Part 2: Great Adoption Advice from a Birth Mother
Today, Denise Olson, 33, is a happily married mother to three rambunctious boys in Colorado. She’s also a birth mother who was emotionally devastated when she had to give up her first child (a newborn son) after her freshman year in college.
After lots of tears and soul-searching, Denise was introduced to a couple who had longed for a child for over a decade and the couple was unable to conceive on their own.
Denise remembers, “I spoke to them on the phone and answered their questions, and they answered mine before we made the commitment to meet each other. We met and instantly had a connection, so I knew right away they were meant to be the parents of my unborn child. They seemed so wise, so balanced.”
Several months later in a hospital, she handed over her newborn son to his new family. “I can’t explain my feeling of loss and love at the same time as I handed my newborn, after 24 hours of labor, over to his parents. That moment completed their lives and gave me a new lease on mine.”
She also remembers, “When I gave birth to my first son, Will, I was overwhelmed with the feeling of love… motherly love for a newborn child…but overtaken with the feeling of loss, at the same time, when I handed him to his adoptive mother. In that moment when they became a little family of three and I saw the incredible emotion, I knew I had completed this family that they longed for.
“After the delivery, I felt a new lease on my life, almost as if giving birth made me grow up and made me see things clearer. Adoption was a very important decision.”
Denise has words of wisdom for all mothers considering giving their baby up for adoption: “My advice to birth mothers is simple: Do what is best for the interest and well being of your unborn child, and you will never go wrong.”
“Adoption is the most selfless act imaginable.”
Today, lovely Denise is happily married and has three boys of her own, ages 10, 8 and 3! She’s written three children’s books and wants her own story as a birth mother to be heard loud and clear.
Photo Credit: Denise and her middle son, Dane.
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