5 New-Mom Guilt Cures

I'm Not a Perfect Mom

I feel like a terrible parent when we've eaten too many take-out dinners during the week instead of eating nutritious, home-cooked meals. As a mom, it's hard not to feel you're always falling short of your own expectations -- you're not cooking enough, your home's not tidy enough, you're not spending enough time with your husband -- but as you become a more experienced parent it does get easier to put things in perspective.

Also, keep in mind that feeling guilty is not all bad for you. That nagging feeling that your toddler is watching too much TV can help you stand back and assess: three hours a day is way too much for a 2-year-old; I have to find some other ways to keep her occupied. The tricky thing is figuring out whether what's stressing you is really something you need to change or whether you're just being a perfectionist. During those first overwhelming days of motherhood Rosenberg says it's important to be realistic: "If at the end of your day you and your baby are alive and reasonably healthy, that is a success. If you've done a load of laundry, that's a bonus. As you and your baby are sleeping more regularly, your hormones adjust, etc., then you can start to raise your expectations." Amen to that.

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