women who may not be aware of it and may have a similar dilemma…I look forward to hearing from you. There is a generous fee for participation.


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  133. by twin mom

    On March 12, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    As a mother of a five year old girl and 10 month old twin girls, I am sickened at this “trend.” Yes, I was initially shocked and am often challenged…I am always blessed!

  134. by ashley

    On March 18, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    This is disgusting. I am a mother of twins. I can not imagibe looking at an ultra sound and choosing wheter to keep baby a or baby b. Sick and heartless. My boys are such a blessing

  135. by CLL

    On March 23, 2012 at 8:40 pm

    Sad….one word….Selfish.

  136. by Christy

    On March 25, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    “The mother already had a son. Then she got pregnant with twins; a boy and a girl. She chose to keep the girl”
    How is that an excuse? Its not. If it was your choice to do fertility treatments than you should have excepted that your most likely going to have more than one kid. And if you natural were going to have twins, thats a blessing! I’m not going to say im completely agianst abortion (in the way of making it illegal), it is a womans choice and i respect that, but am personally very apposed to it. How could you choose which child to let live, and which to die? And I’m sorry but “making a decision about how many to carry seemed to be just another choice”! I just came home from a church service, we had Todd Burpo, author of Heaven Is For Real speak to us, so mabey im being overly emotional right now. But some people CANT have children or lost children they were so happy for and you just throw one away like its nothing! At least those babies get to be with God in heaven instead of being with a family who didn’t want them.

  137. by Christy

    On March 25, 2012 at 10:45 pm

    I understand if this was for a medical reason, but if it was just for financial or own personal selfish reasons, well than thats just sad. Put the child up for adoption or get help to keep him/her. Abortion in itself i would expect to be emotionaly straining, if your going to go through that hurt why not keep the child to term and then know that they are alive and will hopefully find a nice new home.

  138. by Lori Kee

    On April 2, 2012 at 12:27 pm

    I am saddened by this article. I am completely against abortion for ANY reason. I am a huge supporter of adoption and feel that that is the ultimate solution for unwanted pregnancies. Abortion in America has become a holocaust of the unborn. We murder babies be because we feel they have no rights as humans, just as Hitler murdered the Jews. It’s sickening and so sad for all those involved.

    A popular excuse I hear is that women want to abort before they get attached. If you are already planning on going through the pregnancy, why not give the unwanted baby up for adoption? The thought process of these selfish mothers is inconceivable to me. The scars this will leave on them and their surviving children will last a lifetime.

  139. by jstwatch

    On May 8, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    I just dont understand. How can you say you felt financially insecure yet you could afford to do infertility treatment, obviously your chances for multiples would increase and instead of killing your child’s sibling, the least you could have done was give that child up for adoption. The child you chose to keep will always know deep down that someone is missing from his life even if you choose not to tell him.

  140. by sabby

    On May 9, 2012 at 11:11 pm

    personally abortion is a grey area in general.. but a half abortion is just completely wrong.. idk how people can just do that, do they think about whats gonna happen when they are older and have to explain that they were a twin but they aborted the other? or lie? how could any parent look their child in the face and live with knowing they got rid of that childs other half.. someone who was potentially that childs best friend. none of those people did it over medical problems.. financial problems? really every pregnancy comes with a chance of having more then 1 child any parent would be ready for that single or not, there are places and people to help. a half abortion doesnt only effect the parents life but not effects their child(ren)s life/lives also.

  141. by MSm

    On May 13, 2012 at 1:53 am

    Ethically it’s wrong to murder for convenience. Self defense can’t really be claimed as its a baby and all other self centered reasons seem like a the person shouldn’t have any kids never mind twins.I think in the case of Octomom maybe this may have been a plausible option (see her quip about her babies disgust her!~!!))

    My 1st born was a twin and we didn’t know until we miscarried the twin in a hit & run accident and had a full term with just one. He is often lonely and says he feels like something’s missing from him sometimes. He isn’t fully aware that he was a twin as we chose not to disclose until he is older but he seems to just know anyhow. Something to think about for people who want that much control over a person. Parenthood isn’t about your dominating someone else’s life..It’s about being strong and loving it’s about raising pieces of the future…waves at sea and ripples in the pond you see?

  142. by Kathy

    On May 14, 2012 at 8:12 pm

    I got pregnant at 39 with triplets. No IVF, just naturally, and we already had a 4 year old daughter. We’re not rich, either. It was a big surprise.

    My Dad (a physician educated in the 40s) called his classmate who taught obstetrics in Michigan, and they agreed I had to “reduce” two babies. He actually made the appointment and drove up to the house in his station wagon, and argued with my husband that I had to do this.

    Sorry, Dad.

    There were medical complications so I ended up with 11 weeks of hospital bed rest. One of the interns wanted to do a c-section and get them out right away. There was twin-to-twin transfer, and one twin was small. That would have left me with all three kids severely premature, with all the problems that entails. Or…I could reduce one (the small one).

    My husband & I thought it over. If we went full term, his two brothers could care for him after we were dead. If we pulled all of them out early, how could we maim all three? And, how can you kill anyone?

    The pregnancy went pretty well after that. We prayed a lot. I improved & was sent home. We had a c-section at 37 weeks.

    My 12 year old identical triplet boys are all healthy. They are a blessing…musical, mechanically gifted, talkative, hockey players. They are wonderful, and none of us can imagine not having them in the family.

    My Dad can’t talk about the day he came around with the station wagon. He loves them all.

  143. by Nick Shell

    On May 14, 2012 at 8:38 pm

    Kathy, that’s awesome. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

  144. by Heidi

    On May 22, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    The logic that if a baby is a result of fertility treatments that s/he is somehow “artificial” is just ludicrous. I have 3 children (singletons) all conceived with some help from fertility treatments, but they are precious children of God just the same. Each time I got pregnant I was elated and grateful to God, and I would have been happy to have twins if it had been in the cards for me. How can you choose to kill one of your children?! I could not pick one of my children as the superfluous one and kill them now, so how could I have done so when they were even closer to me, growing inside my own body? It is inconceivable to me (no pun intended!) I have an easier time understanding the motivations a woman may have to abort a child because she simply cannot care for it or does not want a child, but the idea of keeping one child and killing off another is truly horrifying to me.

  145. by Patty

    On May 23, 2012 at 9:44 am

    As a mother of twins (conceived naturally) I can not even fathom making the choice to terminate on of my children. When you decide to become a parent you make the decision to put someone elses life before your own. The mothers – and fathers – making the decision to terminate one of the babies is beyond selfish. Yes, raising twins has been hard, but i can’t imagin my life with out one of them. They are such a big part of each other and its been documented that they can sense each other in the womb so on some level they know there is something missing. If God blessed you with multiples then regardless of your current circumstance he will make a way for you to provide, care, love, and handle them.

  146. by Emily

    On May 31, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    I believe that women have a right to choose. However, I think when you make a decision to try to get pregnant, you are making a commitment to that unborn child (or children). Whether that child is actually a quadruplet, a girl when you wanted a boy, a child with a disability… You know the possibilities when you decide to get pregnant, you don’t get to hand pick what you get. I do believe in the right to choose, but morally I find it difficult, especially in a situation like this.

  147. by mal

    On July 5, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    I think if the mother-to-be is in jeoparady health wise if having twins, then maybe this two minus one concept could be a little bit more acceptable. BUT – for the reasons listed above to try and justify this, it just doesn’t. Doesn’t want to put job or education at risk? Already has enough kids? Has kids from previous marriage so two more would make it COMPLICATED? Try saying to surviving twin ” Yea we aborted what could have been your brother or sister because two of you would have made things more COMPLICATED” That’s horrible. If you’re planning on having kids, then the key word is PLAN. Plan for ANYTHING. This is selfish to me. I don’t like to judge people especially if I havn’t been in their shoes but I got pregnant unplanned and had to face the issue of abort or not with just one child. I couldn’t do it. I’m keeping my child because it’s a blessing. And if I were having twins I’d go through and later put them up for adoption. Choosing just one, is just wrong.

  148. by Jessy

    On July 10, 2012 at 12:59 am

    I have long been pro choice, mainly because I don’t believe that the gov should make laws concerning abortions; however personally I could never do it. I am 18 weeks pregnant and from the instant I found out I started making a connect with my unborn baby, and it was the same with my first son.

    What gets me about this situation of the half abortion is the idea of only wanting one baby for what it seems in most instances convince. Typically when a women chooses abortion she feels that she can’t be a mother, but with this it’s almost like I can only be a mother to one baby. I can appreciate the stress of having multiples (my sister had twins) but isn’t it always stressful when adding additions? Then how would u chooses? The one on the left I’ll keep but not the other? As for choosing by gender; I think is unethical as I do not and never will support abortion after the first trimester (maybe up till around 15 weeks) as the fetus is quickly growing into a baby and is no longer a “mass of cells”.

    I suppose that women who make this choice have their reasons and it should remain a choice, but it’s a sad choice.

  149. by Amanda

    On July 26, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    Wow, think about having that conversation with your child when they’re older. “You had a twin sweetie, but I chose kill them.”
    My husband and I just decided we’d try for our second and final child, but the last several months I’ve been ovulating twice. We’re worried about twins because I have an auto-immune disease and having multiple infants would be too strenuous without help. But if we do end up with twins, we could never choose to have just one, even with a justifiable reason.

  150. by Julie

    On July 30, 2012 at 1:41 am

    This is just sick, sick, sick….it’s murder by selection. What are we reducing ourselves too????

  151. by Tina

    On August 1, 2012 at 2:29 pm

    Interesting response from the mother who discusses natural order.. If that was the case then if she couldn’t have children naturally then maybe and in the natural things of order she shouldn’t be a parent. It’s evident by her decision. This is really horrible.

  152. by Liz

    On August 3, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    I gave birth to quadruplets one month ago today (I had taken Clomid at the lowest dosage for one month). When I found out there were four, the doctor mentioned the choice of “reduction”, for the health of the babies as well as myself. He said with four it was “borderline” but if there had been 5 he would have strongly recommended it. I chose to keep them all and they were born at 26 weeks, and will spend at least a couple more months in the NICU, if all continues to go well. If I had reduced, I probably would have been able to carry them for longer, which might have been better for their long-term health. Did I make the right choice?

    Also, I am in a situation to handle this — my employer is understanding, my health insurance is good, my husband and I are financially secure, my family is supportive — but I would not think poorly of anyone who was unable to say the same, and admitted it. This has been much more trying than a singleton pregnancy (weeks of bedrest, hospitalization, etc were necessary). I expect the experience of being a mother to be similarly complicated, when they (eventually) come home.

    Incidentally I found out at 9 weeks, and was told I had until roughly 15 weeks to decide (which is WELL before I knew gender or any such thing).

  153. by Meghan

    On August 4, 2012 at 11:36 am

    Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Remember “Octomom”? She chose to carry all 8 of her babies to term and was absolutely demonized by the media and public opinion. She has recently reappeared in the public spotlight because she can’t handle the financial burden of her large family and has faced nothing but more scrutiny and outrage from all around. So my question to all of you who have responded with such horror to this article is, did you cast your stone against Octomom when she was in the news? Do you support her now? Do you think she should receive public assistance? I didn’t think so.

  154. by Rebecca

    On August 8, 2012 at 1:04 pm

    OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! REALLY!!!!!!!! How is this legal if there is no underlying medical risk!!!!! Makes me sick!!!!!!!

  155. by Jessica

    On August 8, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    It’s hardly murder if it’s done early on. Unless you think that every time a man masturbates or a woman has a period it’s murder.

    Morally, or ethically, I think it’s an acceptable decision to make.

    It’s responsible to not have 6 kids if you know you can only afford 4.

    And anyway, 50% of all pregnancies abort before the woman knows she’s pregnant, and another 15-20% abort after that.

    Not every fertilized egg needs to turn into some bible-thumping internet commenter, we have plenty of those already.

  156. by nikki

    On August 10, 2012 at 4:18 am

    I think that people forget that we are talking about a baby a sweet little baby. I thought that as an adult you took resposibility for yourself and you deal with the outcome of your action.

  157. by therese

    On August 10, 2012 at 11:50 am

    This is so disturbing! I cannot even get my chin off the ground!

  158. by Emily

    On August 11, 2012 at 9:21 am

    It is interesting to me that abortion is a “feminist” topic (thus based on equal rights of the sexes) but some of these women are discriminating based on sex. I think that’s the root of the issue, this is not a pro-life/pro-choice debate but rather a question of discrimination. And the fact that that discrimination — lethal at that — falls on a completely innocent baby. I can understand why so many are incensed. I could never abort, I do believe it’s murder. But to stack murder on top of discrimination…that seems terribly unfair.

  159. by Kristina

    On August 11, 2012 at 9:24 pm

    For every choice that you make there is always a consequence whether good or bad. If you choose to have a child or to have sex you take a risk you make a choice. So if you get pregnant you keep the child or give them up for adopiton. My husband is adopted and his mother was going to have and abortion b/c she was a college student but she did not. I am married to the best man in the world and have three amazing daughters. Also Mozart he was supposed to be aborted but he was not look at what he contributed to society. The point is that its not your right to kill an innocent human being and yes they are alive and human from conception(sperm meets egg). If you don’t believe me look it up. Life is amazing and to abort is murder period. There are plenty of other options and if it is fertility treatments when you consent to do them you are agreeing to the risks of multiple children, so if you dont want them dont take the treatment.

