Nervous, Preoccupied and Spaced Out

Thirty-nine weeks.

Today was my wife’s last doctor’s appointment before the due date (November 11th), which it just one week from today.  She is dilated one centimeter and effaced 50 percent.  However, the nurse told us today that it is common for first time moms to go a week past their due date.  But still, it could happen at any time.

For the past week now, I’ve noticed that I have been completely spaced out.  My mind is obviously preoccupied with knowing that our “Jack-in-the-box” could spring out any moment.  People have asked me if I’m getting nervous- to my surprise, the answer is yes.  I thought I was over that stage.  But the first time I got nervous, around a month ago, it was because of the realization I don’t really know what to do with a newborn baby.  Now that we’ve finished our Lamaze course, I’m much more confident on the basics of how to help care for Baby Jack.  The thing that makes me nervous now is knowing that I have to see my wife in pain and discomfort, for hours.  No matter how easy it could end up happening, it will still be difficult.

People have asked me if I think I will pass out during the delivery.  The answer: a simple “no”.  Blood and guts don’t bother me.  Besides, unlike the reality TV star of the moment Kody Brown (Sister Wives), I will not be on the “receiving end” while my wife is giving birth.  I don’t need to see his head coming out.  Instead, I will be holding my wife’s hand, or at least beside her, as he’s being born.

Speaking of blood and guts, my wife and I have come up with some exciting plans for the weekend- that way, even if our baby isn’t born in the next few days, at least we can be busy and entertained otherwise.  And we don’t have to just sit around getting anxious.  So either way, we win:  Saturday morning we have brunch plans with some friends- I’m very excited about the meatloaf and mashed potatoes at the place we’re going.  Then Saturday afternoon, my wife and her mom (who is in town for the next couple of weeks) will be getting a facial.  (I guess I’ll read a book during that time.)  Next, we will go to the matinee: I will see Saw 3D (finally explaining the “blood and guts” reference), while my wife and her mom see something a little more light-hearted, yet appropriate for the upcoming event: Life as We Know It.

That’s right- my mother-in-law got into town Sunday night and plans to be here through the end of the month.  If the audience of dad from day one was male, I would have to take a page to humorously explain that though my mother-in-law is living with us, it’s not a wacky, cliché sitcom sort of deal.  I can’t complain.  When I come home from work, dinner is already ready- as my wife has had help preparing it.  As well as the fact that her mom immediately takes care of the dishes afterwards.

People have asked me if I’m planning on taking off a while from work once the baby is born.  At this moment, I’m thinking I’ll take off just a couple of days.  Because fortunately, I won’t be leaving my wife alone- she will have her mom there with her until I get home.  We are very blessed that my mother-in-law has chosen to stay with us.

Those are my final thoughts as a man who has yet to see his son.  Everything is about to change.  Unless Baby Jack stays in past his due date, the next dad from day one will be “Baby Jack is Here!”  Pictures of him will be included, of course.

All pictures with the “JHP” logo were taken by Joe Hendricks Photography:



This is our friend Nickie's baby, not ours. Did I fool ya?

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  1. by diana

    On November 5, 2010 at 4:45 am

    so cute! but a few things to note: you won’t have to watch hours of pain if there’s an epidural. I know you don’t plan to take that route, but be prepared with things to do if you do. you’ll seriously be able to play cards or scrabble or watch an entire season of your favorite show on dvd while laughing as the contractions pass. and I guarantee you’ll be too amazed to look away when jack arrives. you won’t be able to help yourself! and jill likely won’t mind who’s looking at that point haha. enjoy your miracle moment! you two are going to be fantastic parents – ANY DAY NOW!

  2. by nickshell1983

    On November 5, 2010 at 4:49 am

    You’re one clever girl! :) Who knows how it will really happen?… Watching Season 2 of Alf would be pretty darn tempting…

  3. by geewits

    On November 5, 2010 at 3:17 pm

    That’s great news about your MIL. My mom lived nearby and was there every morning for a week and had dinner started when she left. It was a simple “Turn this off at 6:00″ or something. I loved my “Mom Time” with my new baby.

  4. by Jill Shell

    On November 5, 2010 at 6:04 pm

    Um, that’s not happening! I don’t think I could handle watching a fury little puppet move across the screen during a hideous contraction.

  5. by Adrianne Smith

    On November 5, 2010 at 7:00 pm

    Nervous, preoccupied, and spaced out – that’s us too! Excited to see who wins this “baby race!”

  6. by Christi M.

    On November 6, 2010 at 8:15 pm

    I look forward to reading “Baby Jack is Here!” I’ll be praying for you guys.
    Although my husband wasn’t much help through the bulk of my labor (my mom and mom-in-law did most of the timing contractions, massaging my back, helping me try different positions, etc.), the help I valued most was in those final 10-20 minutes where he was holding my hand and calmly saying in my ear, “you can do it, Christi, you’re doing great…” Hope you both have fun passing the time this next week (or more?)

  7. by nickshell1983

    On November 6, 2010 at 11:49 pm

    Thanks for the advice, friend :)