Your Smart Reasons to Adopt this Year
Before you ask (and you will ask — everybody does), I did not have trouble conceiving our son, Sam. I was working at a job I adored Organic Spa Magazine and I was in love with my newish fiancee (then a screenwriter in Los Angeles) when everyone — from my gyno to my mother-in-law — began beseeching us to start trying to get pregnant due to my “advanced maternal age.”
Well, well, surprise. Take that advanced maternal age! First month out of the gate, well past my 35th birthday.
Tough subject, I know. I have universal respect for women friends in their thirties and forties who have never been able to get pregnant at all; I understand (a little) how much that sucks. Two of my best friends cannot get pregnant still.
But I now take pleasure in my work, I gleefully pedal my beach cruiser, hike with my dog, I enjoy this “me time” I carved out with only one kiddo. (Yes, I do admit it: I also like my stomach toned and flat again.)
Which is why I have doubts about adoption, even though my son and my husband are inspired, enthusiastic and totally gung-ho about filling our home with another.
When do you know you are ready to adopt? Fiscally and emotionally, that is.
I have one healthy, perfect child. Why tempt fate? Also, I’m getting my period twice a month these days and my doctor agrees…. Ch-Ch-Ch- Changes! I dare to face the strange changes.
My hormones are moving on. Would you be an older parent like me if you adopted this year? I’m over 40 — is this one reason why I should not adopt? I think so! I need your input, so please comment!