Part 2: 3 Failed Adoptions, Couple Turns to Foster Care

Here comes Part 2 of Melinda and Corey’s inspiring story. At right: Holding Logan in the hospital for the first time.

If you tuned in Monday, we found out that Melinda, 36, and Corey, 40, tried to get pregnant for four years before entering into several potential private adoptions of healthy newborns. Two years into tapping private adoption agencies, the couple signed up for foster care training with their county. Still? No baby!

Then in 2010, the courageous couple became a state-approved foster-to-adopt family.

In March of 2011, they met another couple who already had five children on their own in their state and yet the struggling family was pregnant again.

Melinda remembered, “The bio father explained that his wife, the mother,  had her tubes tied after their last baby and it didn’t work because they were pregnant again. They couldn’t provide for another child financially or emotionally.

“Two weeks later, this mother sat in our living room on our sofa, tears rolling down her cheeks. It was so hard to see the pain in her face. She talked about her unborn son as if he were already ours. She hated the situation and it was breaking her heart.

“We didn’t know what was going on because this family stopped responding and we knew to leave her alone with her thoughts and emotions. We didn’t hear from her again until a week before Logan was born. She had made her decision,” Melinda said.

Then the amazing hospital experience! Melinda and the bio-family cemented their loving relationship in the labor room. Melinda said, “One mother giving her child to another out of pure love and one experiencing this love for the first time. It was the most amazing experience of my life — I knew her heart was breaking, but her love for him was stronger.”

Today Melinda says of the bio-mom: “She is the strongest and most selfless woman that I have ever known. Our boy will always know her love just as he will know mine. My adoption story is one of a successful semi-open adoption, but more importantly… the story of how love can prevail.”

Thanks, Melinda and Corey. This is a story of how amazing adoption can be.  It’s a story about how one sweet little boy changed the lives of two families forever. Tell me yours!

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  1. by Angela

    On January 12, 2012 at 8:19 am

    We went to DHR wanting to adopt 1 child, a girl. We were asked to take a sibling group of 5; three girls and two boys. Their ages ranged from 10 months old to 8 years old and we had / have our biological 9 year old at home. We agreed and within a month’s time we began visitation with three of the children (ages 8, 6, 10 months). These were beautiful kids with gorgeous smiles. We feel in love with them. Months later we met the 4 year old and the 3 year old; they too were gorgeous. All these kids were abused by former foster parents or their biological parent. They had huge emotional scares and physical scares. After they all moved in, there was never a dull moment and our house was full of laughter, and sometimes tears. From night terrors to screaming fits for no reason. But we as a family all worked well together and we work on their challenges together and we all became stronger. One our kids began to display violent tendencies and we begged DHR for assistance. After receiving what they considered assistance we were informed DHR knew of the child’s issues and were told that the child needed his own placement in a therapeutic home. We informed DHR we wanted to keep the child but asked for training on how to handle his violent actions and we also informed them we found out they already knew about the issues and asked why they did not inform us. Days later all 5 (our foster children) were removed from our home; weeks away from beginning adopted. They were with us for 250 days and we would do it all over again. We are all heartbroken and we have been told they will never come back. We have also been told the children don’t want to come back and our children have been told we don’t want them back.
    We went to DHR to adopt one child and 1 year later we have none.

  2. by Sharyl Dembek

    On January 31, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Thanks for your thoughts.Hope this will work for me in the future. It was easy reading this post ! Good article