The Most Mellow Baby I Know

Six months.

The baby equivalent of Jack Johnson…

My wife Jill and I have a spunky and animated friend named Lisa Welch (pictured right), who mentioned to us that when she thinks of us, she sees us as the “Joe Cool” of parents; that we are really “laid-back, groovy people.”  And because of that, our son Jack will surely be the same way.  Well, he is, actually.

As Jack’s parents we were flattered, though we never really thought about how people perceived us.  To the two of us, we’re just a normal married couple who go through the same stuff as everyone else.  I guess it’s easy to be unaware of how others perceive you. Because how can you know, not being able to crawl outside of your head and observe yourself with a viewpoint that is not preconceived or idealized in some way?

So now I analyze us:

We are nearly vegetarians and are kosher abiding, though we are not Jewish (other than possibly a great-grandmother or two).  Every morning, I eat hemp seeds in my oatmeal, simply because it’s so healthy for me.

My wife is from northern California.  Some of the most played music in our house is by Dave Matthews Band, Bob Marley, and Jack Johnson.

I’m a Ron Paul supporter who believes that it’s morally wrong for the government to legally prevent cancer sufferers from benefiting from medical marijuana. Additionally, I agree with Ron Paul that we should put an end to income tax and abolish the IRS.

We are passionate supporters of Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution.  Jill makes all of Jack’s baby food herself. We are experimenting with cloth diapers for Jack.  Normal cologne (alcohol based) is too strong for me to wear; so instead, I wear patchouli and my wife likes that I do.  Oh, and we’re not really into sports.

Ron Paul 2012I guess that covers enough of the bases. The cultural criteria is there for us to be “chill” kind of people. Obviously, a child picks up on the vibes of his parents.  I didn’t realize it can happen at such a young age.  But it’s pretty obvious, at six months old, Jack just doesn’t let much bother him.  Jack is very outgoing, so he doesn’t get afraid of new people. And we are blessed that he is so easy to travel with, because I would say that traveling is one of our main hobbies.

He only cries when he’s hungry, tired, or needs a diaper change.  Other than that, he’s happy just to bop around and enjoy the scenery.

Because my writing style is largely based on finding the irony in situations, here it is: We do enjoy the title of “Joe Cool” and being seen as laid back– but don’t be fooled, we do have a serious side, too.  We are both very big into structure and setting expectations to live by.  Having order and control is very important to us.

We are the paradox of being both laid-back, yet very focused.  We are old-fashioned, yet still free thinking and open-minded.  And it looks like our son will be the same way.

Entertain me: How has your child adopted your personality traits?  I am truly curious to hear other examples.

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  1. by Julia

    On June 7, 2011 at 8:59 am

    I think babies totally adopt their parents’ personalities. My kid is wound just as tight as I am. Poor thing.

    Love cloth diapering too! Definitely worth the little bit of extra effort, in my opinion. I’ve been doing it since my daughter was 2 months old.

  2. by Nick Shell

    On June 7, 2011 at 9:43 am

    Julia, sounds like you’re better about using cloth diapers than we are :) For us, it’s more of an afterthought at the end of the day: “Oh, we forget to use the cloth diapers again…”

  3. by Diana

    On June 7, 2011 at 10:05 am

    Revisit this post in about 4-5 months. Enjoy it while it lasts – even the most chill of babies go bi-polar at some point ;-)

  4. by Sarah Issac

    On June 7, 2011 at 10:16 am

    Sophia is an incredibly easy baby, and John and I are both fairly laid-back people. She’s also really easy with people, which is a must in this culture. I’m not sure if this is because of us or if we were just REALLY blessed.

  5. by Nick Shell

    On June 7, 2011 at 10:22 am

    Last night I told Jill, “I better go ahead and publish this today before it’s no longer true.” Getting him to go to sleep at night is taking up to 90 minutes now. Yeah, I fear he’s already growing out of his mellowness :(

  6. by Nick Shell

    On June 7, 2011 at 10:23 am

    Sarah, I’m glad to hear you are blessed in that way as I am. Though I am starting to seriously wonder if that will change. I know that Sophia is close to Jack’s age- now that he’s learning to crawl, he also is much more difficult to get to sleep. Hmmm.

  7. by Ben Wilder

    On June 7, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    If they start getting a little too wild, you could always put them in a cage. That’s what I do. Oh, but it’s a dog. So nevermind.

  8. by Nick Shell

    On June 7, 2011 at 12:34 pm

    In an effort to better relate, you should start making your dog wear diapers. It’s the best idea I’ve ever given you. Other than to start writing blog recaps of The Bachelor.