Yes, your new baby rocks -- but your life as a new mom might be a little rocky. Here, we talked to experts about some of the big issues we're all pretty much guaranteed to face, including breastfeeding problems, work dilemmas, and losing the baby weight -- and got their best strategies for coping with each one.
Joy, excitement, and unfathomable love? Those are the new-mom emotions you're prepared for. Identity crisis? Not so much. "The best example you probably have of what it means to be a mom is your own mother," says Gail Saltz, MD, a psychiatrist at New York-Presbyterian Hospital, in Manhattan. "And even if you had the greatest one in the world, there are bound to be things you don't want to do just like she did, which can leave you feeling guilty and anxious about the choices you're making as a parent." It can be a huge relief, then, to talk to other moms, Dr. Saltz adds. Aside from getting the understanding and sympathy you crave, you'll also see that you can make the transition from you to you-with-a-kid -- just like they did. What follows is expert advice and it-worked-for-me wisdom for eight common new-mom stresses.
Women spend pregnancy eagerly awaiting a baby: the adorable dimples, the cute outfits, the serene moments of staring into each other's eyes. And yes, there are those joys -- along with some unexpected truths. Real moms who've been there and dealt with that speak up so you'll never have to say, "Why didn't anyone tell me?"
Welcoming a second (or third or fourth!) child into the family is an event filled with joy--and some stress for moms worrying about how their other kids will adjust. Find out how to make the transition easy for all.
Bonding seems to happen one of two ways: you're instantly gaga for your baby; or you're a bit numb from labor, delivery, and the no-turning-back-now realization that you're finally a mom. You fumble through those early sleepless weeks and months of figuring each other out -- but that's okay. Bonding is a long, complicated process, and it unfolds a bit differently for every parent.