  160. by Katia

    On August 12, 2012 at 8:01 am

    This story reminds me of chicken farming. In particular, picking chicks at Eastertime for raising for various types of poultry production. For those wanting eggs, it is common practice among buyers to wring the necks of unwanted males if they are mistakenly put into an order for hen chicks. When reviewing the various “reasons” given by women of half abortions, they all follow the same reasoning put forth as the poultry farmers, except that the decision is based not only on sex but on time, job commitment, etc.
    I regret to be reminded that having children has been debased by some to imitate that of Specifically, the children in question have as much right to live as a simple farm animal. In my opinion, if a woman chooses to participate with in vitro inception, she has to be aware that such procedures do often result in multiple fertilization. Decisions about the fate of multiple births should be made before proceeding with in vitro fertilization. In my opinion, if any woman is considering in vitro fertilization, she should consider all the listed reasons for half abortions and reflect if any of the reasons might remotely pertain to her now or in the future. If so–in vitro fertilization is not the procedure for her. Unless one is a genius, parenting will, at times, be difficult. There are so many men women who would willingly adopt an unwanted baby. The abortion decision carries so much suffering and loss for the ones who die, for the ones who never got the chance to love a baby of their own, for the siblings who didn’t get that brother and sister, etc. I bet the government wouldn’t mind having the additional taxpayers and productive workers. Could that aborted child been the one to change the world in some absolutely positive, magnificant way? Do we have the right to do that to one another and to our country? In my mind, all the reasons listed for having a half abortion center around the issue of convenience. Have these women remembered that all children are inconvenient at some time or another? Should their lives terminated for the reason of convenience? Or should we just look at having children as no more significant than choosing a baby chick at Easter time? In the long run, women who choose half, partial or full abortion should not have children anyway, because, if they have children or significant relationships, all will be given the same treatment in one way or another. In my mind, that is not the way to perpetuate a people who have the Declaration of Independence as one of their founding documents–”all men are created equal…and all mem have to the right to pursue life, liberty and happiness…” (paraphrased). What have we, as a nation, become? What have we, as a nation, allowed? American is already known around the world as a nation of “disposability.” Producers of goods know that they can make products shipped to America with lower quality because they know that America will just throw the product away or get rid of it when the product is no longer useful and replace it, just as long as the product doesn’t cost too much. Just look at the difference in quality of car models sold in America and compare it with the quality of the same models sold in Belgium. In that light, it is usual for Americans to do the same to their unborn children. Have people forgot that there are far reaching consequences to everything that we do? In the long run, the price that these mothers and those affected by their decision will be very high, very costly, very painful and totally unnecessary. If a woman has a desire for something more in her life and she doesn’t want to take the responsibility it takes to raise a child; she should just go out and buy an expensive purse and be done with the need for a “fix.”

  161. by Ann

    On August 12, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    The surviving twin will almost certainly grow up to hate and distrust the woman who birthed them. After all they are living with the murderer of their twin.I cannot imagine the emotional pain these children will go through once they find out the truth of their beginning.
    This is the ultimate in selfish, self centered behaviour…incrediable that this can even be allowed!!!

  162. by Autumn

    On August 13, 2012 at 6:12 am

    I hope all of you realize this has been going on for decades in China. People find out the sex of their babies and usually abort if it’s a girl that can’t take care of them in old age. This is so much more common. Now China faces a crisis of not enough girls to propogate the population thanks to the one child rule and the lack of girls.

    I would not villianize or judge someone else’s choices until you walk a mile in their shoes. It’s easy to judge when you are on the outside looking in.

    I lost my twins at 4 months and it hurts. But you have to stop judging people I get sick of reading responses by people who don’t have the whole story. I don’t believe in abortion for me but others who choose this, that’s their given right.

  163. by Ashley

    On August 13, 2012 at 12:34 pm

    I am against abortion; however, I do understand it if it has to do with medical reasons. I am not a twin but I do have an older brother who is 15 months older than me. My mom found out not long after having him that she was pregnant with her 3rd child. I am just like her. I believe each pregnancy/birth is a gift from God. I am 20 yrs old and pregnant with my first child. Such a wonderful blessing. Twins run in my family, in my opinion 2 would be even better. Such an unbreakable bond. My brother and I are very close, compared to me and my oldest brother who is 6 yrs older than me.

  164. by Sarah

    On August 13, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    This article solidified my decision to stop reading Parents Magazine. Firstly, a woman’s reproductive right is just that–a right. Whether or not you disagree with her decision is irrelevant, as it is protected by law. Secondly, you cannot begin to understand the struggles these women face, not only with [in some cases] the inability to conceive, only to find out they’re having more than one child [which in itself is an enormous responsibility], and then finally the incredibly difficult decision to terminate one of the embryos. For you to be associated with a very successful and popular magazine and spew your judgments so openly is really quite disgusting, in my opinion. But, you know, to each his or her own. You’re absolutely allowed to your views on abortion.


    That little disclaimer at the bottom? That’s what really got me miffed. Here is my interpretation of the article:
    “Half-abortion, hm? Don’t you mean the proper medical term, ‘selective reduction’? I see. You’re trying to incite some anger in pro-lifers. I get it now. Oh, and there’s a photo of a baby. Very relevant to the article’s point [sarcasm, of course]. Judge, judge, judge, citing a quote which makes the mother of this unborn child seem incredibly selfish, no doubt taking it out of context to fit your prescriptive world view, more judging… Oh, another photo of the same baby. No caption to explain as to whether or not this child is the product of a ‘half-abortion’, so I’ll assume it’s just a manipulative tactic–’Look at this adorable infant! Why would anyone terminate when this is the product of conception?!’ it seems to say… Completely relevant points as to why having would be highly inconvenient at the least…
    More judgment as to why those reasons just aren’t good enough for you…
    AH! The term ‘playing God’ surfaced! Of course, let’s bring in a mythical construct to jeopardize the moral capacity of these women and pretend it’s somehow appropriate in a magazine with no obvious religious affiliations! How clever! Hmm…is that to say that any artificial means of creating or dismantling something is ‘playing God’? Do you eat processed foods? My goodness, you’re supporting those who ‘play God’! Do you utilize electricity? Yes? ‘PLAYING GOD’! You are deviating from the natural order of things! You must be judged!
    And this little gem at the end… ‘After all my incessant criticism of this procedure, I’m going to write under the pretense of being completely unbiased, as if a short paragraph entailing how abortion debates bore me to pieces somehow creates the illusion that I have no ethical standpoint on the subject.’
    And another baby photo for good measure, just in case you didn’t get the point before.”

    Absolutely pathetic, terrible journalism. If you’re going to have the gall to criticize and patronize the women mentioned in the Times article, at least have the backbone to be honest about it.

  165. by Amanda Hollenbaugh

    On August 14, 2012 at 8:53 am

    Thank you, Sarah, for really picking this article apart <3 Too many people throw quickly thought out responses based on how articles make them feel in the moment without taking the time to think about it in a logical, objective manner.

  166. by Danielle

    On August 15, 2012 at 9:49 am

    My main argument to those who suggest adoption as opposed to abortion is this: do you know how many children are waiting to be adopted, but won’t because they’re not babies? How can you put yet another child into the system, expecting them to find a home? Many don’t and they end up being transferred in and out of foster homes and have a lot of issues because of this.
    Also, Sarah is completely right. You may have your thoughts and beliefs on abortion, but if you don’t approach debates with logic, then you have no real argument.

  167. by brandy

    On August 15, 2012 at 10:43 am

    im absolutly against abortion i think its unethical if you dont want a child dont spread your legs you know you are taking the risk when you do. my first was unplanned and unexpected out of wed lock but i felt blessed to have my baby boy. and to have two i would have felt double blessed. now i have two and i dont think i could handle another i would cry like i was dieing but i would raise my baby because its my fault im pregnant not the babies. it does not deserve to die. why be so cruel if your really that selfish put it up for adoption. the only time abortion is acceptable to me is if the doc tells u yur both gonna die if you dont or rape and even thats ify because its still not the babies fault. wemon that get abortions seem selfish to me theres so many people out there that cant have babies.and to say ive got a boy i want a girl so ill get rid of the extra boy…wow i cant believe there are people on this earth like that and worse still. every desision in life has a consequence pregnancy and pregnancy with multiples is the consequence to sex grow up and take responsibility. if you choose to kill one of children and keep the other you dont deserve to be a parent at all. just because its legal dont make it right your sopose to be there for your kids not kill them for any reason

  168. by Cmichaud

    On August 15, 2012 at 10:56 am

    Thats just messed up! Abortion is bad enough but whats your child going to think of you when they find out you killed their twin. Karmas a bitch i hope the other baby doesnt get cancer!

  169. by laurie

    On August 15, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    This is so wrong!! I am not one to believe in abortion either way bu these woman took an easy way out and some for selfish reasons y not carry both to term and give one up for adoption so that baby could actually have a chance at life i am a mother of four kids my last two r twin girls who r only four months i always look at them and think i cant imagine life without either of them even tho its hard life gets better

  170. by Hanna

    On August 16, 2012 at 12:45 am

    Oh, Sarah, please get your panties out of a bunch before responding. The only common-ish justification of abortion is rape and cases where giving birth is very likely to kill the mother. Having twins but only wanting one baby is definately not an exception where abortion is fine! Obviously the women choosing to abort a twin had a hard time choosing but it is wrong for them to kill a innocent baby with no voice to say “Iwant to live”.
    There are so many wrongs in almost any abortion but I can’t list them all, however, if you think about it you can find the wrongs yourself. If you are considering abortion please think : what if I was aborted or what if my twin was or what if the person I love the most was aborted. Abortion is equilivant to murder in my mind.

  171. by Brit

    On August 16, 2012 at 11:47 am

    That is AWFUL. How can someone do that? What if the child you decide to keep finds out they where once a twin..Disgusting. I am a 21 year old mother of identical twin girls, who will be a year old next week. My 23 year old fiance works full time as a local truck driver, I just graduated nursing school, finishing after my twins where born. He went to a driving program when I was pregnant. And no, we do not depend on welfare. We did not plan on one child let alone twins, but we handle it, very well, because we created this. You know what you are getting into with fertility or naturally… No one in either of our families has twins so this was quite a surprise for us. I would not trade my little blessings for anything in the world…. Sickening some people could do that.

  172. by Chris

    On August 16, 2012 at 1:53 pm

    This is absolutely horrifying. How anyone could feel as if it is ok to be pregnant with twins and abort one.. I am disgusted after reading this! If you are worried about having more than one child at a time and would go to the extreme as to abort one, it’s clearly NOT the right time to have a baby at all. Especially one of the examples saying that one was a boy and one a girl and they decided to keep the girl only, to be that far along to know what you are having and choose to abort your son but not your daughter! CRAZY! I see absolutely nothing ok with this whatsoever.

  173. by Lauren

    On August 16, 2012 at 3:05 pm

    @Bryan – Babies CAN feel things inside the womb. In fact, because opiates haven’t formed in their bodies like already-born people, the pain is intensified, as opiates help create mental blockers to pain. And either way, this is a life–whether it experiences things the same way we do or not. Think about this scenario…a child (let’s say about 5 years old) is knocked unconscious, then raped and murdered. Is that also okay because he/she didn’t “feel” it?

    @Candice – Thank you for your post. A note on the population thing–overpopulation is really not a concern anymore. The reason we had such drastic population increases over the past few decades is due to sudden medical advancements. However, the rapidity of these advancements has decreased. I have more information on this that I can’t recall at the moment, but it puts to rest the idea that we are overpopulated.

  174. by Amanda

    On August 16, 2012 at 6:03 pm

    I would hope that none of these decisions were made lightly. However, a lot of the “reasons” behind these half-abortions seem….well, unreasonable. There is a possibility of multiple children with every.single.pregnancy. Therefore, in my opinion, if you are too old/not financially secure/a single parent/etc., and having twins is not an option for you, then you need to seriously consider not having any more children. Just because you *can* do something, doesn’t mean you *should*. Also, I don’t personally understand how having two children will jeopardize your career or education any more then having one would.

    I’m not saying there are NO good reasons for doing this, there very well might be. I’m just saying I find the reasons presented are not good enough reasons for doing something like that.

  175. by Stephanie

    On August 19, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    If you do IVF, you can only put in one embryo. That’s what I did, any many clinics now offer second embryo transfer free of first single embryo transfer isn’t successful.. So these people make me sick acting like they didn’t have a choice about putting in more embryos (including Octomom and her doctor). Sounds like premeditated murder to me. For others, I hope these mothers become sterile after/due to the abortion. Women as disgustingly immoral as these dont deserve children. Of course I am not talking about parents aborting one fetus due to serious medical reasons; that is a different situation.

  176. by Ashley

    On August 20, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    I think this is extremely screwed up. It’s basically choosing oneof your children over the other. Oh, it would be a “Complication”? Well then how about you either don’t have sex or use protection if you’re not ready to accept the consequences of your actions? I admit twins are hard, but this is just plan wrong and unnatural. How do you think that kid will feel when they grow up and find out you aborted their brother or sister and only kept one? This is just so wrong.

