Completion of the 3-Hour Foster Family Orientation
Up until husband Darrin and I completed our 3-hour “Resource Parent” Foster family application and orientation, I did not realize that you can be both a foster parent and an adoptive parent at the same time when you register with the county and pass their 24 hours of training. You can foster a child and apply to adopt that child simultaneously; it’s a great way to make triple-sure you are the best match for that child!
These are great definitions to keep in mind if you’re looking to adopt domestically:
- A foster parent provides a loving but temporary stable home for a child and helps them reunite with broth parents or family members.
- An adoptive parent provides a permanent stable home once it has been determined that the child cannot live safely with their birth parent or birth family.
In fact, with domestic adoption, you can be single, married, divorced or living with a partner. There is no mandated minimum income but you must be able to show how you support both yourself and a foster child. And I found out, gladly, that I can be a different race, culture or even sexual orientation that my foster or adopted child through the county process.
My worst-case scenario is hosting a foster child, applying to adopt that beloved foster child over a period of months… and then having the birth partners want her back. No way! If I had to knowingly return a child to a questionable family who might hurt her or negate all the stable love we’d provided a child for months, I might end up in jail.
I might do all kinds of crazy things to keep her. My husband Darrin wants us to write in our application that we’re open to a sibling group but I don’t think I can handle that, either.
Since “returning the foster-child scenario” is one of my biggest fears, a cold dread stops me from signing up for the 24 hours of domestic adoption training, I need to hear a successful adoption story from parents out there who actually fostered a child and then went on to adopt that child!
I’m begging adoptive parents to out there to send me your success story with fostering, and I will print it!Add a Comment