Baby Boomers: Older Parents Who Can Afford to Adopt

All over the country, couples are postponing parenthood. Birth rates for women in their thirties and forties have in- creased and for men over age forty-five, rates have increased by almost 20 percent since 1980.  According to a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report, the birthrate for women 45 and over more than doubled between 1990 and 2002.

Latecomers: Children of Parents Over 35, a book by Andrew Yarrow reported the results of research of adults who grew up with older parents. He wrote that children benefit from having parents who are mature and experienced adults, and who can provide more stability and attention than younger parents.

Older adopters may have difficulty in finding an agency in their area that will accept them for a home study (pre-adoption preparation) from a licensed agency, which is mandated by federal law.

You need to be prepared for questions about your health; have the physician whom does your health exam make a comment on your expected longevity. If you have a chronic health problem, this doesn’t eliminate you, as long as you are under medical care and are faithful in following the required regimen. An agency must be sure the new child would not have to face another “loss” in the near future.

Here’s my quick Pro and Con list of older parenting:

Pro
Steadier finances
Better decision-making
Less selfish and work-obsessed

Con
Exhausting!
Too exhausting.
Rare sex. (Have I mentioned I’m exhausted?)

According to Yarrow’s book on older parents who adopt or foster children:
1. Children of older parents had an ever-present fear (even when they were young) for the health of their parents.
2. As young married couples, these children had to become caretakers of aging parents while the parents of their contemporaries were still very active. They were also caring for their own young children at the same time.
3.  As children they knew their parents were wiser than other parents who had children when in their 20s. Some mentioned that today’s older parents are much more health conscious, and have more interest in staying on a healthy diet, not smoking, and exercising regularly, than those of previous generations.

Interesting, right? Tell me your adoption story here, Granny.

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