AB: What was it like taking Bryn home from the hospital?
BF: I had never really held a baby and had never changed a baby's diaper before I had Bryn. I couldn't believe they let me leave the hospital. Babies are so fragile—and Bryn was a preemie. I was terrified. At first I would imagine dropping her—crazy, irrational thoughts!
AB: How did you calm down after the initial shock?
BF: Everybody makes things sound so much more complicated and scary than they need to be. Everything's really simple. Every day, I just face whatever it is and life gets better. You get to know yourself, and you get to know the baby, and everything is okay. You aren't dealt anything you can't handle.
AB: So is life easier to handle these days?
BF: I can be a little crazy and I don't want Bryn to be crazy. They say babies' personalities turn out to be similar to what they are in infancy and she seems like a really nice, sweet girl. We sing and we do dance parties. I'm so proud when I realize that my baby is happy.
AB: You look fantastic. Could you talk about how you lost the baby weight?
BF: For many women, losing the baby weight is like January 1st: They go to the gym and put all this pressure on themselves and then they rebel. You do have to cut back a little, but you have to be relaxed about it. Just take a deep breath and know that it will all fall into place.
AB: Is there a workout you've settled on?
BF: I take Bryn in the baby carrier for an hour and that's my exercise. I'm walking her, I'm getting exercise—everyone's happy. We take strolls along the Hudson River, too. I also do yoga at home. You really can get a good workout at home. I put Bryn nearby and my dog, Cookie, is on the mat and everyone is doing yoga together. I've decided that a family that Namastes together, stays together.
AB: With a new marriage, new motherhood, and several reality shows, do you get any time to relax?
BF: I do bath time with Bryn every night. We call them "bathies." My husband, Jason, sits on the side and assists and when Bryn is done, he takes her and I have my bath. I'm already in there, I'm already wet, so I just heat the water a little and do the bubbles and the candles and that's my daily activity. It's my ritual. It relaxes me and it's my own time.
AB: What's a product that you couldn't live without?
BF: A pod coffee maker. First of all, it's expensive to buy coffee at a store everyday and it gets cold by the time you get home. I joke with Jason every morning, asking, "Is the barista open?" He makes a little design in my coffee foam and he puts cinnamon on and says, "The barista is now open."
AB: So do you think you'll have more kids?
BF: Jason wants to have another baby, but I'm not sure. Right now the clothes are sitting in purgatory!
Originally published in the February 2011 issue of American Baby magazine.
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I would go crazy without my husband's help! I never changed a baby's diaper before my little Ema came along so I can relate to Bethany. Obviously a single mother will not benefit from tips involving daddy's help...but your mother, aunt or friend could also provide the same relief. New moms (especially single moms) need the help. I love Bethany and very happy to see the article.
3/6/2011 06:40:51 PM Report AbusePLEASE everyone calm down. This a great magazine that covers all type of moms if they are celebs or not. Obvious you have a lot of comments on Bethany F. Bethany tells it straight and just because she has a show and made it big does not make her bad. If you read more about her you would see how hard of a life she had, she had parents that did not treat her well and she worked her azz off as a SINGLE young lady!!! WITH no help.. the magazine will not suffer with the million people that buy it.
2/27/2011 05:38:39 PM Report AbuseChill out everyone.....really!? As for the single mom thing she is being interviewed as newly married and new mom. My husband helps me with the kid all the time. Wow! Thats what works for her. She is not forcing you to do what she does.
2/27/2011 11:43:13 AM Report AbuseThis is my first time EVER posting a comment on anything. I felt I had to also say that you all sound really bitter. This is one mother's way of doing things. I'm sure if this were the mommy down the street from you the feedback wouldn't be so harsh. I would like to see how the country would judge your mommy routines if they were filmed and put on TV for the entire country to watch.
2/27/2011 11:34:52 AM Report AbuseWOW, is right. You all sound so angry. She is just telling what works for her and her situation. Everyone has a different journey down this road of parenthood.
2/27/2011 10:53:48 AM Report AbuseGoing to the corner or to a "back room" somewhere to breastfeed my baby doesn't sound very relaxing to me, so thanks, but no thanks for the "relaxation" tips. Having a reality show doesn't make this woman an expert on motherhood, nor should she be touting advice in Parents magazine like she is.
2/27/2011 10:45:56 AM Report AbuseWould help if one had a bathtub to start with. O_o
2/27/2011 10:40:00 AM Report AbuseWOW! 'Have your husband take the baby..." What a crock of sh!T? Did we not consider that there are TONS of single moms out there...not to mention the 'semi'-single mothers (like myself) who have spouses deployed overseas?? Sorry Parents...I'm done with you too. This one was just too much!
2/27/2011 10:33:42 AM Report AbuseI feel the same way. Just cuz she's been on cable tv and has a baby--who cares. Give me someone real who can inspire me
2/27/2011 10:21:50 AM Report AbuseReally disturbed that Parents is boasting this lady. Tell me what she has done good for parenting. After the comments on public breastfeeding I am disapointed that Parents is using her as a reference. This is that last that I can handle from Parens. I have canceled my email subscriptions and my mag subscription.
2/27/2011 10:15:43 AM Report AbuseNo pic of the baby?
2/27/2011 09:43:26 AM Report Abuse