No One Mothers the Mommy!
As Holly Whitmore, of Laguna Niguel, California, coped with her own bleeding (and sore nipples and sleeplessness), she made an unnerving discovery. "Once the baby is born, everyone cares about the baby -- and not the parent!" she says. Loved ones repeatedly asked about her daughter Brett's milk intake, for instance -- without ever asking how Whitmore was doing. "I went through quite a bit of sadness and loneliness," she says. "Because of my experience, I started a group for new moms in my area. We get together at least once a week with the babies, but we also have a monthly Moms' Night Out." You, too, may need to vent and kvetch with other new parents. To find a moms' group in your area, search for one at meetup.com, look up your local chapter of Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS), or join an online moms' group at community.parents.com.