Part 1: Adoption Advice from a Birth Mother
I spend so much time interviewing mothers and parents who have been waiting endless months or even years for their new baby, that I agree it’s high time to interview a young mom who did the right thing. (I hear you loud and clear!)
Denise Olson, 33, is a successful, happily married mother to three rambunctious boys, and lives in Colorado. She’s also a birth mother who was emotionally devastated when she had to give up her first child (a newborn son) after freshman year in college 15 years ago.
Like many other young, American birth mothers who must give up their children to private adoptions or to adoption agencies, Denise had many issues growing up and wasn’t ready to become a mother when she found herself in a heartbreaking predicament.
Olson says, “I grew up in a broken home that was plagued with abuse at the hands of my mother, and always felt deep despair that made me feel alone and out of place. I was raised with my two brothers by a loving single father who had to maintain three jobs in order to pay the bills and keep food on the table. Early life was hard.”
And then, a shocker.
Denise recalls the moment: “At the end of freshman year on college, I found out I was pregnant at the age of 18 but I knew that I was not capable of providing the home and care necessary for a baby. I thought babies were adorable, even more, I knew that abortion would be a quick solution, but not a solution for me personally.”
After everything she had experienced as an abused child, Denise said she felt “rushed to grow up and be safe.” As many vulnerable and emotional birth mothers likely feel, Denise says, “In college, in some sense, I thought I was more mature than my age. I realized after becoming pregnant as a teenager that I was not quite as grown up as I thought I was.”
Denise spent countless hours praying and soul searching before she decided to put her baby up for adoption. She says, “I knew it was the right decision for me, I felt it deep inside my soul.”
Photo Credit: Denise Olson and her happy family in Parker, Colorado
Join us on Friday for Part 2: Adoption Advice from a Birth Mother Giving Up Her Newborn