Part 1: Adoption, the Last Hope for Infertile Couples
I am getting some great stories about adoption, especially wanting to adopt, and I’d love you guys to meet my friend Courtney, a 36-year-old nurse who has battled infertility with her husband for 10 years.
If you’ve tuned in here, you know I feel so strongly about this subject because so many of my 40-ish friends are facing IVF and long-term infertility. I sent out a prod asking readers to help me explain the next step for infertile couples. After the horrid tests, rounds of hormones and the chronic aching disappointment, at what point do you turn to adoption?
What makes a couple move from the heartbreak and desperation of infertility to the hopeful journey into adoption?
Courtney says, “My husband, Patrick, and I have struggled with infertility throughout our entire relationship. In 2008 we were on the verge of moving forward with in-vitro fertilization, but the cost was too prohibitive and we were moving from Indiana to Nebraska.”
After another year with more fertility specialists in Nebraska, Courtney began giving up all hope of motherhood.
Husband Patrick was contacting adoption agencies and getting information while Courtney became overwhelmed with increasingly invasive procedures in hopes of getting pregnant. So Patrick was considering adoption at least a year before the wife. Interesting.
“Cost played a huge part in our choice not to try more vitro,” says Courtney. When the couple explored newborn domestic adoption, cost was still an issue: the fees, the home studies, paying the birth mother’s expenses just felt like too much.
She says, “I was slipping into deep depression that left me doubting I even wanted to stay married; Patrick was living in the hell I was creating with my constant misery.”
From my friends and directly from Courtney, my heart aches for so many couples such as this: Do you have an infertility story that turned to adoption that you’d like me to tell in order to inspire other couples to not give up hope?
Contact me below, and tune in on Wednesday for Part 2: Courtney’s happy ending!Add a Comment