Twin-Speak and Bedtimes
Q. Do they have a special "twin language" only they understand?
A. They certainly have their own indecipherable nonsense words they have created and reused, but those words seem to have no communicated meaning. Not to minimize or cast doubt upon those parents whose twins actually do have their own twin-speak, I think a lot of same-age non-twin infants/toddlers, if in constant presence of one another, might have some level of unique "language" or communication between them.
The questions behind the question: "Are your twins the 'extra connected' variety, or just 'regular'?" Whether your twins communicate via idioglossia (the medical term for "twin-speak") or English, they are special, and have an undeniable connection.
Q. Do they sleep at the same time?
A. They go to bed at the same time every night, and we get them up at the same time every morning. Whether they actually sleep simultaneously each hour of the evening, I don't know. As parents, we're trying to sleep too; so unless we get a loud mid-evening indicator that one (or both) isn't using the time to actually sleep, we assume they are at least resting quietly. Daddy and I certainly make every effort to give them a predictable, conducive environment to do whichever they can.
The questions behind the question: "Are you perpetually exhausted?" This question always warms my heart a bit, as it seems the asker has either had sleep challenges with their children, or can vividly imagine (and sympathizes with) the difficulty in trying to get parental rest with two infants in house. If the questioner seems truly interested in more detail, I will reveal that in those very early days/weeks, even with a regimented schedule, getting rest was tough. With each passing day, with continued consistency of routine, and with two great kids (cue to rub the twins' heads) it does get much, much easier.
Cheryl Lage is a full-time, fully fulfilled mom to fraternal twins Darren and Sarah. During twin-synchronous sleeping hours, she is the Web host of www.twinsights.com, a Web support site for new and expecting twin parents.
Originally published on AmericanBaby.com, May 2006.
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