International Adoption: Adopting Little Girls

My family is still interested in adopting a little girl through an International Adoption agency, and it is so very interesting that the adoption of girls internationally has outnumbered the adoption of boys roughly 60%  in the last several years. According to several agencies I tapped. In 2007 — the last date I could get my hands on those stats — of the 19,471 children adopted internationally, 11,846 of were girls and 7,789 were boys.

Choice of gender is, obviously, a factor when it comes to adoption around the world. Parents will usually choose a girl instead of a boy to adopt.

Why do most adoptive parents want a girl? According to one agency that offers motivating adoption stories, there are several myths about the adoption of girls versus boys:

Myth: Is it easier to adopt a girl verses a boy.

Fact: In fact, it is the opposite. The wait time is most always longer to adopt a girl.

Myth: Adoptive parents think boys will get in more trouble than girls.

Fact: As you probably know by now, girls can get in just as much trouble as boys! The success lies in the parenting abilities of the parents!

Myth: There are more girls available for adoption than boys.

Fact: No, there are more boys available for adoption than girls in all countries except China. The prevalence of Chinese girls adopted by Americans has given the false impression that girls are unwanted but China is a patriarchal society and this is why girls are available for adoption there.

Okay, so I’m going to throw this out there to this outspoken adoption population about the differences in gender: Do more families want to adopt a toddler daughter because the girls may be less aggressive, with fewer emotional issues? The gender differences may not matter so much with babies, right?

I do know one horrid story in Orange County, Calif. (that I have verified) where a Romanian son (7) was finally adopted and went on to sexually assault his new little sister who was a biological daughter to the family. (Young rapist was sent back to Romania, FYI…)

Be brutally honest: Is this why we prefer to adopt females? Let’s explore the honest conversation without allowing emotions to run wild! Can we do that?

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  1. by Leslie

    On July 13, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    I single and am on an adoption waiting list for a girl. Why? Well, I know girls a lot better than I know boys, but mainly because, in my experience, the grown up mother/daughter relationships I see are much closer than the mother/son relationships I see. The old saying a daughter’s a daughter all of her life, but a son is a son ’til he takes a wife, appears to be true in many families that I know. Plus I have a great relationship with my sister and mom, not so much with my brothers. We just have more in common to talk about, we “get” each other and relate better.

  2. by nicole Dorsey

    On July 13, 2011 at 4:55 pm

    Aren’t you afraid to parent a teenage girl though? I recall personally being HORRIBLE at 12 – 16 years… especially to my mother and I’m afraid of getting that back. YOU?

  3. by CED

    On August 9, 2011 at 9:20 am

    We adopted a girl from Korea and we had a lot of very specific reasons for wanting a girl. One reason was that we have a biological boy and we thought that it might create less tension and comparison between the biological child and adopted child. We are unable to have more biological children and both my husband and I wanted to have a girl. I envisioned myself having four biological boys, but that wasn’t in the cards. I love my boy immensely, but there is something amazing and angelic about my little girl :)

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