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Happy July 4th to Adopted Families USA

Wednesday, July 4th, 2012

As I watch children form a friendly circle around our local fireworks, I imagine all the kids that don’t have a neighborhood, or a happy home in which to celebrate today.

I think of these kids in foster care all the time now, and know how lucky I was growing up. Realize how lucky how my own biological son Sam is every single day.

Families in local foster care situations are trained for both foster care and adoption, and potential adoptive parents work closely with agency staff during the process. An adoption social worker is assigned to each parent; the social worker conducts home studies and offers emotional support and assistance through the process.

If we go the foster care route but then fall madly in love with the kid and have to return her to the family that once neglected her? Hmmm, fat chance I say. Then again, if she’s a real terror, has behavioral problems I can’t handle, or if she in any way upsets or harms my biological child, Sam, then what happens?

Can I give my foster care toddler back to the foster-to-adopt agency? Is that horrible to admit? There’s a lot going on in the news lately about returned children and foster care.

Anyway…

Happy July 4th to kids everywhere, and be careful with those firecrackers already. Tell me your adoption story in Comments below, and I may feature you in an upcoming post.

 

 

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Adopting a Pet? A Great Precursor to Adopting a New Child

Friday, March 30th, 2012

Okay, okay, okay, comparing my family’s quest to adopting a new baby from a foreign country to rescuing a mutt here in the United States is nonsensical and insensitive.

You’re right! I didn’t expect to hear from so many adopted adults who did not appreciate being compared to a mutt from the pound. I stand corrected, and I am sorry.

To all the dog rescue folks out there who are also adopted, this is a serious question: Don’t you think that caring and nurturing for a new and demanding pet is a great first step in preparation to a larger family? It taps into your own ability to think about someone or something besides yourself.

My prospective adoptive family has, indeed, adopted a second dog to see how much more work it is for us than only one dog. Why can’t we do that with a child too?

When I was single then newly married and it was only the two of us (only me and Darrin) we had total freedom to be, do and go where we wanted. Then came our pets (rescue dogs) and we began to learn about unselfish choices, staying home more, considering their needs along with our own… this is a valid argument!

Another valid argument: Many people who don’t want or even enjoy children can adopt and rescue animals and yet still treat them like bonafide offspring! From dressing them up to feeding them in monogrammed bowls and going on play dates, some adults treat their pets like adopted children. Isn’t that wonderful for their pets and also for the grown-ups?

Any act of kindness that allows you to grow as a human being has to be good for the planet and for all adoptees, too. (Human, canine, vegetal!) That’s what I’m getting at here.

Isn’t adopting a rescue dog (or cat or two!) a fantastic barometer of how you will be/act/mediate as an adopted parent? I am serious on this one…

Tell me what you think about adopting a dog to try out a new role as parent (before you can adopt a child!). I want to know your thoughts: Isn’t adopting a cat or dog a great precursor to adopting a child?

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Adopting a New Daughter Over the Holidays

Monday, December 26th, 2011

Anyone who has ever been touched by adoption must ask themselves during the holidays, “How can I help other children find their forever families?”

This holiday season, I want to give each person reading  the opportunity to answer the call to help orphaned children. And orphan dogs. I think they go best served up together, kids and dogs. Dogs and kids.

One of my favorite international adoption sites offers happy successful adoption stories all year round, but specializes in placing older children, sibling groups and special needs kids who may need extra care from their new families.

Personal adoption stories like theirs touch families everywhere, inspiring people to move forward with forming their family through adoption. Be a part of this initiative and give hope to children everywhere.

While my family is still in the pre-adoption phase, we’ve narrowed the search down to foster-to-adopt programs locally in Los Angeles, and we are beginning the final 24 hours of parental adoption training in early January.

We have tapped an international adoption agency we really like and also trust to potentially adopt a young daughter from India. Unfortunately, we cannot afford that option this year. Santa didn’t exactly stuff my stocking with fivers… and you must plunk down $15,000 just to get the adoption ball rolling with that agency!

I ask you, for just a moment this holiday, send out blessings and good vibrations to a poor kid who needs a dose of Santa right around now. Or a healthy dose of a mom or dad.
I’d like to share our family’s gratitude that we were able to save another rescue dog this blessed season. She was going to be euthanized at the Downey high-kill shelter, Calif.

dog adoption, dog rescueOur new beloved daughter (and doggie sister for my biological Sam) is a new 100-pound Great Dane mix named Bette Davis.

A real Hollywood looker but with an edge — just like her celeb namesake. And yes, she is going to get much bigger!

Have a safe holiday. Merry Christmas and tell me your happy holiday adoption story or tidbit here for 2012. Merry everything!

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Adoption Bloggers Unite: “All I Want for Christmas”

Friday, December 23rd, 2011

I want an innocent adoptive daughter singing Christmas carols and tottering around the house in my silver stilettos,

Two sugary mouths sucking on candy canes while we decorate the tree that is much too big for our playroom,

An extra set of dark and expectant eyes galloping down the stairs to see what Santa brought,

(Instead of the toyshop we make purchases via  laptop.)

I want one disadvantaged daughter to be able celebrate any holiday safely without fear or instability,

I want a husband who stays healthy and loyal and charming all year long,

I also want one gloriously joyful son who still thinks mommy is a goddess. (I am.)

PS: I also want peace, love and a great dental plan (if you are listening Santa!)

Drumroll, please.
Well, she is not the daughter I imagined but she is kind and happy and pinkish.

Less than a year old and rescued  just in time for Christmas.

You cannot just give them back when they grow too big or act too destructively.

We are in it for the long haul — kids and dogs.

This new rescue dog daughter has four paws but she’s as loving as any I’ve known.

Merry Christmas, Bette Davis, welcome home to our new daughter!

Sometimes the best adoption posts have a happy simple ending and this is nearly the way we are going too end 2011: up one dog and waiting for the kid. Stay tuned in 2012!

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Happy Thanksgiving to Foster Kids and Adoptees

Friday, November 25th, 2011

The older I get, the more I put my heart out on my sleeve. Motherhood mellows me.

Perhaps the love of a steady and loyal husband and one very happy and healthy biological boy help me believe in the essence of goodness this year. But this is the last Thanksgiving we will sit three around my table. We will adopt a daughter this year, either internationally from India if we can save that last $15,000 in the middle of this godawful recession. Or this is the year we finish our 24 hours of advanced foster family training and begin the foster process to adopt locally from the Country of Los Angeles.

Of course, this year we are not just three at our holiday table, either. We have friends joining us too. And we are still planning on adopting a new dog because our family gets better and better when we open our hearts to others in need.

These are other things I am especially thankful for this year:

  • I am thankful to my amazing girlfriends who cannot have children around their own tables this year, and they come to mine to help my son play and cook, make puzzles and help mend their broken hearts.
  • I am thankful that my husband (who was so sick for a very long time) is feeling so much better that he has a glimmer of mischief in his pretty blue eyes this year.
  • I am thankful to meet organizations who match expectant parents (like us) with poor neglected kids who need a mom and a dad. Hurry!
  • I am thankful to dog rescue organizations who speak out for the voiceless. We are going to adopt a pretty new female dog this year too.
  • I am thankful that my mom’s cancer tests are coming back negative, one by one!
  • I am thankful that my soon-to-be six-year old son wants a little sister because he wants to share all his toys. Sam realizes just how he is blessed and he wants to share. That shows me we’re doing something fantastic when it comes to raising Sam.

Finally, I am thankful to the readers of The Adoption Diaries. You have a responsibility to shout out the benefits of adoption, so tell your story here!

 

 

 

 

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