Part 1: Birth Mother Chronicles Open Adoption Decision

birth mother open adoptionMaryland native Kristin Metzger, now 30, keenly remembers getting pregnant at 19 and how many momentous decisions she suddenly had to make. In today’s post she explains the gut-renching choice to place her newborn for adoption. In Wednesday’s post Kristin will explain why she chose one specific family (great insider advice from a birth mom) and also why they opted for an open adoption.

Kristin says, “This is one of the most traumatic experiences a woman can go through, and last-minute changes of heart happen all the time. The adoption agencies have a responsibility to counsel the potential adoptive parents about this very real possibility.”

At the time, she became pregnant, Kristin neither had a car nor or a job and zero family support. “I ended up living in a group home for women facing crisis pregnancies, through an organization called The Gabriel Network. My grandmother wrote me a letter encouraging me to consider adoption, and after wrestling internally, I knew she was right. I contacted an adoption agency called Adoptions Together in Silver Spring, MD and through my social worker was given portfolios of different couples wishing to adopt a child.”

Interestingly, Kristin’s mother was also adopted, born to Armenian and German immigrants, who could not afford to keep her upon immigrating to America. “My mother has never known her birth parents because they did not wish to be found. That is partly why I chose open adoption, even though it is emotionally taxing.”

“I love my adoptive grandparents, but part of me wants to give a big hug to the birth grandparents who gave my own mother a better life when they placed her for adoption.”

“May God bless you with enough foolishness
to believe that you can make a difference in this world,
so that you can do what others claim cannot be done.”
– a Franciscan blessing

Tune in on Wednesday for Part 2:  A Birth Mother Chooses New Parents for her Daughter.

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  1. by delores kratz

    On November 24, 2011 at 3:08 am

    I am an adoptee and I so wish it was open adoption & not closed. I’m searching for birthparents to give thanks for giving me life. To find out medical background is important especially since I have 2 kids now. It’s been something I’ve always wanted to know, where I came from! I need to have closure with this part of my life, but what if they don’t want to be found? I have to be ready that closure may never happen! Just thought I’d share….. Thanks ~delores