The Doom and Gloom of “You Just Wait”
A year ago, when my wife was pregnant with our son, co-workers would ask me about what was going through my head about becoming a dad. I would always respond by telling them I was aware of how my life was going to change, but that ultimately, I was excited about it all.
And what typically was their response?
“Well, you just wait until he’s crying in the middle of the night and you’re not getting any sleep… You just wait until he turns two years old and he’s pitching a fit… You just wait until he’s a teenager and he acts like he hates you…”
Needless to say, I’ve heard this unsolicited “well, you just wait until he gets older” gloom and doom more than I care to. Well, here I am, a year later, and I’m still the same positive guy living with my realistic expectations; which certain people view as a fantasy.
The phrase “well, you just wait” is just another version of “I told you,” translating into “I can’t say ‘I told you so’ yet because enough time hasn’t gone by, so you’ll just have to wait so that you can see that I am right and you are naïve.”
I would bet that in the history of the world there has never been a time when a person has truly appreciated hearing “I told you so” or any form of it. So “well, you just wait” doesn’t translate any differently to me.
Admittedly, it can be tricky trying to figure out what to do when it comes to parenting because it’s so easy to become overwhelmed by not only so many techniques out there, but also so many people confidently telling you that what worked for them and their child is the best (and only) way to do it.
Often, a lot of the parenting advice I hear just gets lost in the noise. Granted, this blog is technically designed to give fellow parents advice, as I often do. So am I just adding to the noise pollution, as I regularly share my noticeably conservative and undeniably positive outlook on fatherhood?
Maybe. But whether or not you ever adopt my views on any particular aspect of parenting, and whether or not you find any of them to be effective, my intention is to speak with authority while not coming across as a know-it-all. Will I be able to successfully pull off that delicate balance?
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