DEBORAH: You really do have to manage your employees, who include your husband and yourself and, sometimes, your nanny or daycare. It's just as if you were CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Managing your personal life is critical, too. Time to yourself is an important part of your life to manage.
KIRSTEN: The struggle is that women tend to feel very guilty about doing things for themselves. They expect to do their out-of-home jobs and their at-home jobs, have a relationship with their spouse, keep up their friendships, and do all of this without giving something back to themselves. That's utterly impossible. But there's not a woman I know who doesn't struggle with guilt over going to the gym or having dinner with a friend. You feel that it's a luxury.
JESSICA: Even when I was on my way here today, in the taxi, I was feeling so bad about leaving my daughter. She's at home with my husband now. I've called a million times to see if she's okay, and he keeps saying, "Yes, don't worry, everything is fine." But the fact remains that I'm not there. My breasts aren't there; they're here! [Lots of laughter]
LS: I think that brings up another thing, which is that our generation of parents is so focused on our children being emotionally healthy that we all wonder how we might be damaging them. Previous generations never thought about emotional health. For them, the most important thing was that their children were well behaved. We're so worried about how our kids are doing that we've become hypervigilant parents. I think the reason women are so tired is that we're doing everything and worrying triple-time.