One Happy Adopted Daughter Speaks Out!
Adopted domestically through Sacramento, Calif. foster care at age one, Carolyn, now 34, was adopted into a home with a mother, father and an adopted older sister, age 7. Schooled in California, and a happy child, Carolyn has become an animal rescuer and dog trainer. She is also a personal trainer based in Los Angeles. I rarely see her without a huge smile on her face!
Carolyn McGuire, 34, grew up knowing she was adopted because her older sister was adopted and her adoptive parents were truthful and loving if not especially stable. (Carolyn’s adoptive father announced he was gay when Carolyn was only a teen, and the family went through volatile changes as dad came to grips with his sexuality.)
Her adoptive parents also encouraged Carolyn to find her biological family and emotionally supported her journey as she searched.
Sadly, in her late twenties, Carolyn discovered she was too late to meet her real mom: Her biological mother was a schizophrenic who had died of cancer several years before.
Carolyn nonetheless went on to nurture an affectionate relationship with her biological grandma and uncles. And she remains close with her sister.
Carolyn says, “It was hard to know that my biological mother was schizophrenic and died without knowing me. This condition makes me worried for my future children; I wonder if my boyfriend is disinclined to have children with me because of biology?”
Great advice from a beloved adopted daughter
Carolyn says, “Adoption without support from your new family or even your old family is an empty feeling that sets you up for failure. In my case, therapy helped and also my biological family helped me grieve when my adoptive parents died.
“My adoptive father, although he went through great emotional upheavals in his life, was also my lifeline and soul mate. My father claiming me as his daughter irrevocably changed my world,” she says.
Carolyn says, “You don’t have to be biologically tied to someone to have that whole, spiritual connection that helps guide you through life.” She encourages all frustrated parents to keep hope alive.
“As an adopted daughter, I am telling you to hang in there and change a life. She or he is definitely out there waiting, just like I was.”
Thanks Carolyn, for being so honest. If you’d like your adoption story posted here, please write in under Comments. (She’s photographed above with one of her dogs.)