Domestic Adoption Postponed for Older Parents?

If you’ve tuned in lately, you’ll know my family was deciding between a domestic adoption locally in Los Angeles (less expensive, less time to wait) versus pursuing an international adoption, more specifically an Indian daughter who’d likely be age 3-5. We’d have to wait approximately two years to meet her — that’s if we could cough up the initial $12,000 – $15,000 in agency fees, immigration paperwork, etc.

We go back and forth between the process and cons of domestic adoption versus international adoption and what we always come back to is: A needy child is a needy child.

Many Adoption Age-Related Laws
We were ruled out automatically from China, Thailand and other Asian countries when we started the adoption process. A strict compilation from several Chinese agencies state, “Both the husband and wife must be at least 30 years old and under age 50. If adopting a special needs child, both must be between the ages of 30 and 55.

Also from China, “Both the husband and wife must be physically and mentally fit and must not have any of the following conditions:

  • AIDS
  • Mental disability
  • Infectious disease that is actively contagious
  • Blind in one or both eyes or wearing a prosthetic eye
  • Hearing loss in both ears or loss of language function; those adopting children with hearing or language function loss are exempt if they have the same conditions
  • Non-function or dysfunction of limbs or trunk caused by impairment, incomplete limb, paralysis or deformation
  • Severe facial deformation
  • Severe diseases that require long-term treatment and that affect life expectancy, including malignant tumors, lupus, nephrosis, epilepsy
  • Major organ transplant within ten years;
  • Schizophrenia
  • Obesity

To pursue an international infant adoption, consider countries that are more flexible concerning the age of the adopting parents:Korean, India, some Latin American countries, Russia, and Bulgaria.

Adopters who are flexible in the age of the child they wish to adopt will receive a quicker placement. This means saying you’ll consider a “baby” up to age 2, a sibling group where one is very young, or can accept a child with a mild to moderate physical problem that can be corrected or helped considerably in the U.S. (If the child stays in the orphanage, her chance of receiving medical care is slim.)

Which adoption do you think we’re going to choose? Domestic vs. international? Tell me your happy adoption story here:

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