  177. by Dawn

    On August 21, 2012 at 7:27 am

    This is SO sad. We live in a “disposable” society, and the thought that you could, let alone would, could choose 1 child over the other to kill is a ridiculous argument. We have devalued human life to “oh, i feel too tired (financially strapped, skinny, burdened, etc…) to have twins, lets get rid of one” I have 6 children, and I can imagine my life without a single one of them.
    Here’s a hint– If you do not want children, do not have sex. IF you choose to have sex, use 2 forms of protection. IF you still get pregnant, there are literally HUNDREDS if not Thousands, of good families in the USA who would LOVE to give that child a great home.
    Pregnancy has gone from a joyous occasion, to an “inconvenient situation”.

  178. by Cat

    On August 21, 2012 at 12:55 pm

    Murder is sick. Every.time.

  179. by Dee

    On August 22, 2012 at 12:32 am

    I am a mother of 2 1/2 yr old b/g twins conceived by IVF. I prayed everyday for yrs to be given the opportunity to be a mother. When the Dr revealed your having twins BUT don’t get excited this one baby “A” the heartbeat is weak “A” will mostly likely be a vanishing twin.. I was devastated and once again prayed everyday for both of my babies to be given a chance at life.. born 5 weeks early after a extremely high risk pregnancy consisting of bedrest multiple hospitalizations for surgical procedure to stop preterm labor along with medications

  180. by Brianne

    On August 27, 2012 at 10:50 am

    I would not want to be in her shoes when she meets this aborted child again someday. When face-to-face, how do you tell them, “the other child was more special than you.”?

  181. by Becca

    On August 27, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    Ethically, this is no different than a regular abortion. Morally, each person decides on their own how to handle the topic of abortion.
    Here’s a story of my close friend. My friend was born a twin. She was the larger of the two, and her sister had a lot of medical difficulties. Before they turned two, my friend’s family had to bury the smaller twin. My friend feels the loss every day of her life.
    There is a connection between twins that does not exist with other children. Severing this connection is a decision that should not be made lightly.

  182. by Elza Drinkard

    On August 27, 2012 at 7:24 pm

    And after looking at your entry ” The Half Abortion: Only Keeping One Twin | The Dadabase “, I finally resolved to book mark it on Delicious. This is truly a wonderful information to discuss to my people

  183. by karissa

    On August 30, 2012 at 1:08 am

    in my opinion it is wrong to play god and abort any baby twin or not…. i don’t care what your circumstances are that baby has a right to live… if you don’t want it give it up for adoption! there are plenty of couples who would love to have your baby don’t kill the poor thing…

  184. by JRS

    On August 30, 2012 at 2:09 pm

    Abortion: the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy.
    This is the definition of abortion right out of the dictionary. If it is deliberat, therefore the person having the abortion is consciously and intentionally terminating (bringing to an end) a humans life. Another word for this description is MURDER.
    Murder: the unlawful premeditated killing of one human being by another.
    Sounds almost identical to me. And it blow my mind that anyone in this world could think other wise. How is terminating a pregnancy anything different from having a chiles and then killing it? Why because it is not inside you anymore? DISGUSTING!
    And then to go as far as being pregnant and wanting to be pregnant, but only with one child instead of multiples so you get rid if one. People are so ignorant. Do they not realize how many people in the world would give anything to have that child that was never given a chance? If they are going to go through with a full term pregnancy with one child, why not carry the second and let someone who does want the child have it.
    I can’t even explain how disgusted this article made me. Obviously I am very anti abortion, so abortion in itself makes me uneasy, but abortion because of unwanted multiples just plain pisses me off to no extend.
    By the way, I am a mother, oh and I also have a mother as does everyone else in the world. And just think.. If YOUR mother made the decision that some women make to have abortions, you, me, them.. None of us would be here. How does that make you feel? Knowing that you could have been one of them?

  185. by buffyclaire

    On September 1, 2012 at 3:34 am

    It doesn’t look like most commenters here paid much attention to the last paragraph regarding what the author intended this discussion to be about. I can’t say I’m surprised but at least most comments are at least about abortion, unlike a funny cat video where the comments randomly turn into political/religious/racist arguments. :) Here are my thoughts on the actual issue. I’m not looking to debate pro-choice against pro-life here. The author of this article is very correct in saying “Most of us have already made up our minds on the issue and the truth is, we are not going to convince each other otherwise via comments on a blog post” I know I’ve made up mine. That is irrelevant to this discussion. I think that IF YOU ARE PRO-CHOICE, you can maybe understand why a woman wouldn’t want to have a baby. You can understand why a woman chooses abortion over going through pregnancy and adoption. Many people can certainly understand that raising 2 or more babies at once is a greater challenge than raising 1. But here’s the problem. It is very difficult to understand why, if you only want 1 baby, but you are pregnant with multiples, you choose abortion over adoption. Unless it IS a medical decision. If you have to make that decision because your own life or the lives of the babies are in danger, that could be understood. But none of these women’s reasons were about that. You are going to carry one baby for yourself anyways, is it asking to much for you to carry the other and let it be raised by someone who wants it? I think that’s where the problem here is.

  186. by jessica

    On September 1, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    When a woman undergoes artifical means to conceive, she knows ahead of time that there is a distinct possibility of multiples! Not to mention, has anyone heard of “vanishing twin” syndrome? I was a twin and my sibling didn’t make it through the pregnancy and I always have felt like a part f my life was missing. In addition, add the fact that I am infertile and would give my left arm for the twin she aborted. It’s disgusting and as a win, yes I am judging. Sue me.

  187. by Masha

    On September 3, 2012 at 12:03 am

    This just made me sick. The whole debate on pro-life/pro-choice don’t get me started. One thing that I find so ironic though is that the hospital they mention is called Mt. Sini. One of few holy places left in the world. I bet monks who live on the actual Mt. Sini would be sickened and saddened that a hospital that bares the name of this place preforms these things.

  188. by Aacon

    On September 5, 2012 at 6:01 am

    This is just plain murder.The only difference is the baby is on the inside instead of the outside.

  189. by Olivia

    On September 5, 2012 at 11:59 am

    I find the women’s reasoning more disturbing than the abortions themselves. They seem heartless and cruel.

  190. by Amy

    On September 6, 2012 at 11:27 pm

    I myself believe that abortion is murder! The least you could do is give the baby up for adoption! And this “half abortion” crap is no different! There are so many loving people out there that for whatever the reason cannot have a child and would be more then willing to adopt! Abortion of any and all kind should be illegal! If someone for whatever reason doesn’t want their child/children then they should have taken the necessary steps to keep from becoming pregnant! And for those who use fertility drugs of any kind to become pregnant, if you want a baby that bad and end up with more than one then you should be grateful that you were blessed with the honor of getting more than one!

  191. by Jane

    On September 7, 2012 at 12:07 am

    With the expense, risk and relatively unimpressive success rates involved in reproductive technolology, I don’t understand why those providing the services offer such terminations. (Though perhaps they want BOTH pregnancies to be lost so they can start all over again, getting many more $$s)

    Just as chilling is the selfishness exhibited by the women and their partners. Gross. I fear for our societal soul with such monsters present.

  192. by sorcha818

    On September 11, 2012 at 6:31 am

    Personally, I’ve never heard of doing a fetus reduction while pregnant with twins. Some Doctors and clinics will offer a choice of having a reduction done when you are pregnant with triplets or more because of how dangerous the pregnancy can be to the mother, as well as the high risk of complications for the babies. I find it very hard to believe that all of the information in this article is accurate (especially the number of “half” abortions being performed). As someone else pointed out, when Doctors offer this as an option to a woman expecting twins, it is generally due to health reasons as opposed to the various personal choices listed here.

    On another note, the truth is that abortion is legal in the country. And even if it wasn’t abortion would still exist. It always has and always will. Regardless of your personal opinions on the morality of it, that is simply the truth. So rather than throwing a fit about the lack of ethics or morality involved in choosing a pregnancy reduction (which is the correct term), perhaps we should try to understand why these women make the choices they do. Understand that choosing to keep, give up, or abort a baby is no easy decision for any woman, and is deeply personal and private. You don’t know these women or what their lives have been like. You’ve not had their life experiences. So perhaps a little compassion and understanding would be nice.

  193. by guest

    On September 11, 2012 at 2:32 pm

    This is very disturbing. What sort of horrible selfish person would kill one her babies because it was “complicated” “expensive” or “risky.” No wonder child abuse is on the rise, when people accept it in the womb!

  194. by Brenda Price

    On September 11, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    After reading the article, it appears that unborn children are treated as entrees on a menu – when you don’t like what you get, you can always change it by “sending back” what doesn’t please you.

  195. by Renee

    On September 13, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    I found out I was 5 and half months pregnant at the age of 34. I was devastated and knew I was to far to have an abortion. Now that I see my son and his unconditional love, makes me want to weep when I hear of others having an abortion. You think it’s the end of life at first, until you give birth and realize that yours and that baby’s life are just beginning. I will always be against abortions rather conceived, naturally, abusively or by rape. I have a friend who was raped and chose to keep that baby because she came from a religious family. That baby girl has grown to be one of the smartest ones that college has ever seen. Her mother tells her to learn so she can take care of her in old age. No!Stop Abortions!!!

  196. by laura

    On September 14, 2012 at 8:29 am

    This really saddens me. First off, abortion is sick, twisted and selfish to begin with. But here, the remaining child will grow up feeling like there is something missing. Having lost a twin myself in in the 1st trimester, I fear my son may have issues as well. Twins have a special bond. And the loss of one leave a huge void in the other.Im real tried of hearing “pro choicers” talk about how its the mothers choice. That choice ended in the bedroom. And then these sick people want to intentionally create life and then decide to end it!? They dont deserve a baby. Because they dont treasure life. Life is precious and irreplaceable. I know people who have miscarried and are scarred for life, my self being one. Because I treasure life. My children are part of me.The loss of a child is loss of ones self.And as a medical professional I can tell you life begins at conception. Forget the whole rape scenario, that percentage is too low to even be a legit argument. Statistics say that is about 1% so people need to stop beating that dead horse, there is always adoption. I dont deny their pain, I have been there. but I can not validate their selfish actions.Grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your children. Or give them to a loving family that will be forever grateful, where they will be forever cherished.I have 3 unplanned children. I made adjustments. They are loved beyond words. It may seem overwhelming at first, but humans were given the amazing ability to adapt. Once you hold that baby in your arms.. everything changes. YOu wont know until you hold that baby for the first time. That instinct kicks in , and you will do anything to love and protect that child. I will always be a voice for the voiceless.

  197. by Sarah

    On September 14, 2012 at 9:16 am

    I think rather than asking “is this ok” I’m left asking “What is wrong with people that they feel such a need to control everything?” Life is valuable. At the very least I would think adoption might be a viable thing. Certainly easier on your body than interrupting a pregnancy and risking the life of the other baby (although I know a multiples pregnancy is not “easy” either). I think it’s sad that all the advances we’ve made in medicine/technology can sometimes result in wanting to control everything (ex: waiting till later to get pregnant, then having to go through in vitro, possibly interventions and medications, etc.). It’s scary not to be able to control things, but far worse to be such a slave to having things go your way that you forget that so much is out of your control anyway…sometimes immense beauty and peace comes from letting things go and seeing where life takes you…even if it wasn’t your first plan!

  198. by kelly

    On September 17, 2012 at 10:49 am

    I wish this article included how the women felt about their decision now. I had so many misconceptions about being a mom. most of my friends who are curious about parenthood are only concerned with body image and lifestyle little do they know it’s so much more joyful than any of that. it just seems like unnecessary. babies aren’t that expensive, Nd they’re individuals who would have had a sibling. we live in a very selfish society. I’m not a Christian and I believe in the right to choose. I just feel very sorry for people who have to live with this sadness.

  199. by lili

    On September 18, 2012 at 3:27 pm

    I use IVF after 9 years of trying to have another child. When I found out I was pregnant with twins I was beyond happy. I would have been happy with one but after all that time twins seemed like a gift from God. At four and a half months (the night after we finally told my husbands family) I went to the doctor in full confidence to find one of the babies hearts had just stopped. I can not tell you the kind of devastation and pain I felt that day and for months to come. Although friends tried to be helpful I got a lot of “be happy you have one baby left” and ” It was Four and a half months that’s not really that far along.” You are in a limbo where you are not allowed to grieve for seeming “greedy” and not allowed to be giddy your pregnant because you are morning a lost child a lost idea. All those things in pairs had to be sold and seeing items in twos Still makes me weak. Just writing this makes me cry 4.5 yrs latter. In a play group I found two moms in the same situation by chance and it was like finding a sister, someone who finally knew the basic non feeling place you get placed into to make everyone else around you more comfortable. I can not stress enough the way well intentioned friends just end up making you feel Greedy and guilty for mourning one child when in their opinion you should be greatfull to have one left. When my pregnancy hit 8.5 mos I finally started looking at clothes and getting basic baby items with some kind of happiness. It will never leave me and I am an open minded person and believe we all need to make decisions for our own situations but the thought that someone chose this makes me sad for humanity. That someone could throw that away makes my body shake. There is nothing that validates THIS choice in this story besides selfishness… No one would choose this pain. You would have to view other things more important, your own daily needs more important. I have 3 kids now. Life is stressful and hard and we make ends meet but it is also the best because of what those children bring and I give things up everyday and put my wants last lots of the time. But would struggle even more, give up every second of “me time” to have that baby back!!

