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Friday, July 6th, 2012
Congratulations to air force family Travis and Jenn, who adopted their beautiful son Isaac this year [photograph of Travis holding Isaac at right] after the dynamic and deserving couple persevered through eight miscarriages.
Jenn’s career air force husband Travis was transferred south to an army base in southwest Missouri, and they started life anew. Doctors discovered Jenn suffers from a clotting disorder as she miscarried once again in Missouri. Jenn herself was adopted, and her little brother too.
Today we salute all the military parents who have to be away from their loved ones, their children, to fight for our country and preserve our freedoms for generations to come.
Thanks for Jenn and Travis for sharing these photos of their new son, Isaac.
Happy July 4th to troops everywhere who protect and rescue children from horrible, heartrending circumstances all over the globe. As our family continues on the quest to internationally adopt an orphan from a poverty-stricken or war-torn country, I thank our troops for helping to stabilize and protect mothers and children in countries like the Sudan, Ethiopia and Somali.
Happy July 4th to all. Tell me your adoption story in Comments below.
Photo credit: Military father Travis with newly adopted son, Isaac
Friday, June 15th, 2012
Part 2: On Wednesday, I introduced you to reader Jenn, a spirited and dynamic mom who suffered eight miscarriages before she and husband Travis adopted son Isaac. Pictured at right, you’ll see a joyful Jenn, Travis and baby Isaac together at last.
Jenn’s career air force husband Travis, now 31, was then transferred south to a army base in southwest Missouri and they started life anew. Doctors discovered Jenn has a clotting disorder when she miscarried once again in Missouri.
Jenn said, “We had three more positive pregnancy tests. On the final one, in January 2010, my husband was in the kitchen getting ready for work while I took another pregnancy test. Years of mood swings and injectable fertility drugs, the monitoring appointments, the scheduled sex, rising betas, falling betas, and the pain of the miscarriages and procedures.
The Story of Isaac (the best Father’s Day gift of all)
On Wednesday, we tuned into Jenn’s amazing faith and fortitude and love for her military husband as they battled for a baby of their own.
Jenn herself is adopted, and so is her little brother. That is generations of healthy adoptions at work.
After eight miscarriages, a family of broken hearts and the physical abuse of painful miscarriages, Jenn and Travis spoke with fertility experts and decided to stop trying. Jenn said, “He encouraged us to take time off, pursue adoption and get our joy back somehow. We spent months grieving the little things.”
After several months, the dynamic and upbeat couple began researching adoption agencies. Jenn said, “I’m so grateful that my husband was willing to pursue adoption with me. I know several couples who have done fertility treatments, only to find out their husbands will not adopt.”
“Many people struggle to find peace living childless.”
We decided that we wanted a private, domestic adoption, and found an adoption program that was customized to that. We had a failed match a few months after we went active with our agency in December 2010, and were matched again with our son’s birth parents in mid-July 2011.
Isaac was born July 29, 2011.
The birth parents chose us in a private adoption largely based on our air force background. The birth father had served four years in the military and knew the large support system we would have. We are blessed.”
Tell me your story of adoption here. Jenn made my day — how about you? To all the great dads I know, happy Father’s Day.
Wednesday, December 14th, 2011
I asked you, The Adoption Diaries readers, for a feel-good adoption story if you’ve been considering adoption. I wanted to know how long it took — once you knew you were not going to get pregnant — to consider adoption after grieving.
Jessica’s story below is amazing! Stay tuned for Friday when she gives us Part 2!
Jessica, 28, and her husband Greg, 34, live in Phoenix, Ariz. “It took us four years and four months to decide to adopt. After my fourth and last miscarriage in February of 2009, I was ready to pursue adoption, but my husband was not. He was not sure he could love a child who was not biologically his,” said Jessica.
