How to Keep Your Name a Secret
Q. We're in a Lamaze class where people are very direct and nosy. Lately, they have been demanding to know what we are going to name our child or what our top picks are. We don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but we are very private people. What should we say?
A. You could always refer to the baby by a top-secret code name like Baby X or Cherry Garcia. One couple I know actually picked the most awful name they could find and told annoying busybodies that was the name they had selected. If being private and reserved makes you feel more secure, then silence is golden. (On the other hand, if you're one of those folks who views every acquaintance as a new test market, chatter away.) It's perfectly fine to say, "We're not sure. We're still working on it." Or change the subject by asking, "Have you heard of any names you like yet?"