Nothing to Lose; Everything to Gain Back

Seven months.

Last Tuesday on July 5th, my wife and I celebrated our third wedding anniversary… at Panera Bread in the neighboring town of Rome, Georgia.  While we typically take a weekend trip to a bed-and-breakfast for our anniversary, this year had to be different.  And not just because we have an infant now, but because we’re in the midset of restarting our lives again as we prepare to move back to Nashville.

Needless to say, if we’re moving because we just couldn’t come close to making it financially here in Alabama, which is precisely why we are moving back,then we didn’t have the money or mental capacity to enjoy a relaxing weekend getaway trip this time.

The flowers I gave my wife this year were picked from our backyard.  While they may seem like the cheapest flowers I’ve ever given her, they were actually the most expensive.  I could have only obtained these flowers by us moving away from our financially secure life in Nashville and exhausting almost all of the savings we moved down here with. So yeah, they weren’t cheap flowers.

But at this point it’s about proactively moving forward; not getting stuck in the damning mind game of “if only we would have known…”. My motivational life slogan right now is, “I’ve got nothing to lose; everything to gain back… and more.”  We’ve never had a better advantage in life than we do right now, based on what we’ve learned by moving away from Nashville.

You can imagine that if our anniversary dinner was a sandwich and salad combo at Panera Bread, that we know now more than ever, how to appreciate living on little.  So as we re-enter a lifestyle where our combined income will be well over double what it has been for the past several months, we will maintain our current 1930’s Depression Era mindset from now on.

Yes, this has been our version of The Depression that our grandparents experienced.  We are forever changed by it.  More income for us will simply mean more money wisely managed.  It’s been a baptism by fire; no doubt.

So as for next year for our fourth wedding anniversary, I plan on the two of us being able to go away to a bed-and-breakfast again, in a quirky town where we can enjoy a few nice meals.  I will buy her really nice flowers, too.  But still, this will all take place as frugally as possible, without compromising the enjoyment of it.

We’ve got nothing to lose; everything to gain back… and more.

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  1. by Becky Bowman

    On July 16, 2011 at 11:53 am

    You are a courageous family! My husband and I are in a great depression sort of life right now as well. Having a 15 month old in a one bedroom apartment is a challenge, but we are making it work and I am thankful to read stories like yours that help give me hope and also let me know that I’m not alone in the tight living. Good luck in your future endeavors!

  2. by Kristi

    On July 16, 2011 at 4:43 pm

    We are in a similar situation as your family. Me and my fiancé have two kids together 2 &4. Recurrently live in a two bedroom upstairs apartment which is hard on all of us. In September we are moving back to AZ! We are so happy starting our new lives close to my family which is his to. And looking forward to getting married in the future. I wish you 3 the best of luck. Love got you in the situation and it WILL get you out. Stay strong

  3. by Nick Shell

    On July 16, 2011 at 11:21 pm

    Thank you Becky :) I truly appreciate your encouragement!

  4. by Nick Shell

    On July 16, 2011 at 11:22 pm

    I appreciate you sharing this with me, Kristi. Sounds like you and I definitely can relate on this. I hope good fortune for you.

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