Adopted Child Explains Joys of Great Foster Family

IMG_0136Here is the most recent stat I could find: About 50,000 foster children are adopted annually in the U.S., almost double the number since the 1990s. There is no national data to show how many adoptions fail or track how many children need additional help, and states are not required to report the figures.

Mary R. is a 40-something adopted daughter who entered foster care in the nick of time:

“My adoption story is probably not so unique, however it’s a positive story in the end. I was given up for adoption in 1967 by my biological mom.

I was placed in two foster homes as a baby. My first foster home took care of me from six weeks old until nine months, and my first foster mother always suspected something wasn’t right since I was barely active as an infant. She alerted every pediatrician and got a second opinion.

My second foster family received me at nine months, and my first foster mom passed along her worries and written notes, knowing I’d need some form of interference and medical help in order to thrive. During my time with this second family, my biological mom had second thoughts and wanted me back again. She made contact.

By then, I’d been placed in this wonderful home, and this foster mom was a nurse and worked in a hospital and began sending me for all kinds of tests. She was on top of it!  Specialists sent me to a childrens hospital in the Chicago area. It turns out that I had an undetected form of Spina Bifida combined with another type of Spina Bifida that could leave me paralyzed if it wasn’t fixed during my first year of life.

I don’t think my biological mother would have gone to the trouble.

I have known that I was adopted all my life. My adoptive parents took great care of me, and I love them for everything they have done. They took me in as their fourth child when they already had three biological children. Of course I was curious about who I am, and eventually wanted to search for my biological mother.

When I finally found my biological mother, I found other family too, an older brother who had been given up after his birth, as well as half sisters, and many uncles, aunts, cousins. Today, I see my bio-mom as a part of my extended family… though my foster family who raised me is my true family and my foster parents who worked hard and turned my life around are my real parents.”

– Mary

Please tell me your adoption story here, and I may feature you. Thanks for sharing, Mary!

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  1. by Frances Tauzin

    On November 23, 2011 at 10:04 pm

    I’m aware of this already, but still there are some helpful bits that completed the picture to me, thank you!

  2. by Rebecca

    On January 3, 2012 at 8:25 am

    Thanks for sharing your story, Mary! I’m also an adoptee (from closed infant adoption) and my husband and I are currently working on adopting an older child from foster care. We’re in our 30s and adopting from foster care is our first choice for growing our currently child-free family. We’ve learned so much about the process so far and are passionate about dispelling negative stereotypes about adoption, in general, and adopting children from foster care, in particular.

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