Friday, March 16th, 2012
Teddy Bass is one of the best-known trainers in the world, living the good life traveling with jet-setters and known for super-sculpting famous bodies like Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck.
“At 38 I began yearning for a child, which makes sense because I come from a large and loving family,” says Bass. “I’m a proud uncle to 11 amazing nieces and nephews!”
After calling and interviewing several international adoption agencies, Bass decided to adopt through the Southern California foster system because they had fewer “limitations.”
Bass says, “I was older, single and gay and many gay friends were already using surrogates to have children. But I knew I wanted to adopt and save a child.”
After Bass’s free 3-hour orientation lecture, he immediately signed up for mandatory 6-week training sessions, where prospective parents meet with counselors and social workers for three hours each week to literally be trained in parenting, communication skills and healing.
“If every adult had to take nearly 20 hours of parent training, like all foster parents do, there would be more responsible and capable parenting in the world,” says Bass.
He paid a $2,000 fee and went through training via the Southern California Foster and Family Agency.
“This agency was recommended to me and I found the process efficient, pleasant and supportive every step of the way.” Bass finished the six weeks of training and began a series of Home Study interviews where social workers and county representatives inspected his home and life, grilled a dozen references and narrowed his search to a 20 – 24 month-old male child of any race with no physical limitations.
The Home Study sessions lasted just under 6 weeks, and then only six months into the process, Teddy got The Call.
His son, David, arrived right before Christmas, nearly 2.5 years ago. “I so wanted to be a good father. In some way, as a gay male, I wanted to help raise a male child in the healthiest and most balanced way possible:
“I wanted to pass on the grace.”
David showed signs of fetal alcohol syndrome at birth. Bass says, “He would writhe and scream with the worst tantrums for hours at the beginning… but he grew out of it.”
This summer, delicious David (who I know from preschool in Hollywood!!) is enrolled in a Spanish Language Summer Camp to connect more deeply to his Mexican roots. “We have so much fun,” says Bass. “We travel a lot and we’re going to visit all the cousins in North Carolina next month.”
He urges other gay parents to take the adoption route. Without delay. ”It’s a lot of work, but it’s the best! This is what life is all about,” says Bass with a laugh.
Tell me your happy or controversial adoption story!
Photo Credit: Celeb trainer Teddy Bass and adopted son, David.