You Don't Know What to Do About Your Job
For many women, the decision to return to work after having a baby is a no-brainer: Your family may need your paycheck to survive (or at least pay for all those diapers). But for mothers who have a choice -- go back to the job or become a stay-at-home mom -- the decision can be an agonizing one, and most will continue to wonder whether they've made the right choice. "Being alone all day with a baby can be isolating," says Spiegel. "Many stay-at-home moms discover that they miss their community of coworkers and the structure their job provided." At the same time, working moms often feel overloaded with guilt that they aren't with their children at all times.
How to cope: Reach out to other moms who are struggling with the same issues you are. In addition, give your choice a one-year time limit. "Women think that once they decide, they have to stick to that choice for the rest of their lives, which is simply not true," says Kunhardt. "Frame it as, 'What am I going to do this year?' And remember, you can always decide that things aren't working and make a change." Finally, consider asking your employer for a flexible work schedule or looking into part-time opportunities that'll give you the best of both worlds.