Not Being Disappointed by Lowered Expectations
It’s no secret that part of my “gimmick” as a parent blogger is to simply maintain a positive outlook and tone. In fact, my optimistic attitude angered and frustrated dozens of people with g>one blog in particular, which caused a brief uproar on Parents.com’s Facebook wall. But while I choose to be Mr. Positive, I also choose to be real; I don’t sugarcoat anything.
One of the major ways I am able to remain positive, as a dad who is potentially always in a situation where I could easily be frustrated simply because of the fact that I am dealing with an infant who has a reputation of being illogical, is to keep my expectations low. Because with reasonably low expectations, it’s much more difficult to become disappointed.
I personally am more likely to experience an ongoing sense of well-being when my expectations are consistently met; even if those met expectations don’t include a decently positive outcome. I guess it just feels good to be right about something; especially regarding the uncontrollable and often unpredictable future.
Therefore, our recent flight from Nashville to Sacramento with our son went better than I expected; for the fact that A) our luggage didn’t get lost; B) we didn’t miss our connecting flight in Denver; C) Jack didn’t vomit all over me during the middle of the flight; and D) I wasn’t aware of how hungry I was from not eating dinner before the flight because I was too preoccuppied with my reasonably low expectations about Jack not doing well on the plane ride.
One of the things that being a dad has taught me is that I am the kind of person who has to be (or at least feel) in control of the things in life that I think I am supposed to be able to control. And when I can’t control certain situations as a parent and am aware of how not in control I am, I get really stressed out and anxious.
So perhaps the worst parts of flying to Sacramento were actually just in my head. Still though, in reality, it wasn’t a smooth and seamless transition. Instead of continuing the entertaining details and stories of the trip in this post, I will instead tell all about it in the following post.