Sharing a Bed with Your Baby

sleeping in bed with us weakens a child's independence? what a ton of bullshit! I had all my 3 kids sleeping in my bed up to 2 years of age and they are now much older, happy, healthy and everything independent. Peaple should just do what works for them!

My son sleeps with me because its easier to nurse him and I just love having him close! But now I worry that one day when I'm ready for my bed back he wont be able to sleep alone. I have him nap in his crib during the day and he does fine... but will the night make a difference?

I was constantly getting up through the night to make sure my son was breathing, didn't spit up, and was still on his infant positioner, so I one night decided to put him in bed with me in his infant positioner. He's now 4 months and has been sleeping through the night from 9pm-8am..I don't know how many people can say that who have their babies sleeping in a crib! He seems a lot more comforted :) and fall's asleep the minute we're in bed.

i put my son to bed in his crib but hell wake up screamin ( i mean bloddy murder) cause he gets scared...so i usually bring him to bed with me and my husband as long as i hold onto him physcologically my brain knows hes there and thus i dont really move...i get my sleep and my son sleeps like a rock..i havent ( knock on wood) had an accident with him since he was a newborn...

Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone: http://neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/

For those who say it will hurt them later to have them sleep in the bed.I really wonder if they even have kids and truely feel a connection with them. I started my baby out in her crib but one night my husband wanted to bring her with us on the bed and after that one night i was hooked. sleeping next to her was so calming,now she sleeps with us but I sleep in the middle bc he sleeps heavier and moves a lot. Again it is a cal king so it works for us. Not everyone has a big enough bed.

I don't understand how someone who does not sleep with their children can claim that it weakens their sense of independence. People should only comment about what they actually know. The closeness and reassurance of the first 2 years of life cannot be over-done if it is genuine. Everyone is different. It depends entirely on your own personal values and your own personal family situation.

babbies sleeping in their own beds away from parents is a modern day activity. Babbies were ment to be with mom or at least in the same bedroom. I slept with all my kids and they are happy and in their own beds now that they are older. Did you ever try to weaken a 2yolds independence??? LOL! Closeness is ment to be..Do whats best for you but dont be afraid of spoiling an under 1yold! They need us..

i put my baby in bed with me and found i couldnt settle or get a good nights rest for fear of hurting him but i like having him close so we took one side off his crib and butted that against our bed so it felt like we were all together yet with our own space and since then we all sleep well and safely....funny enough the baby actually prefers to stay in "his" bed coming for a cuddle then getting back into his crib to sleep......wouldnt suit everybody but works well for us:)

I don't think that a child should be sleeping in his/her parents bed. There are a few reasons why a child should such as the child may be sick and its better for them to sleep with you as a way for you to keep and eye on them. But to let a child sleep with you all the time can become a safety hazard but it can also weaken a childs sense of independence.