Celebrate Adoption on July 4th!
I’ve read about one family with 12 adoptees, another with 19 adoptees. One mother said she wasn’t an expert in the process until after her eighth imported child.
I believe that every adoption journey is a completely unique experience but it sure doesn’t hurt to get some tips from the pros! The only thing for which I hold the “pro” title is for my son, Sam. (I can tell within a millisecond of his peripheral glance, exactly how he’s feeling, and why.) Sam is five years old and without guidance from my husband and friends that kid would still be in diapers, sucking noisily on his right thumb. Stayin’ up all night cuddling mommy.
I have no head for milestones. As you can probably tell if you’ve read any of my posts, I am happy to keep my biological son happy, healthy and loved. I cannot fathom doing it for 6, 9 even 12 kids. Why do you do it out there? I have to know!
So my only advice for looking into adoption is to be open to nearly anything happening. I figure, at the end of the bumpy roller coaster ride, you might deserve inherit a child or two (or 19!). Maybe it’s better to try hard rather than not try at all?
No matter what stage of adoption you’re engaged in, read up on it! Here are my new favorite adoption tips from the real experts:
Prepare for a bumpy ride. “I would just say that all the previous disappointments, tears and agonizingly long waits are so worth it once you hold your precious child.”
Make one crucial decision in the beginning: Do you lean towards domestic adoption or international adoption? And realize these pros and cons.
Don’t drive yourself mad with subject saturation. Too many would-be parents absorb daunting and grossly outdated advice. Adoption legislation happens quickly; so don’t invest too many emotions in stats buried six months ago! http://adoptedbydesign.typepad.com/
PSSST: What are you an expert in this month? Do you have any words of wisdom to help potential adoptive parents out there?
Credit: I became and expert on sucking Sam’s toes on the photo top right. Still an expert, if you really want to know!Add a Comment