Being a Dad is Now Cooler than Ever
When you go from “dude” to “dad,” everything that made you a cool guy in the past is potentially irrelevant. Fortunately for us dads in the 2010’s, being a dad in and of itself is officially cool now. After pretending not to see tabloid magazine covers featuring the ever-manly Brad Pitt toting around his six kids with Angelina Jolie for the past several years, it’s possible that subconsciously something clicked in us men: Becoming a dad doesn’t automatically mean we no longer have a life.
It means we have a new life.
No one has to tell us that our priorities must instantly change the moment the doctor places our first born child in our arms. No one has to tell us that we must be willing to sacrifice our time, energy, and money for our new child. That’s old news. Any dad who needs to be told that stuff is probably still proudly wearing Big Johnson t-shirts and regularly quoting the first Austin Powers movie.
That’s right: We are the generation of cool dads. We are sexy because we change diapers. We are manly because we play “peek-a-boo” with our infant. We are awesome because we are involved. And not just involved to the point of getting by, but to the point of “I can make my son a 6 ounce bottle of formula in 8 seconds flat.”
Not only are we active in our children’s lives, but we are correcting the damage of the past couple generations of dads who didn’t positively communicate with their kids. No more mysterious Don Draper types.
Instead, we actually talk to our kids. We motivate and teach them. We set clear expectations and follow through with discipline. We encourage them to be themselves, not pressure them into the champion athlete we wanted to be. We are approachable and have an open door policy when they need to talk to us.
Gone are the days when the Sports page of the newspaper, or more recently our Blackberry or iPhone, got in the way of us spending quality time with our family. No preacher’s sermon on Father’s Day is needed to remind us to “step up” and/or “man up.” Because we’re already there.
We are the men who have stepped up and have manned up. We set the examples for others to follow; not by words only, but also by living out ongoing examples of manhood in the form of “dad.”Add a Comment