  200. by Rebecca

    On September 19, 2012 at 11:31 am

    People all across this country are waiting to adopt children. Don’t kill your unborn children – let other loving families raise them if you can’t.

  201. by LLC

    On September 19, 2012 at 10:52 pm

    I am a mother of twins as a result of IVF. Sure, they are a lot more work. Why are folks so anxious to take the easy way out? I gave up a lot for my twins, and am thankful for both of them.

  202. by Lisa

    On September 20, 2012 at 3:03 am

    The two words that came to mind when I read this article were “creepy” and “selfish.” These women do understand they’re dealing with a human life here, right? I can’t imagine being so casual with the life of my own child.

    My question is, how are these women going to someday explain to the remaining child that they aborted their twin? I’ll be that info goes over like a lead balloon.

    To find out that she let a doctor make a random choice as to which of her children lived and which died. That by sheer luck of the draw, I’m the one she didn’t kill.

    Wow. I don’t know how I’d process that. It would definitely make me think differently about my mother.

  203. by Angie

    On September 20, 2012 at 3:38 pm

    These reasons are selfish. Of course, the mother has a legal right to make these decision but ethically, I couldn’t live with myself if I destroyed my child’s chance at life just because of its gender.

    Sometimes, I think people get too idealistic about their offspring. They only want the child “IF”…fill in the blank. I personally wouldn’t want to end my offspring’s chance for life just because it would inconvenience me in someway. Being a mother is about being inconvenienced – it’s about having the blessing of being the guide to another human being in this life.

    Valuing one twin’s life over another seems very wrong to me. I can understand why women get abortions in severe cases of violent crimes & medical issues. I also understand the women that choose life in those cases, too – for adoption, ect. But if a mother is worried that the child’s life may upset her plans in someway, then the least she can do is give the child up for adoption. It is a more honorable thing to do.

  204. by Nina

    On September 24, 2012 at 1:14 am

    If people in the world could just show some compassion. What if you were that baby and that baby was you? What would you do then? These listed reasons do seem selfish. I don’t know their full story – but they SEEM selfish. If I had made such a choice, I think I would always look at my baby and wonder what the other one would have been like. I can’t help but look at the baby in the ad here and wonder if his little twin was never given a chance b/c Mommy needed more education or a different gender. It just seems cold. Many women are losing their natural affection… I feel sorry for the women who may regret this decision down the road. I’ve heard often times women who seek out abortion have a hard time with that decision later on. Imagine the magnification of that regret (if at all) when you see your beautiful singleton and know there should have been two. Plus twins always seem to have an extra special relationship with their sibling. How can you take that away?

  205. by Minda

    On September 24, 2012 at 10:02 am

    I have to agree with everyone who suggested adoption as a better alternative to killing a child. There are thousands of couples who would love to raise your child in their home. You’re already going through the “inconvenience” of pregnancy for the child you want anyway, why not give the other a chance at life and give an amazing gift to another family?

  206. by Momoftwins

    On September 24, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    There are many limitations to medicine. We put too much stock in what doctors think they know. My brother and his wife at 12 weeks were told to abort their baby because he had a birth defect that would result in being still born or at best, he would only live a few days. They chose to keep the baby and he is now a perfectly healthy 8 year old. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. And these doctors were at John’s Hopkins, not some podunk hospital in the middle of nowhere. Astonishing, right?! To think that we are in”control” of anything is so ridiculous. Abortion is at times medically necessary but then again, is it?! To the women who had multiple abortions, please use some birth control and stop making and then killing babies.

  207. by mary

    On September 24, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    Wow! “Murder”, “playing god”, “disgusting”… I never thought I would compare some of these responses to the falange movement. I will not play god and I will not judge others. I have two beautiful children and I chose to have them. They were planned. I am shocked to read these responses and blaming these women for our corrupt society. Who are you to judge? It is not our place to judge and be so hateful.

  208. by DC Girl

    On September 25, 2012 at 10:18 pm

    I just saw this article and it has generated huge interest and strong opinions. We seem to develop technology and worry later about the ramifications. I totally agree that this is playing God. As a country we need to make it easy and acceptable to choose adoption over abortion . I get it not all are planned, maybe there’s been a rape or other issues. The majority of abortions are NOT for medical reasons, according to my OB/GYN. Some that are done under this heading have nothing to do with risk to the mother. What a sad state we are in. The future will judge us by how we treat the least of our citizens and many dogs get more consideration than a fetus.

  209. by Krissy

    On September 26, 2012 at 12:39 am

    I am a twin, and it I would have a hard time accepting it if my parents had chosen to kill my twin sister because they only ‘wanted’ one. It’s not about judging or casting stones, but it is just morally wrong. This is cold-blooded murder. I have seen it on tv, they prick the beating heart, it’s so disgusting.

  210. by candy

    On September 28, 2012 at 8:36 am

    All I can say is I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I wish I hadn’t read this.

  211. by Susan

    On September 30, 2012 at 7:10 am

    Since the advent of roe vs. wade, over 50 million women(who have been blessed with the honor and privilege of being able to bear a child)and a medical professional (who has promised to do no harm) have mutually agreed it is a good idea to dismember a helpless unborn baby,for the sake of convenience and financial gain. We are now a third world country, aborting our little ones because they are an unwanted gender. Shame on the hardness of heart that permits individuals to accept this as the norm. They are so tiny, we cannot hear their scream, therefore they are not screaming, right? As a society, we must scream for them!

  212. by Courtney

    On October 2, 2012 at 10:00 pm

    Seriously people, take some responsibility. If you are going to have sex then you obviously know the consequences. If you are doing in- vitro you also know the risks. These ” babies” are coming out “alive and moaning/crying” . Give me a break. Educate yourselves before you KILL another human being. That’s sad. I had a very difficult first pregnancy and wasn’t going to have a second. We talked about permanent birth control and was too late- I was pregnant. I NEVER blamed anyone else and took responsibility. That was the BEST decision ever. So grow up and protect yourself or know and deal with the consequences. It’s not the baby’s fault what-so-ever but it is YOURS. YOU know the consequences of YOUR actions!!!!!!!!

  213. by Jenny

    On October 3, 2012 at 3:04 am

    I read this article, crying over the lost children.
    I had so much trouble getting pregnant, then staying pregnant. Between the two beautiful children that I was able to carry were five miscarriges at 14-16 weeks. After the last, I almost jumped off the top of the hospital, it was so emotionally painful. Eventually, I learned to just love my two precious children, and enjoy every minute of raising them.
    Then, when they were 20 and 16, I was blessed with another pregnancy. I was told it was so “high risk”, and made to talk with a geneticist because of my age (42). Despite the dire warnings, I gave birth full term to another beautiful daughter ten years ago, and she has been a blessing to my two older children, as well as my husband and me. I would never consider not having her. She brings joy every day!
    After she was about six months old, we were asked to consider adopting two girls from the foster care system. We met them once, and agreed to take them, if they wanted a “Forever Home”. It’s been ten years now, and I had to home school them to catch them up, and help them through some very troubled situations, but even then, I feel blessed. They are now both in college, and have worked through their anger at the family members (about 12+) who refused to adopt them. It took awhile, but they both now consider us their parents, and after a visit to find the biological mom, the elder of the daughters now is sure she made the correct decision.
    All of our big family now have helped me to ease the pain from the losses. I thought abortion was okay when I was younger, but after the first miscarriage, my mind was quickly changed. Even though that child was only 14 weeks when he passed away, I always remember the day I delivered him, and still feel a connection to him, especially.
    Despite all the excused for abortion (the brain isn’t developed…..of course it isn’t, it’s a tiny baby!), I can never accept abortion as an option for any pregnancy.

    Ironically, my husband, an physician, helped to deliver a baby last night, as the mother had a fatal heart attack, and was quickly brought to the hospital.
    That husband and new father, while heartbroken over losing his wife, thanked the medical staff repeatedly, for saving his daughter’s life.
    My husband came home crying, as to him, all life is precious.
    All I can do is to pray for this family…..the HIPPA laws prevent the names from being released, so it’s not possible to offer any kind of help.

  214. by Kate

    On October 3, 2012 at 5:50 am

    How about this, give one up for adoption to someone who will love and care for it. I love the comments about it is their reproductive life they should get to choose. It is murder. If the twins were lying in a bed and you smothered one, you would go to jail. Not sure how people can truly justify that it is not a “baby” yet. If you want to control your reproductive life, keep your knees together!

  215. by jeanette

    On October 5, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    I was very disturbed with this article! i am a mother of 6 children. I have two special needs children and i had my last child at age 40. THe doctors told me from ultrasound my last baby was downsyndrome and they wanted me to abord the pregnancy i refused…it is a life and has the right to live and my son was born perfectly normal.

  216. by aj

    On October 10, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    My friend was a twin, her sister died a few hours after birth. She’s 26 and says she still feels a hole in her heart from losing her twin. Also what happens if u abort one and the ine u let live has somethung wrong and dies how r u going t feel. My son is severely autistic and allergic to corn, which is in everything. I have to hand made everything that he eats. But u know what I woukdnt change him fr the world. GOD ONLY GIVES YOU WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE! I just dint see how u can justfy killing one. How can u see him/her go to prom, graduate college, get married, and not wonder for the rest of ur life how ur ther chikd would be. I just dint get it!

  217. by ahh

    On October 13, 2012 at 10:22 am

    you are a horrible person

  218. by Mary

    On October 13, 2012 at 10:54 am

    This is so disturbing on so many levels. One wonders how you can live with yourself on a day to day basis and walk this earth knowing that you have killed one child for the sake of another because of “choices”…..WOW……when you look at the one that remains, does it remind you daily of the choice you made, and what/how will those “chosen” ones feel or think about you as adults when they get older and find out about the one you killed…..Everyone has the right to choose…..but no one escapes the consequences for those choices. ON more levels than you can imagine. When you have to stand and say that you killed a child, with no excuses or justification, how will you feel?

  219. by Terri LaPoint

    On October 13, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    Oh my God. How horrible. As a twin who REMEMBERS my mother’s abortion that killed my twin sister, I know that the remaining twin will have life-long repercussions from this, even if they don’t remember. I spent 46 years not knowing consciously about my mother’s abortion or my twin, but it was always there, and my subconscious always knew. This is evil, plain and simple.

  220. by Amanda

    On October 14, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    I am not against abortion, but I do not understand how one can make this kind of decision in regards to twins. My sister went through artificial insemination to get pregnant. Four of the eggs took and the doctor wanted her to to do what was called a selective reduction…he basically wanted to pick and choose which eggs to abort to insure her a healthy pregnancy and at least one healthy baby. She refused. She couldn’t imagine aborting any of them and really had no idea how you would even pick which ones to abort. She ended up losing one naturally, but had three healthy babies. I don’t want to judge anyone, but most of these reasons seem kind of silly. I would never have the heart to pick between twins.

  221. by momof2cubs

    On October 18, 2012 at 12:28 am

    WTH? Sorry this is just really disturbing. I have had 3 miscarriages, all only sacs. I would have decided to adopt until I got preggo again and it stuck. If someone can’t “afford it” than don’t get preggo in the first place!!!! What the hell is wrong with people. This is not rape or incest! Some of these people are getting pregnant on purpose to have a child, and abort one of the kids, because they can’t handle 2 at a time??? Thank God they don’t have to answer to me, cuz I’d kick their asses. How stupid!!! There are so many loving people out there that have the love and resources to raise and child and can’t. These people are so damn selfish. So sad for the twin that survives and finds out that their parent decided to kill their sibling! Sick!!

  222. by katie

    On October 18, 2012 at 6:02 pm

    I can’t imagine going through with such a decision – how much regret do those parents feel, years later, when they look into the eyes of their surviving twin and imagine them playing with their sibling that could have been. I have an image in my mind of the “would-have-been-twin” at an older age, say 5 or 6, and the conversation that the parent has with them – explaining why they chose to abort them rather than welcome them with open arms full of unconditional love. Isn’t that what parenting is all about? Unconditional love? Loving our children, even though they made a mess, or cost us all kinds of money, or maybe they came at an inopportune time? How can we teach our children the act of such a love, if we don’t practice it ourselves? We say to our children, from before they are even born, “I will love you as long as you are convenient to me, otherwise, you are not worth it.” How immensely sad for these families.

  223. by Laurel

    On October 18, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    I grew up with twin brothers. While fraternal and naturally conceived….(go dad!)…..they have always had a special connection. When I was a kid I used to tell my mom I was missing my other half. Turns out, I was. They think my mom lost a second baby during my incubation period….it was the 80s who knows?….but regardless that is two souls that were forged at once. If moms choose half a set of twins…the other will know. something will feel ‘off’ to the surviving twin.

