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Friday, December 23rd, 2011
I want an innocent adoptive daughter singing Christmas carols and tottering around the house in my silver stilettos,
Two sugary mouths sucking on candy canes while we decorate the tree that is much too big for our playroom,
An extra set of dark and expectant eyes galloping down the stairs to see what Santa brought,
(Instead of the toyshop we make purchases via laptop.)
I want one disadvantaged daughter to be able celebrate any holiday safely without fear or instability,
I want a husband who stays healthy and loyal and charming all year long,
I also want one gloriously joyful son who still thinks mommy is a goddess. (I am.)
PS: I also want peace, love and a great dental plan (if you are listening Santa!)
Well, she is not the daughter I imagined but she is kind and happy and pinkish.
Less than a year old and rescued just in time for Christmas.
You cannot just give them back when they grow too big or act too destructively.
We are in it for the long haul — kids and dogs.
This new rescue dog daughter has four paws but she’s as loving as any I’ve known.
Merry Christmas, Bette Davis, welcome home to our new daughter!
Sometimes the best adoption posts have a happy simple ending and this is nearly the way we are going too end 2011: up one dog and waiting for the kid. Stay tuned in 2012!
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Monday, December 5th, 2011
A study hit my desk this week from American Express about how much cash parents will spend with this ravaged economy on holiday gifts this year… and just how much anxiety it’s causing parents who cannot afford to spend.
Consider this: If most of America feels the stress of not having enough this year, can you imagine what foster parents or, more importantly, how foster kids and children placed up for adoption feel around the holidays? How can these babies understand that Santa Claus cannot find them this year? My family promises each other that there will be one less foster kid searching for Sana Claus next year– she’ll be at my house opening copious gits from the big happy guy in the Santa suit.
We’ve already written to Santa in my house, and asked for a bunch of goodies since Sam has been such a blessed boy this year. According to the study commissioned by the Ford Motor Company, 87% of adults experience significant stress when shopping during the holiday season.
Other findings from the holiday spending study:
• Consumers will spend the most on their children, an average of $270, including clothing and accessories, toys and games.
• More than two thirds of Americans will set a budget for holiday gifts, and nearly half (48%) plan to stick to it.
Stress-relief expert Susie Mantell partnered with Ford to come up with a few tips for de-stressing this holiday season, whether you are in the middle of an adoption drama or if you’re just contemplating the idea of adoption for the first time.
Mantell, bestselling author of the relaxation CD Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace said, “Every time you start stressing out , even waiting for someone to parallel park at the mall, take the opportunity to mentally thank six people daily, maybe the mailman, teachers, or a favorite cashier.”
Mantell’s other stress-busting strategies for parents and adoptive parents like us:
- Make some quick coffee dates. Just ten minutes with someone you really like is a terrific stress-buster when you’re really busy.
- Holiday Blues? Put on some feel-good holiday music, gather your kids and dance!
- Put yourself on top of your holiday gift list, and give yourself something pleasurable, such as a scalp massage, or a new CD or book.
Please tell me a great happy holiday adoption story here!
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Friday, October 21st, 2011
I know, funny statement coming from this prolific mom blogger but honestly, until the moment I became pregnant, I didn’t really understand or appreciate these little personalities, all innocence and sweetness in those first few months. One of the things that makes me a vocal mom blogger and advocate for adoption and foster care is that I have a million questions about the process, and I am extremely outspoken.
I am only an expert on one child, and he is mine, his name is Sam. I felt protective and filled to the brim with love from the moment he latched onto my right breast (I remember that moment because it became his favorite boob for the next two years of breast-feeding). But just because I love babies — they almost smell better than puppies! — does not mean I like them very much or have become any kind of expert on kids. Far from it in fact.And the older Sam gets, he just turned 5, well, the less I sort of like him.
Five-year-olds can be cruel and overly opinionated. I liked him better at 2, quite honestly, when I was a goddess and could do no wrong.
I live in Los Angeles, and just joined the PTA here in Studio City since Sam entered kindergarten. And now I am surrounded by these 5-year-olds (and older kids who seem smellier and meaner somehow) and I can’t seem to like them any more than I did before… and now I actually have one. But here’s the point of the post about not liking kids very much.
Just because I don’t care for children doesn’t mean I don’t want them to enjoy every chance to excel in life. During Sam’s first week of school, LAUSD, the Los Angeles Dept of Education, cut every librarian’s salary and fired the majority. Suddenly, all of our kids cannot go to the library. No books to help them with homework, reports and reading.
So now all of the parents in the PTA at Carpenter Charter in Studio City, Calif. have wholeheartedly pitched in and we volunteer up to three hours once or twice a week to keep the library open, check in/out books, help them search for books and basically be the librarian.
And who do you think is helping every Monday afternoon, surrounded by pushy, smelly, nosy mean kids? Yes, that would be me! Call me librarian Nicole. Me, and about 50 kids per hour. Last night I came home and guzzled two glasses of vino at because I was so happy to be out of there.
I still don’t much like children, except my own. But I think every kid in every city deserves an hour or two in the library each week. Do you?
If you like kids more than me (and nearly everyone does), write me a story about your adoption or foster child.
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Wednesday, June 8th, 2011
My husband Darrin and I are actively debating the merits of adopting a new dog (it will be our second) versus adopting a new child (it will also be our second).
Darrin’s argument is: This is a ridiculous argument because they do not compare and our family will benefit immeasurably with another child.
My argument is: Another rescue dog will help daddy feel more needed, a new rescue dog will keep our dog and son busy and we may, in time, forget all about your incessant yearning for another child. Let’s just tweak our thinking!
My other valid non-ridiculous reasons for rescuing another dog over adopting a second child:
- Dogs stop pooping in the house a long time before the new baby will.
- Easier to leave a dog with friends for overnight Vegas trips!
- I never really want to leave my dog in the closet when he is whining. (He never wines, he sympathizes.)
- There are millions of unwanted dogs in Los Angeles. (There are hundreds of unwanted kids…) Much better odds on the dog.
- Dog adoption is much cheaper. And quicker. And if you get a lemon, you only have to keep it for, what, 10 years? With a child…
What do you think about our child adoption conundrum versus a new dog adoption argument is ridiculous? Do you agree with my husband? Please vote on who seems dumber. I will accept defeat if you speak up!
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