“In November of 2009, after five rounds of Clomid, I finally broke down and told my husband I couldn’t take it anymore. I missed the girl he married… I felt like a robot trying to get pregnant month after month, year after year. I could tell Greg was torn. He really wanted a biological child, but he also couldn’t stand seeing me in pain. I’m very blessed to have a husband who loves me dearly.”
Greg was always very supportive and even Jessica’s parents and in-laws were there to nurture and support the couple. “I knew deep in my heart that God’s plan wasn’t for me to conceive. I knew that I was going to be a mother and I knew my husband was going to be a father, but I knew I wasn’t going to get pregnant.”
Jessica said, “I spent many years as a nanny and many of the families I nannied for had adopted children in their families. I never put the two together but I think God was preparing my heart for adoption long before I even knew my husband.”
They began the adoption process in November of 2009 and began a home study with social workers immediately.
“And then my husband received long-awaited word that he was accepted into the army! We were never sure if he would be accepted because he injured his knee a few years back. It took many months for us to know if he would be accepted and by or not.”
By March, Greg was officially property of the United States Government and all adoption paperwork was put on hold! “Our social worker explained that the high rate of divorce during deployments was astronomical, and she thought the process would not be fair to an adoptee. We were crushed,” said Jessica. But the couple refused to give up on domestic adoption. They started looking for a more supportive agency.
Stay tuned on Friday for the happy ending!
Monday, July 4th, 2011
This is a day to keep your kids safe, happy and healthy. In honor of all the military families — and especially all of the busy military mothers out there across this good nation who can’t be home with their own children this year — my family says “thanks for your service and dedication.”
Here is a song that John Lennon wrote for his son Julian many decades ago; I feel like it’s especially fitting (I may be paraphrasing) for all the parents who cannot be with their kids today:
“Out on the ocean sailing away
I can hardly wait,
To see you to come of age.
But I guess we’ll both
Just have to be patient,
Yes it’s a long way to go.
But in the meantime,
Before you cross the street,
Take my hand.
Life is just what happens to you,
While you’re busy making other plans.
Friday, July 1st, 2011
You start doing your personal research, you read books, surf the blogs (thanks for coming!), and come to find that many such “adoption experts” became experts because they did it so many times.
I’ve read about one family with 12 adoptees, another with 19 adoptees. One mother said she wasn’t an expert in the process until after her eighth imported child.
I believe that every adoption journey is a completely unique experience but it sure doesn’t hurt to get some tips from the pros! The only thing for which I hold the “pro” title is for my son, Sam. (I can tell within a millisecond of his peripheral glance, exactly how he’s feeling, and why.) Sam is five years old and without guidance from my husband and friends that kid would still be in diapers, sucking noisily on his right thumb. Stayin’ up all night cuddling mommy.
I have no head for milestones. As you can probably tell if you’ve read any of my posts, I am happy to keep my biological son happy, healthy and loved. I cannot fathom doing it for 6, 9 even 12 kids. Why do you do it out there? I have to know!
So my only advice for looking into adoption is to be open to nearly anything happening. I figure, at the end of the bumpy roller coaster ride, you might deserve inherit a child or two (or 19!). Maybe it’s better to try hard rather than not try at all?
No matter what stage of adoption you’re engaged in, read up on it! Here are my new favorite adoption tips from the real experts:
Prepare for a bumpy ride. “I would just say that all the previous disappointments, tears and agonizingly long waits are so worth it once you hold your precious child.”
Make one crucial decision in the beginning: Do you lean towards domestic adoption or international adoption? And realize these pros and cons.
Don’t drive yourself mad with subject saturation. Too many would-be parents absorb daunting and grossly outdated advice. Adoption legislation happens quickly; so don’t invest too many emotions in stats buried six months ago! http://adoptedbydesign.typepad.com/
PSSST: What are you an expert in this month? Do you have any words of wisdom to help potential adoptive parents out there?
Credit: I became and expert on sucking Sam’s toes on the photo top right. Still an expert, if you really want to know!