  224. by CD

    On October 20, 2012 at 8:06 am

    I was pregnant with spontaneous (natural, no fertility treatments) triplets. I had waited a long time to be a mother and was frankly not sure it would be “for me” so I considered -very briefly- the idea of selective reduction of the pregnancy. Turns out I didn’t have a choice, I miscarried my twins and went on to bring their fraternal sibling in to the world. I want to break down any time I think about that potential choice. If my twins had been healthy and strong I might have missed out on meeting my perfect, sweet little child. Motherhood is now my life’s calling (I had NO IDEA I would feel this way and am still a little shocked) and I think about those twins often. Now, on this side of childbirth, I realize that it would have been VERY difficult to have three babies, but the rewards would have been immeasurable.

  225. by Kathleen

    On October 20, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    As someone who struggled with fertility and had to go through IVF to have our first child, this article disturbs and angers me on so many levels. We had three embryos implanted, so we could have ended up with triplets. We would have lovingly accepted one, two or three babies. We were blessed with one beautiful little boy and then five months later I found out I was pregnant natually with our second son. We consider ourselves truely blessed.

    To call it a “Half Abortion” is what angers me the most. It’s like saying, “a little pregnant.” You’re either pregnant or not. An abortion is an abortion – it’s still the murder of a child! And then to kill one because it’s a boy is even more infuriating. Allowing a mother to abort a baby based on it’s sex is taking our country one step closer to China.

    All the women documented in this article are extremely selfish and should be ashamed of themselves!

  226. by JF

    On October 20, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    It’s ironic how all those who are pro-choice are they themselves living. They used to say it’s not a life just tissue, but if you can tell the gender of the baby it’s obvious it’s a life.
    All life begins at conception.

  227. by Michael

    On October 21, 2012 at 1:31 am

    in my opinion, only the first justification is a legitimate one, the others are… selfish to say the least

  228. by Heather

    On October 22, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    It’s not what society would think or What our parent or grandparents would think of such an act it is what would the child who got to live think? I can only imagin the questions the child might have, “why me?” “what made me so special?” “just because of my gender I’m alive?” “what did my sibling do to deserve death?” The amount of guilt that child could have for just being alive could be huge. No one can say for sure that the child who was chosen to live would want to be the one who lived after knowing what became of their sibling. The fact the child may hate their parents, hate themselves, hate their gender and have depression, survivers guilt and a sense of emptyness that can never be filled. In situations like this it’s not about society, money, our selfs or anything else it’s about the child.

  229. by christy

    On October 23, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    This is just horrible…how could these mothers do this to their babies? I can not imagine. No justification in my mind. Those poor babies..=(

  230. by Mimi

    On October 26, 2012 at 7:32 pm

    This is sad and disturbing to me.
    I became pregnant with triplets, with no fertility treatments, and I was terrified. TERRIFIED. Then my husband was diagnosed with cancer. I never considered aborting them because “my life was hard”. Instead, we were grateful that I was able to conceive so shortly before cancer treatments rendered him infertile.
    I know several other moms of higher-order multiples, and their lives are hectic as well… but full of love. Our lives had complications just like these women choosing the half-abortion, so it’s not like we don’t understand/haven’t walked a mile in their shoes. Our reasons for keeping our beautiful children despite our hardships are valid and based in love of all our children.
    And you know what? All my girls are special needs.
    I wouldn’t change a thing.
    I read that you don’t want judgment, but how could anyone not get a lump in their throats thinking about how one day, these children will learn their moms/parents “chose” them and took away their twin’s life? Or wonder how easy it would be for their parents to not love them? Or blame themselves, no matter how irrational?
    The cold hard truth is these women have self-inflicted first world problems.
    You just have to WOMAN UP and do what you need to do.

  231. by JenBK

    On October 31, 2012 at 7:01 am

    im sorry but give me a break this is selfish gross behavior and i am pro choice myself. they want to bitch about people staying out of their private reproduction? why, they didnt leave their reproduction to their own private selves, they hire outrageously expensive teams of doctors to first interfere in getting pregnant when nature is clearly telling them no and then they hire more doctors to get involved to “design” their pregancy to carry only the baby they desire as to not disrupt their lives… so yeah I think they are open season to be judged. and believe me, i am judging.

  232. by Becca

    On November 6, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Wrong on so many levels. Twins are made for a reason and share a special bond. What do they tell the child? You had a twin…but I decided to kill it and have only you? I would think that they would feel like a part of them was missing. And why not have both, but give one up for adoption if you couldnt afford both? Atleast this way they can meet one day.

  233. by Dan

    On November 10, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    I think someone should abort these “mothers.” And I hope my opinion falls within the “gray area” enough to stay posted.

  234. by Robin

    On November 14, 2012 at 11:45 am

    I am a mother of identical twin girls and they are an amazing blessing. Who am I say that I have the right to choose if one lives and one doesn’t. Although I try not to judge anyone because I am not God and it is his right alone, I can say it is difficult sometimes. Especially when we live in a world where we label single celled organisms life but not human heartbeats in a woman’s womb. I do understand that there are certain situations that would make a woman want to abort her unborn child and many are truly valid reasons. But being able to choose one baby over another because you only want one is appalling. I wish all who choose abortion when rape and life threatening situations, etc. are not the reason would have to sit down and have a conversation with a woman who can’t have a child and wants one desperately.

  235. by Jeannie

    On November 15, 2012 at 7:56 am

    How do you feel the child who was chosen to live will feel when he/she has grown up? (Under the assumption the parents will disclose this information – and if the parents are fine with half-abortions I assume they have no shame in revealing this fact).
    If it was me, I would view it as I was the lucky one that my parents decided not to kill. Thanks parents.
    Having multiple children is always a risk with pregnancy (natural or otherwise). If you cannot handle the repercussions then prevent pregnancy. I wish we still lived in an age when adults took responsibility for their actions.

  236. by Jessica

    On November 18, 2012 at 7:56 am

    I personally believe that everything happens for a reason. So to choose to get rid of a twin is a choice to go against what was meant to happen in your life and not only that what was suppose to happen to everyone around you and that they (the baby) would have affected. Even if the child them self wasn’t suppose to go on and be the big important person that everyone knew and recognized they could be the one that would have got that person there.
    I have to admit I’m not against abortion fully in and of the fact that I was molested and almost raped when I was younger and if I would have been raped and got Pregnant I would like the choice of not having a 9 month reminder, but to have a abortion out of convenience is just wrong.

  237. by Erin

    On November 18, 2012 at 10:36 pm

    I would never personally get an abortion, but I am a firm believer in a woman’s right to chose. We are human beings, half of a race and no one has the right to tell me what I can and can’t do with my body. However, I believe that woman, who have the gift of being able to bear children, have to take the responsibility of birth control as seriously as life or death. I don’t believe abortion should be used as a form of birth control and sadly, I believe in the majority of cases it is. I have spoken to too many women, especially young women, who rarely use birth control with any of their partners. Abortion is a serious matter, and it should be reserved for serious cases. That said, I stand between a rock and a hard place. If it is legal, women will rely on abortion instead of being responsible for their bodies, but if it is illegal, women will turn to back alley abortions and the fact that someone is dictating what I do with my body. That’s the issue that tips the scales for me.
    This is the first that I have heard of “half abortion” which I think is detestable and very disturbing. Twins are very special, and it has been reported that when one twin dies in child birth or shortly after, the other grows up knowing they are missing a piece of themselves. Now imagine finding out mummy and daddy “killed” your other half. Pregnancy is a crap shoot. You get what you get. Besides death, it is the only real surprise left in life. I don’t know how a couple could receive the news that they are expecting twins, and telling the doctor that they want to terminate one, or being the doctor who terminates one. What happens when the doctor makes a mistake and terminates the wrong baby? Oops, we killed the girl by accident, shall we just clean you right out and start all over? I don’t believe in sex selection, blame your partner’s sperm and get on with it. I had an unplanned pregnancy at 25 and now that my beautiful daughter is 11 months, my husband and I just found out we are expecting again, unexpectedly. I haven’t been on birth control, we made the conscious choice not to and when “it happens, it happens”. We decided if we have a boy, my husband will get a vasectomy and if we have another girl, we will considering trying for a boy. My husband is quite a bit older than me, so his age is a factor in the number of children and the time frame we have. No matter how many daughters I have, birth control will be a much discussed topic in our home.
    Ladies, we are the biggest influence in our daughters lives. We must aggressively teach our children safe sex, so abortion doesn’t have to be as common as it is.
    There are many children out there who need a loving, safe home. With adoption, you can pick the gender. Don’t play God. Half abortions will have repercussions.

  238. by momof2cubs

    On November 20, 2012 at 8:13 pm

    This is pretty disgusting to me. I hope the child that lives doesn’t feel guilt for being “the chosen one”. “mom, why did you kill my sister and keep me?”. Can’t even imagine doing this. Life isn’t a game to me. I don’t have anyone in my life that would do this. I hope that God can forgive them when its their time, and they have to answer to killing their kids. I don’t believe in just because its early in the pregnancy that its ok to kill the fetus. I believe that if it is left to its own devices and lives to become a baby on the outside that it is murder. Just my opinion. Very sad. I cried while reading this. I had a hard time conceiving and find these people very selfish. Should have had the baby and given it up to a loving couple instead of killing it. :’(

  239. by Jackie

    On November 29, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    My husband and I have discussed this situation before as I am the type that likes to have a plan. For me I cannot see aborting one child from a twin or triplet pregnancy, since those babies still have a very good chance of coming out near term and healthy. However, in the case of a large multiple pregnancy (4 or more) I would probably chose to selectively abort at least 1 fetus for the sake of the health of the others.

    The issue does get more complicated if you are dealing with a situation where you already have other children. Each child you bring into the world is not only a gift but also a responsibility and I think it is prudent to feel ready to take on the additional responsibility of another life whether that be emotionally, physically, or financially. If you strongly feel like you cannot take on the added burden of 2 more lives and you don’t want to or feel you couldn’t bear to adopt out one (or more) of the children after birth then selective abortion may be the option that’s right for you.

  240. by Mimi

    On December 2, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    I am currently pregnant and going to be a single mom. Almost done with college but not there yet. When I found out I was pregnant, Im not going lie, it was scary since I am that not financially stable and my ex fiance decided to change his mind about having this baby and left. So even when my life is going to change and there is a lot of uncertainty. I would not choose to abort, even if it was TWO. I’m trying my hardest to finish school this year so I can provide my baby everything he/she needs. God always provides, my mom took good care of 4 kids never asking my dad for anything. She is my example to follow.

  241. by Jen

    On December 3, 2012 at 11:07 am

    I think it is ridiculous to abort any child! Using the “I’m not financially secure” or “I don’t want to jeopardize my education” or any of the other excuses is obsurd! Abortion is NOT birth control! If you can’t afford the child, or find that they would be an “inconvenience” then there are more than enough ways to prevent the pregnancy to begin with.

  242. by Emma

    On December 3, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    I am pro choice but I don’t know how I feel about this because now there is another person involved (the sibling that was born). If the child that was born ever found out I think it would have a lot of emotional consequences. I think it would be a bit devastating for them. I understand the financial burdens and the many reasons, but why not just opt for adoption? I guess I just can’t wrap my head around it…it would be like a “Sophie’s Choice.”

  243. by tania

    On December 5, 2012 at 9:54 am

    IVF is there to help people have children. I feel really sad when I read this, because there are so many people that would love to have kids and do not have the money for IVF or even if they have done the procedure it has failed. For someone to just talk about choosing which of your children would have to be terminated… I mean really… It’s not buying shoes. You can’t return your kids dude… Too bad if you got twins, triplets… Deal with it or if not put them up for adoption. There are plenty of people out there that will take them open arms. Doing that half abortion really just makes me wonder how utterly disgusting this world is becoming. AND I AM PRO CHOICE, but this is just not right…

  244. by Teresa

    On December 5, 2012 at 9:54 am

    OMG, what is wrong with people?? Seriously.

  245. by Rebecca

    On December 8, 2012 at 10:34 am

    I can not see how choosing to abort one for convenience is a reasonable answer. Even though the children are not born yet they are still our children, planned or not. If you can not care for the children, give them to someone who can not have kids and have been trying. When you conceive with help there is a chance that you will have multiples. If that’s the case, adopt a single child. It would cost the around the same as the medical procedures and a child will not be aborted in the process. I was faced with the option to let my premature child go, he could have had major health problems that would be lifelong or he could have even died naturally after birth. We chose to give him a chance no matter the outcome.

  246. by G alberda

    On December 9, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    How sick. Murder is murder no matter how you try to paint it otherwise. Period. So Sad

  247. by Torn

    On December 10, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    At 20 I got pregnant. With twins. The pregnancy nearly killed all 3 of us. I am not being melodramatic. That’s a simple statement of fact. I never once thought of abortion. Being able to watch my now half-grown duo and the bond they have, always have had, is a true miracle. However; when they were nearly 2, I got pregnant again. I regret my decision to abort that baby daily. But I can sympathize with a woman who chooses that route. I’m torn. I am not here to judge others, my decisions are my own, and so are my reasons. So are these other women’s. My heart just aches for those whose lives are affected. The mother’s, the father’s, and especially the surviving twins. I hope that since the parents made the difficult decision to abort, they are also able to make the difficult decision to let the surviving child know the truth, someday, and that they have peace.

  248. by Pattie

    On December 11, 2012 at 9:55 am

    I feel extremely hurt when seeing this article. I too suffered with infertility and my husband and I chose to use an egg donor so that we could have the family we always dreamed of. I was pregnant with twins and was so excited to start our big family and sadly at 8 weeks lost one of them. I was devastated – but I had to remember I did still have one beautiful baby growing inside of me. I knew the possibility of twins was going to be great, I would never have chosen to “abort” one. Why would I have worked so hard and put up so much money just to “get rid” of one; and choosing which to keep regardless of gender, how can you decide that, I don’t think I have that ability in my brain to say okay this is what I’m doing and your the lucky winner. Just sad, like others mentioned, so many people can’t have babies or afford to do fertility, there are always other options out there.

  249. by Frogmore

    On December 12, 2012 at 3:03 am

    Aborting one twin makes one wonder how good a mother the woman will be to the remaining one should it turn out less than perfect, also in the eyes of this so-called mother.

  250. by Kie

    On December 14, 2012 at 11:35 am

    I find these women disgusting. Someone above said, “don’t judge til you’ve walked in their shoes” I have. I have a 2 year old little boy. He is a twin. his fraternal twin passed at 16 weeks gestational age and not a one of you can understand how hard that is. i had to carry that baby all the way til the end in which my surviving child was born 8 weeks early due to it. i lost one of my babies but was still blessed with my son. these women are choosing which one to live and which to die, how do you make a choice like that? i’m a single mother and its hard enough raising my one child, but its worth it and would’ve been double worth it if the other had lived. i just wish that people who can get pregnant and/or have multiples would really take a step back and see how precious they are that they can do it, because there are SO MANY people out there who can’t have kids or who, like me had multiples with only one surving. everyday when i look into my son’s eyes i see how blessed i am but i can’t help but to wonder what the other child would’ve looked like at this point. and the sad part is that, when these children start to have children of their own ALL these women will have to face their consequences and tell them that yes, in fact they did have a twin (incase it happens again), now yes they could lie and say that it just didn’t make it, but, if you have to lie in the future you probably shouldn’t have made the intitial decision.

  251. by Sharon

    On December 19, 2012 at 11:27 am

    I am a single mother to a 10mo old baby girl and now pregnant with twins. I cannot imagine giving one of them up. How do you make that decision who gets to live and who doesn’t? It was my decision to get pregnant and it will be my responsibility to raise these twins along with their older sister. And by the way, I am not against abortions if done early on. I am against half abortions, especially if the pregnancy was planned and welcomed.

  252. by Lika

    On December 19, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    I guess i’ve always been pro-choice.. but this doesn’t quite sit right with me.. i mean if that was me, how could i choose one child over the other? i mean getting rid of a single pregnancy is one thing but to choose between two little babies.. deciding which one is better than the other.. i don’t know this just makes me really uncomfortable and really upset

  253. by Facebook likes

    On December 21, 2012 at 9:32 pm

    Actually inspiring

  254. by Cliff

    On January 1, 2013 at 10:37 am

    I believe abortions are wrong…period! The case being made that we are playing God when aborting a twin, any abortion is playing God and a choice is made to terminate life. To hide behind the words “fetus” in order to make it sound more right to take a life, is purely wrong. No matter which trimester stage the fetus is in, it is still life and it is a baby. The only difference is that the baby is the location….womb or borned. I’m for women’s rights to choose, but I’m not for the killing of a baby (infanticide). It’s simple, if you don’t want to get pregnant, be abstinent or use both birth control and condoms. Don’t punish or take the life of a baby because of your poor decision that got you pregnant. As far as aborting one twin, it’s wrong! Whether single or married, if the chances of you getting pregnant are probable, then you need to prepare for any outcome and love those babies equally and unconditionally. Think of the ramifications and consequences that will come when making such decision- short and long-term. Think about how you’ll explain away the twin to the surviving twin. We do not have the right to kill a baby, especially for selfish reasons. Do you really feel good when you make a decision that says, “sorry, you’re not good enough so we are going to abort/kill you, but we’re going to keep your twin alive.” How sad and pathetic! You should be ashamed of your decision for abortion. If you don’t want the baby, give the baby up for adoption and give the baby an opportunity to live. How dare you make a decision to take a life. Would you kill a born baby? If not, what difference does it make if the baby was in the womb? No difference except for location and which stage of growth the baby is at. It’s not about women’s choice, it’s the baby. You choice to get pregnant, then you need to deal with that responsibility.

  255. by Faith

    On January 3, 2013 at 9:39 pm

    My youngest son (adopted) was a twin. He had Down Syndrome while his twin brother was “typical”. His mother did not know he had downs or she said she would have had an abortion. When they found out (the boys were about 2 weeks old and born prematurely) They placed G up for adoption. I’ve heard a lot of bad things said about those parents, but Adoption IS the loving, giving, life sustaining option. I can’t imagine life without him. I would not ever choose to abort a one and keep another. For ANY REASON, including my own life. Every reason given above for selective abortion was selfish, pure and simple.

  256. by Allison

    On January 4, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    I have been blessed with fertility, and am pregnant with our 4th child. The others are 5,4,and 2. Yes, this is a surprise, however God has a plan for his or her life. Abortions are murder, and we as American worship convenience, things being easy, and having a lot of stuff. However, God is a God of forgivness and wants to forgive the mother and all moms who commit this murder. It does not make it right, but God wants them to repent and forgive. I just pray that as each person reads this they may find themselves with surprised with a lil will embrace and pray for direction. What society may see as inconvenient or overwhelming..God is saying-this is a treasure-will reveal so much to u..and please dont go down that path. I have a plan for this little ones life.

  257. by Megan

    On January 5, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    I just want to clarify something. The mother that chose to keep the girl twin and not the boy. How far along was she when she had the abortion? I am pregnant and i didn’t find out the sex of my daughter until 28 weeks, not for certain anyway. How did she know which was which? If she had aborted the girl by mistake would she have just aborted the boy later? I do not judge mothers/ women who chose to have abortions, it is totally up to them if they want to terminate a pregnancy. No one but them can know the circumstances of that termination. And as far as the women who get artificially pregnant, it’s hard to say what the “natural order” of things would have been if she hadn’t done that. Obviously she had to get artificially pregnant or she wouldn’t have done it that way. I want to make it clear that i am not judging these two women, and i can understand the woman who got artificially pregnant’s point of view, i just hope my comment can open some women’s eyes to more than one perspective.

  258. by Melinda Jones

    On January 6, 2013 at 11:06 am

    Being a mother of twin boys after undergoing years of fertility tx and having IVF work after implanting 2 embryos I don’t understand how anyone could abort at all in any situation. Espcially when it is someone who’s had to do fertility tx b/c after all the years of let down and loss of not being able to have kids- I think the MIRACLE of having a child or multiple children is a true gift from God himself. When the dr. saw both heartbeats he asked, “Are you all okay with twins?” We confidently said, “YES AFTER ALL WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH WE WILL TAKE HOW EVER MAY GIFTS GOD GIVES US!” To me it is playing God- It’s not up to us to decided “well I think I only want 1 child so I’ll just abort the other one.” It’s a child..a life…it’s not like saying, “Well I dont think I need 2 of these shirts I’ll just get rid of one of them.” And I personally don’t know how anyone could abort 1, give birth to the other and every day not look at the one child you decided to keep knowing you took their twin away from them. So sad.

  259. by Fiver

    On January 6, 2013 at 11:06 am

    I wholeheartedly believe in a woman’s right to choose to have a child or not, but I think it’s an incredibly selfish thing to do to the surviving child. I think just about everyone has thought about how wonderful it would be to have a twin, someone who was always there with you from the beginning of your existance and I think these parents are taking something away from their child that, if he or she knew, would cause terrible resentment and grief.

  260. by Charla

    On January 8, 2013 at 11:13 pm

    As a mother of b/g twins, I just cannot imagine choosing to abort one of them. They are the result of in-vitro fertilization; why would I work so hard and wait so long for something, only to have one of my babies killed??!! It doesn’t make any sense to me.

  261. by Maria

    On January 9, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Congratulations to Nick for using a sensational story to advance her closeted anti-choice agenda.
    That’s what anti-choice activists do best. They use a clearly disturbing example of abortion to rile up otherwise reasonable people into their camp. Abortion is a right and a choice. Anyone who objects to it has the freedom to not have one.
    @parents needs to step up the quality of its blog content. This is pathetic.

  262. by kathy

    On January 11, 2013 at 7:33 am

    I could not imagine ever having a abortion. I lost my son in 1995 to sids tried so hard to have another baby it still has never happened. I have a 9 year old daughter my sister blessed me with. Wish people that was blessed enough to have kids would have them and bless people like me and my daughter who would love and cherish them adopt them instead.I would give anything for another baby not only for myself but for my little angel as well

  263. by scott

    On January 12, 2013 at 8:48 am

    If we are going to discuss this lets at least call it what it really is. It is not a choice it is murder quit hiding behind the feel good terms to cover what this actually is. over 50 million babies since 1973. This nation will be judged and its people. how will anyone stand before God on day and try to explain why they think this is acceptable. Do you think you will convince him, Even if you do not believe in God how can anyone morally justify this act.

  264. by Angie

    On January 13, 2013 at 11:22 am

    Really shows how selfish we as a society are, to even think its okay. i am not about telling people what to do. But a person should feel guilty about this. These people with their selfish actions to make choices are becoming parents. wonder what kind of parents they will be. As a parent, shouldnt your CHILDREN come first.

  265. by shelia arp

    On January 14, 2013 at 10:43 pm

    Why am I so shocked!!! This day and time I should not be suprized at all. My heart just broke in disbeleif. Looking at that sweet baby and to think you killed his brother or sister! Its bad enough if someone chooses to have an abortion. But if u can afford fertility treatments then u could afford another child. JUST SO SADD!!!

  266. by Jamie Klein

    On January 15, 2013 at 7:50 am

    We live in a culture of self worship , putting your own needs and desires before others, and finding ways to justify anything .if mothers can murder their own babies , and people support that, then really what is off limits anymore?as a society we have lost our moral compass .

  267. by Rachel Davis

    On January 15, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    I love my twins and after reading this, I am going to make sure everyone knows it. I don’t want to let any mom who might ever get pregnant with twins to look at my life and think, “it would be so hard.” I want to show each mom that it is truly a wonderful blessing!!! Then when faced with the choice of terminating a life, they might think, “if she can do it, I can do it.” I am humble enough to be ok with that :)

  268. by kestl

    On January 17, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    This is the most idiotic thing I’ve ever heard…I would think that by doing this you are actually jeopardizing the lives of both babies. Geez. Why don’t you just put the child up for adoption…you are already pregnant and are staying pregnant.

  269. by Alison

    On January 21, 2013 at 8:11 am

    I find this story disgusting!!!! Reading the reasons some of the people chose to abort 1 fetus is gut-wrenching. If you can’t take care of them, don’t have any!! I think if you have a half-abortion then maybe you should have your surviving child taken away, if it’s so easy for you to kill one of your children, who says it won’t be easy for you to kill the one you “chose” to keep.

  270. by Ann

    On January 22, 2013 at 5:53 am

    “Mommy Dearest” extended into the womb. I can’t imagine how the surviving twin would feel when learning of this.

  271. by Logan

    On January 23, 2013 at 3:03 am

    You wanna ban guns(which are inanimate objects that by themselves can not harm or kill anyone) because someone my not use them responsibly and my hurt/ kill themselves or another person yet society has no problem with people irresponsibly having sex and allowing the wonton murder of children because the individual’s life wasn’t in order? Or they already had one sex of a child?

    Let’s be reasonable here folks. Yes guns in the hands of the ignorant, irresponsible and evil people are dangerous and darn right there needs to be stiffer penalties for firearm incidences.

    But isn’t it a greater crime to not use common sense when it comes to the creation of life? Why should a child have to die because the mother(and the father sometimes)didn’t have her life in order yet? Where is the fairness in that? You speak of tragic murders in the media happening day in and day out. Well at least those children got to live in the first place. At least their parents(in most cases) loved them enough to put the lives of their children first, then their lives second. That is real love. Putting the child first.

    Sadly there will always be rape(I loathe that fact myself)but, even then there are adoption agencies all throughout the world and people willing to take these children. There are so many options out there that are much better alternatives to abortion.

    Soon I’ll be a new father and let me tell you something. When I first heard that heart beat and saw that ultrasound I knew right then and there that wasn’t a fetus. That was a human being that is half of me. I knew real love in that moment. That was my baby boy looking back at me. I will willingly die for him to make sure he is protected and provided for. I will be uncomfortable and have plethora of inconveniences if it means he grows up happy healthy strong and smart. Why because that’s what a parent does. They put their lives on hold for their children.

    When I see the numbers of murders by firearms compared to the numbers of abortions(murders)each year in America I wonder how we as a society much less a race got this far. Somehow hoplophbia(fear of weapons) is okay yet the idea of banning abortions is just unthinkable under the guise of women’s rights

    We have got to think of a better way of doing things in this country. Because abortion is not just a woman’s rights issue. It’s a human rights issue because it takes a man and a woman for a pregnancy to happen. This is a much more serious issue than gun violence.

  272. by Jessica

    On January 23, 2013 at 10:03 am

    How can it be right to kill a baby. But very wrong to hit one, abuse an animal, for a man to hit a woman. You say it should be the mothers choice. Isn’t abortion forcing that choice on an unborn child who doesnot have the ability to speak for itself

  273. by Jackie

    On January 23, 2013 at 11:54 am

    I myself went thru fertility treatment and I cannot see myself doing this. I was told that I would need to do this if I was to have twins. And I just couldn’t imagine ending a life no matter what! A baby is a miracle!

  274. by Ellie

    On January 24, 2013 at 11:00 am

    I think reducing human beings to numbers is dangerous, regardless of how they were conceived. Choosing convenience over life is just selfish… How likely does it seem that such a parent would choose convenience over their other children’s health or well being? Don’t mean to judge here, just saying that true character shows through important decisions like this. Just a couple of weeks ago where I live, a mom of an 8mo old gave birth to QUADRUPLETS conceived naturally. Of course she was told to reduce, but I’m sure she can’t imagine doing things differently with those angelic little faces in front of her. Yes it will be difficult for this family, but they are already receiving a ton of community support. Oh and did I mention the dad is a disabled veteran… that was told he would never be able to have children. You can bet he’s counting his blessings now! I think with abortion it’s too easy to justify taking a life when you don’t have to look him/her in the eye or face any legal consequences. Also to those claiming most abortions are medically necessary… How many times has it been said in this thread and elsewhere that moms were told that there was something wrong with their baby, that it was deformed, retarded, not viable, etc only to go on to give birth to a perfectly HEALTHY baby? When I was pregnant with #2 I was told by the specialists office that there could be something wrong with my baby and presented with options for aborting… BEFORE THEY EVEN DID AN ULTRASOUND TO EVALUATE THE BABY. WTF?? I was pissed off and upset. I was only getting the evaluation because the OB couldn’t see everything clearly with their equipment… nothing abnormal had even been observed yet, and in the end, she was born perfectly healthy. Every child deserves a chance, and deserves to be loved… abortion just personally offends me, because like everyone posting here… I too was once an innocent defenseless bundle of cells. I am no different than any aborted baby, except that I was in the right place at the right time. So sad for all that weren’t… where’s the compassion people??

  275. by Natashia

    On January 26, 2013 at 10:35 pm

    @ Leanne, please know that if you support any type of abortion, your are supporting the entire spectrum, from the first few weeks up to full term abortions. Everyone, when one supports abortion, they are supporting the actions of the abortion industry. Such action include babies being born alive and left for dead, live organ harvesting without anesthesia, Late to full tern abortions, and the marketing and use of aborted babies for use in commercial products. I used to be pro-choice, before I learned the truths that surround the abortion industry. I have also had an abortion many years ago. I was a product of the mass conditioning that society programs us about abortion. For one to fully know what they are supporting, they must dive into a journey towards truth re abortion and the abortion industry and be willing to seek out and view the different types of abortions and all other information. God bless. Thank you for letting me comment.

  276. by Bridgette

    On January 30, 2013 at 11:36 am

    All I can say is this makes me think of the story of a woman who has a 1 year old and is also pregnant and goes to the doctor to get an abortion and the doctor says to her well ill just kill the one in your arms so that you have time to rest for the one in your belly? It’s the same right?

    It’s true stupidity like that to show us exactly how dumb some women are for killing their children because of a selection process. YOU GOT IMPLANTED ON PURPOSE AND YOU ARE SURPRISED YOU GOT 2?!?! our of how many that you had put inside you! I am appalled at decisions that people make like this.

    Yes I understand the abortions that are medical, ex:Missing a brain.

  277. by Doug

    On January 31, 2013 at 4:41 am

    In summary, “Bla bla bla, I murdered my child, but only one of the two. Please don’t hate me or call me evil.” Too late.

  278. by Sara

    On January 31, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    These excuses are way too lame. If you are going through pregnancy and can’t handle two, that’s one big reason adoption even exists! I am pro life, but I can understand when some abort because the baby is harming the other twin or even if it has a 10% chance of living with the likelihood of $$millions in medical bills, but “I’m a single mother” and “2 would just be too complicated” grow up!

  279. by Christina

    On January 31, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    First I would like to say I am not a religious person and all my views are not skewed by anything but my own feelings/emotions/experiences. In general I am very up in the air about abortions to begin with. No, I don’t think it should be completely outlawed, but I also don’t think it should be done just for the heck of it if someone finds themselves pregnant several times. PREGNANCY IS AVOIDABLE. As for this two-minus one pregnancy, I don’t think I could support any of the reasons given for doing it. They all seem pretty selfish. I mean, come on, we’re talking about a life here. I think when it comes to a “normal” abortion I am only for it if there has been a rape and/or for medical reasons (the mother’s life is threatened by the pregnancy), so as for a half abortion I’m going to have to say the same, but I would think in that case both would have to go. I’m torn. It just doesn’t seem fair to the “unwanted” child. Who are we to chose which deserves to live? I think I secretly (not so secretly now) hope one of them that chooses this path births a child with disabilities to keep them wondering if they made the wrong decision. Karma can be a bitch.

  280. by NoAdditives

    On February 1, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    If you can’t deal with the possibility of twins, don’t get pregnant. Don’t use fertility treatments. This is no different than parents who are disappointed that they didn’t get the gender they wanted. It’s not up to you. If you want to be so controlling about the process, adopt kids. When you leave it to biology, it’s a crap shoot. All of the justifications given in this article are selfish and ridiculous. Doing this for medical reasons is one thing, but to choose to keep a girl and abort the boy because the mother already had a boy is nothing but selfish. Saying that twins would be too complicated? Selfish. I’m on my fourth pregnancy and cannot stop thinking that I’m having twins. Having five children seems way crazier than just four. But, there is no way I’d abort one of them.

  281. by Becky

    On February 1, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    I don’t think abortion should be banned (people should not be forced to bend to my opinions or morals), though I feel it is pathetic to consider an unborn fetus to not be a living person as a technicality to justify abortion in any scenario as our law does. When sex cells combine, a new life is made, even if it does not resemble a human being in shape or function for a long time as it grows and matures. Therefore, if you abort it at any point after discovering this living thing, you are terminating a living thing. It is a human, therefore, this is killing a person. Choosing to terminate any human’s life whether fetus or adult capable of defending his or her life is “playing God” as many have said. To anyone considering abortion of any type, I ask why is your life so important that you feel you can choose the path or continuance of another’s life? I have a friend with four boys (two are twins). They adopted a girl after 6 miscarriages. They are so grateful to have her after many years of pain. Adoption is a great option, though it takes some sacrificing to do a good, right thing. Another friend of mine has six kids. They wanted to stop at five but conceived accidentally. They struggle more than most of you ever would to provide for their kids, but would never consider aborting. The mom has two part time jobs and their home is far too small, but they have six amazing kids who are deeply loved and treasured. One of their children was a twin, but her sister was stillborn. She had never been told, but eerily knew she had a twin sister when talking with her mother one day as a five year old. Even if parents who abort one twin try to keep it a “private matter,” somehow people just now there is something, or in this case someone, missing. The reasoning for these abortions in this story seem rather petty. Consider the gravity of your decision before your personal preference on the gender or number of kids wanted. If you are already having another child anyway and are not putting yourself at high risk, consider carrying both children and putting one up for adoption. There is no shortage of people who would be blessed by the opportunity to raise that child as their own and give him or her the opportunity to live as he or she has the right to.

  282. by Wrench

    On February 3, 2013 at 1:57 pm

    Howard, I’m curious how you can say that “the vast majority” are for medical reasons, when the Alan Guttmacher Institute — Planned Parenthood’s research branch — states that fewer than 1% of all abortions are due to fetal anomaly. It’s not exactly like they’re biased against medical abortion; they have no reason to understate the issue.

    Twins run heavily in my family, and each pregnancy I’ve felt a twinge of wondering, “Is it one or two this time?” And while I know twins would be riskier for me than for most (I have a pregnancy-related heart condition, and a previous c-section) if I was so worried about how twins would affect my life, I just wouldn’t get pregnant again. You NEVER, ever know what the future holds, and if you’re unwilling to embrace uncertainty, then you shouldnt’ run the risk of encountering it. Of course, then you’ll never really live, or love.

    My oldest son has a nongenetic global learning disorder which wasn’t diagnosed till he was 2. I’m sure that if I had known, while I was pregnant, that he would have had these limitations, I would have thought to myself, “That’s too much. I have a stressful job and school, and I just can’t handle this.” But if I had aborted him for that, I would have missed out on all the joy he’s brought me, too. You just never know what your future is going to be; stop trying to control it and embrace the reality before you. You’ll be happier and the world will be a better place.

  283. by Twinmom

    On February 4, 2013 at 7:40 am

    WOW. Because the pregnancy was accomplished through IVF, the decision to abort one twin was consumerish?


    If you don’t want to have twins do not put in more than one embryo. Yes, that one embryo can split but chances are more against than for.

    As a mom of twin boys conceived through IVF at NO point EVER did I consider it consumerish. I considered it “life” and am so blessed to have them both. My world would be lost without them. I’m sorry but I have no sympathy for her when she conceived through IVF as that is a conscious choice.

  284. by Jacqueline

    On February 4, 2013 at 12:05 pm

    Initially when I first started reading this totally ludicrous idea of “half abortions” as a choice that has nothing to do with the medical health of the baby or mother and only for the simple reason that it’s not convenient for the mother, I nearly had a stroke! I know you want our input and not to “judge” unless you have walked in their shoes….well guess what? I am a darn proud mom of twins that were conceived via IUI. I was told by my endocrinologist early on that with fertility treatment there is that risk of having multiples. But for most people who go to these EXTREMES to even have children, know the risks. The doctor did mention reduction as something to think about, but it was for health reasons. With my body frame being small at 5’1, it was a discussion he had to have with me. Initially I was having triplets and Mother nature decided two was plenty ….not me…Since the third never developed after the 2nd week…I was happy that I was pregnant PERIOD! One…or two… they are lives that unless the health of the mother or the unborn’s are at risk there should be no reason to abort one for convenience. For those who wanted children after having several and decided to keep one because of financial reasons, because I can only give attention to ONE more, or I wanted a girl but not the boy DO NOT DESERVE TO HAVE GOTTEN PREGNANT AGAIN. Tend to your “other children”, find a hobbie with your other children, or get a female dog. Seriously folks, YOU WERE given the gift to create life not pick and choose for your benefit. I think one person mentioned it How would you feel to be that child that scathed the “chopping block” and got to live only to find out that dear old mom decide to get rid of my sibling because it wasn’t convenient for her or her finances. Think about that one next time you look at your child…..or want to make such a harsh decision to even get pregnant in the first place because you think you want one more. There are dozens of women out there who have been trying for years, struggling and desperate to try anything to be blessed them the gift of conception and carrying a baby. A lot of them have to turn to other ways to make their families. And here you have some women, who find this gift as a luxury to pick and choose from. Wow it’s scary to know that there are people who are walking around in the world thinking this is totally normal??!! Where have our morals gone to?
    BY the way, I am and have been in the medical field for 13 years….and all the excuses these women have used are completely unexcuesable.

  285. by Kara

    On February 6, 2013 at 11:32 pm

    This breaks my heart. My kids lives could have very easily ended before they began. Their moms gave me the greatest gift any person could ever give. I’m a mom of 4 (2 boys & 2 girls) because their moms choose life.

  286. by Carrie Stewrt

    On February 7, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    I don’t need to judge….the bible has made God’s feelings very clear, ” thou shalt not kill”! How can a mother choose to kill one of their children? If you think you can’t provide is beautiful baby with a good home then give it to someone who will!

  287. by Adriane

    On February 13, 2013 at 5:55 pm

    I think this is terribly sad. It makes my stomach ache for that other lost little baby.

  288. by Jessica

    On February 21, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    I am tired of conversations starting “too late” in situations like this where the people are actively trying to get pregnant but “get” too many or become pregnant because they did not try to keep from being so. The discussion should be if you don’t think you can be a devoted parent, have the time to take care of, or have almost enough kids already, don’t get pregnant! The fact of the matter is I am pro-choice but not when it’s a case of someone who’s aborting a child because it’s inconvenient or too costly have more than one child or oops I forgot to take my pills. It should NEVER be a birth control method. Be responsible BEFORE having sex. Take the time to analyze your financial, social, and family situation and if you can bring a child into this world. They aren’t accessories and it’s not a decision to take lightly.

  289. by camber

    On February 23, 2013 at 5:01 pm

    I am a twin and couldn’t imagine life without my sister. I think that they are not only choosing to keep a baby but they are changing everything about the baby they choose to keep.. theyq are also changing the baby’s personality and taking away the one person that would’ve been there for them their whole life!

  290. by Emily in Wonderland

    On February 24, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    You are using judgmental, swaying terms throughout this artificial- it’s not called an “abortion.” It’s called “selective reduction,” and is more typically utilized for the overall health of the pregnancy. Carrying twins increases risks. A twin pregnancy automatically is upped to a “risky” pregnancy label, regardless of how the mother is handling it. Although those may be the reasons the mother ultimately made the decision, this option is presented in almost any multiples scenario in order to preserve the pregnancy, period. It’s “selective reduction” in order to result in the birth of A child, ANY child. The goal of IVF or an IUI is to result in ONE child, not a litter. All of those issues were skipped over in this article.

    That said: I do not believe in selective reduction. But I do not believe in manipulative journalism either.

  291. by Janet

    On February 28, 2013 at 6:35 am

    My heart grieves for what we have come to in society – aside from my religious beliefs, psychologically how would you justify this to the living child when s/he is thirteen? “You were a twin but by dumb luck we chose to keep you and not your brother.” or do you just try to keep it a secret and cultivate a culture of lies within your own family? I can only imagine, as the living child, that it would be completely demoralizing to find out either way – “My parents have told me lies since my birth.” or “I was 3 mm away from death and it was random that they chose me over my sister. I could be dead right now!” Praying for our nation to have a change of heart in these matters.

  292. by Janelle

    On February 28, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    Sounds CRAZY. People think they can design everything. Next it will be selecting what genes they want their baby to have. Society keeps drifting further and further from nature.

  293. by Simone Reilly

    On March 1, 2013 at 4:39 am

    Personally I don’t care. It’s none of my business. Just like its none of your business, you twits.

  294. by Ana

    On March 2, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    So cold and heartless.

    I lost one child who was stillborn at 6 months pregnancy, and I grieved for YEARS. I don’t understand how anyone can be a “good mother” and kill her child? There is no way to justify this.
    Hitler would be proud, and I mean this with all my heart.

  295. by Shelby

    On March 5, 2013 at 2:31 pm

    Abortion is abortion no matter how you do it. You’re taking away the lives of helpless babies. If you have sex and conceive a baby (including unplanned pregnancy) or if you conceive through medical ways, you’re taking the responsibility of the fact that you may or may not become pregnant and that you may have one baby or multiple babies. So, the fact that this woman made the decision to end the life of her child (especially only one of them which her child may not understand when he’s older) just because she didn’t conceive them naturally doesn’t make it any better and doesn’t justify the abortion. Murder is murder no matter how you try to define, explain, excuse or justify it. These are unborn, helpless children we’re talking about. If you think it’s okay to kill the LIVING child in your stomach then does that make it okay to kill the LIVING child in your arms? NO. So, think twice before you abort a child or support someone who does.

  296. by Michele

    On March 5, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    Disgusting! I have 21 month old twins and would have never consider this. We weren’t in the best financial position when I got pregnant, but aborting one would have never ever ever crossed my mind. As for the comment about the natural order of things… REALLY??? If you truly believe that, then don’t do fertility treatments and believe that there’s a reason you can’t get pregnant! If you do IVF then consider the possibility you may end up with multiples. But you can’t have it both ways!

  297. by jb

    On March 6, 2013 at 12:32 am

    I’ve had an abortion (age 21), donated eggs (one of which was successfully implanted into a woman and a son was born) at age 25 and had a child of my own at age 36 who is now 4 years old. All of these were difficult decisions, for their own reasons. The ONLY one that “haunts” me is the egg donation. I feel NO regret about the abortion and few regrets about the birth of my daughter (her birth was not ideal due to medical complications and her father is not ideal due to alcoholism). I have had to and chosen to make a myriad of reproductive decisions- they were mine, the consequences are mine and my families to deal with. Anyone who feels these choices should be regulated by someone else needs to back off of MY LIFE. I am the child of a teenage mother and I must say, based on my childhood and the impact of my existence on my mother and father, sometimes choosing to have a child is the selfish act. Stew on that a little before you push your moral codes on others.

  298. by Nancy

    On March 9, 2013 at 9:56 pm

    I think the “choice” should be made BEFORE conception, and never afterward.

  299. by The New Double Standard | thelittlerichards

    On March 10, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    [...] they had a few recommended articles to read and one really caught my attention. It was called “The Half Abortion: Only Keeping One Twin” and it was written in response to a New York Times article about the rising number of women [...]

  300. by Sarah

    On March 12, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    How do people choose which of their children to abort? I was a nanny to a set of triplets + their little brother. Their family would not have been complete with every one of those wonderful, beautiful children.
    To the person saying a baby isn’t a baby before 22 weeks…carry a baby and then say that. Feel the wonderful aliveness of those first movements and then say that.
    When I was pregnant with my daughter, I saw her via ultrasound at 12 weeks. She had fingers, toes, eyes, nose, mouth…I watched her hiccup in the womb and move around. When I started feeling her move at around 17 weeks, she was so wonderfully alive! She had a favorite position in the womb, she was awake and asleep in there at certain times of the day, she got the hiccups if I ate anything too spicy, she really hated it when I slept in certain positions etc. To say she was anything less than a little human is wrong. She was my baby and I knew her before she took her first breath.

  301. by Rachel

    On March 14, 2013 at 11:45 pm

    I’m a twin, my mom had help with fertility drugs and she was ecstatic to find out she was having twins. In her eyes she was blessed because it took 3 years for her. I couldn’t imagine life without my brother. I’m very disturbed by this and don’t see how you play god and choose to end a life because its not what you planned. Children are a blessing from god.

  302. by F

    On March 29, 2013 at 11:17 am

    Sounds like a little too much obsession with “control”.

  303. by kate

    On March 29, 2013 at 7:12 pm

    For the people that believe that its ok to abort a fetus up to 22 weeks because they dont feel anything, are immoral and plain stupid!!! I recommend watching ” the silent scream”, it will change your views on what a fetus does and how it reacts. This is what is wrong with this country. Idiot people taking lives of unborn children because it would be an inconvenience for them.

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  305. by julie

    On April 7, 2013 at 10:54 am

    I knew women had abortions for in my opinion stupid reasons but I was somehow shocked by this. The problem with our world is people not understanding or caring about their consequences of their actions not the abortions and someone who said its “the cream of the crop not having kids and people on welfare keeping theirs”…that was more of a shock that someone is so ignorant to the world then to women doing half abortions basically bc they felt like it would be toohard…NEWS FLASH parenting is never easy, EVER! And if you can’t do it have an adoption plan not abortion plan. Obviously this isnt an option for medical reasons.

  306. by Twinnies mummy

    On April 12, 2013 at 12:16 am

    My twins are a blessing and I could not imagine only having one of them. After having IVF to conceive them I couldn’t imagine ‘reducing’ them so my life could be easier or financially better! No matter how many kids you have they are always going to make your life more challenging and financially stressful at times! I even made the decision not to have the two amniocentesis because I knew I couldn’t go through with a ‘reduction’ if an abnormality was found. This is because the chemical used can be fatal for the other fetus. I understand that sometimes there are serious medical reasons why an abortion might be an appropriate course to take and I think women should have that right. I personally struggle to find some of the reasons in the article valid for a half termination.

    I see adoption as being a far more acceptable means of ‘downsizing’ twins if you feel unable to cope with two babies at once! There are so many couples unable to have their own children who would be delighted to give that child the chance at life!

    I love that I’ve been given the chance not just at motherhood, but of being a multiples mummy. I cherish every busy, noisy day with my two toddlers, even when it’s crap!!!

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  309. by Robin

    On April 22, 2013 at 10:30 am

    Here’s a soultion to abortion: kill yourself before your baby. If you can kill your baby, do yourself in first. The baby is human and you who abort deserve death. Don’t want babies? Don’t spread your legs simple as that. Get yourselves fixed if you don’t want babies. Abortion kills babies end of story.

  310. by Ali

    On April 22, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    I find this disturbing. While I am sure they had their self-justifiable “reasons” for choosing to do this, I cannot understand or condone their decision to end a life. I personally found out when I was pregnant at twelve weeks with my baby girl that she had a twin that didn’t develop past six or seven weeks and was completely devastated to have lost a baby I would never meet. Yes, I have my beautiful daughter, but I still wonder what it would have been like to have two little blessings. No, I did not “plan” for twins and yes, it would have vastly complicated our lives. It would have been even more exhausting, expensive, and time consuming. Even so, if it had been in my power I still would have done anything to keep my other little one. There are always other options and the selfishness of some people is beyond me. Kids are never easy an they don’t always fit the “plan.” They are NOT pets that you can discard if they become too much work, too expensive, or too much of a burden. They’re people. Something to consider BEFORE you decide to bring them into (or apparently not bring them into) this world.

  311. by Amber

    On April 23, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    As a mother of healthy nine month old quadruplets the idea of “half abortion” or multi fetal reduction breaks my heart. The day we saw for tiny heartbeats on our ultrasound we knew that option would be presented and we rejected it before the doctor could even explain. Raising quads is no easy feat, but they are worth every minute of it. I cannot imagine what it would be like with out one or more of them. They are precious and blessings to us!

  312. by Michael

    On April 26, 2013 at 8:44 am

    It is a sign of the times, a child is a child no matter the manner and surcumstances of there creation. This is another sign of the devaluation of children as a means to an end instead of a good in and of themselves. It is not so much prolife vs prochoice but a world view of how you see other people. Does the existence of others serve you well or not. What value do the people that don’t serve you well have? Other than love a child has nothing to offer other than dependence on a parent. In the end love is the only gift we will be able to take with us. I love all 6 of my children and their gift of love to me is well worth the investment and sacrifices I as a parent make. Not every ones sees it this way now, but they will one day. I hope when they do they will look to all of there children and have no regrets.

  313. by Molly

    On April 27, 2013 at 12:09 am

    As a parent who has carried twins, I am surprised that the article did not cite anyone stating they did a reduction based on health reasons. Twin pregnancies are much higher risk than singletons. As a young, healthy woman I had a number of difficulties during my pregnancy, during the birth, and my infants had some risk factors associated with low birth weight and being twins. As much as I adore my twins, next time around I’d like to have just one, for my health and theirs. In my Mothers of Multiples Club there are MANY moms who had children in the NICU for months, many of whom continue to have health problems. Depending on individual health factors, reducing to a singleton may be the safest way for both mom and baby to go. This is an extremely personal, often heart-wrenching decision that many couples faced with triplets, quads and more are force fed by their doctors. I don’t think anyone has a right to dictate my reproductive decisions so I will stay out of their business on this matter.

  314. by Holly

    On April 28, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    I desperately wanted children and underwent fertility treatments which resulted in a triplet pregnancy. Before I conceived, my doctor had told me that I would not be able to carry a triplet pregnancy to term and probably not even a twin pregnancy because my uterus was abnormally shaped. Making the decision to reduce the pregnancy to twins remains the most gut-wrenching decision of my entire life and one that I have thought of every day in the 12 years since. Maybe I could have carried all 3 but maybe not. Maybe they all would have been born extremely premature and none of them would have survived to live healthy lives. I’ll never know. But I know that I made the best decision that I could for two of my unborn children and perhaps I can find solace in that. Don’t think all women who make this choice do it for their convenience.

  315. by The Half Abortion? Playing God… | Written Write

    On April 28, 2013 at 5:30 pm

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  316. by Tiffany

    On April 29, 2013 at 2:13 pm

    If there is a health risk to the mother or baby an abortion may be alright. I had a son born with hydranancephily and he was completely dependent on me and his dad. He passed away at age 2. Those were the hardest two years of my life. I knew he was going to be born with these disorders and I had to option of abortion. I chose to allow him to live his life, regardless how log or short it would be and how it would affect me. It wasn’t his fault. There are ways to prevent pregnancies. Don’t murder an innocent child because of your ignorance. Plain and simple: abortions are murder. Life begins as soon as that tiny heart
    starts beating. This article is sickening. ” hmm I think I want just one, you can’t go ahead a kill the other one”.

  317. by Mary

    On May 1, 2013 at 3:44 pm

    I’m going to only say this… To say the child was artificial and just another decision is disgusting. Especially for a woman who obviously had trouble conceiving in the first place. What a miracle to become pregnant and especially with two. The human race is so selfish and I feel as though you didn’t deserve the miracle of becoming pregnant if that’s how you were going to treat it.

  318. by bp

    On May 1, 2013 at 8:54 pm

    If you aren’t going to accept the children you are pregnant with then why TRY to get pregnant in the first place (regardless of whether it’s natural or medically-assisted)? And how does one simply go about picking and choosing which one to abort? The reasons listed are all very self-serving. I think it’s just disturbing no matter which side of the fence you’re on.

  319. by Laura

    On May 3, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    It’s not a half abortion. It’s a full abortion of one baby. An abortion doesn’t make you unpregnant. It makes you the mother of a dead baby. There is no excuse for abortion. It should be illegal everywhere. For those of you arguing that they are needed because women will still get them ie back alley abortions, SO WHAT!! Druggies die in alleys all the time. We aren’t legalizing cocaine anytime soon. People make choices. Bad choices. Just because a lot of people make those bad choices doesn’t mean we need to legalize them. As for rape and incest, they only account for less than one percent, and women who are capable of killing their child are perfectly capable of lying. The only ones who suffers are the babies.

  320. by Anon

    On May 3, 2013 at 10:31 pm

    Oh wah to all you pro-lifers. Don’t take away someone else’s rights because you have it in your mind that a clump of cells is a baby. Suck the clump out and see if it’s viable for me, yeah? It’s not.

    Anyway, I would do it if it were me. I’m signing on to parent one kid, not two. And if I feel the need to downsize, I will. Besides. That one could be the evil twin and turn into Hitler and I bet all of you wish Hitler’s mom aborted him.

  321. by Anon2

    On May 4, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    I wish these families would consider adoption.

  322. by Patricia

    On May 5, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    I wonder how the surviving twin will feel one day about their parents when they learn they had a twin, and he/she was terminated by their parents because of the inconvenience.

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