How much sexual education should I give my ten year old daughter?
My daughter is ten and in the fifth grade. I know sexual education should be an ongoing conversation and not just one talk, but how much should you tell your child? She knows about her body and the upcoming changes, but as far as sex and how babies are made, we haven't gotten there yet and she hasn't asked for more information. Should I leave well enough alone or talk to her about it before a peer does?
Submitted by gracefuljade

You are right, sex education should be an ongoing talk with your child from day one. It starts by calling genitals by their proper names. This teaches children that these body parts are not shameful, helps children communicate their needs with other caregivers (such as “I have a rash on my penis”), and makes it less likely for your child to become the victim of a sexual predator.

 

Most kids ask questions long before they are your daughter’s age. In the beginning you should just answer the question they are asking. In other words “where do babies come from” can be answered with “dads have something called a sperm, mommies have an egg. They come together in the uterus where the baby grows.” Of course all this becomes more complicated with same sex couples. As they get older and your child's questions get more complex and detailed, your answers should as well. If a child has not asked about how the sperm and egg get together by the time they are eight, a parent needs to initiate the conversation.

 

It is important for children to be able to talk to their parents about sex. You should be the first place your child wants to go with a question and you will be if you keep the conversations about sex comfortable from the beginning. If not, peers who are likely to provide misinformation and may have very different values will become your child’s source of sex education.

 

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Answered by jennparents
Community Answers (4)

I honestly think the sooner you explain how babies are made the better off you are. I would rather spend time explaining to my 10 yr old daughter about the birds and the bees before someone else shows her themselves. I am also going to get The Gils Body Book to help her understand better. Thanks for writing this article..very tough questions.. by the way..if there are parents who are wanting to work from home with a LEGIT Health and Wellness company then I highly suggest visiting www.athome4kids.awugreen.com YOu wont sell a single thing or touch any kind of inventory at all.totally awesome.
Submitted by athome4mykids

We know our children, and our children are going to be teenagers and adults. getting them to adulthood safely should be our primary concern. Our hangups shoul not be projected onto them. if they ask answer as honestly and matter of factly as possible. I found a book for my daughter when she was 10 years old and her body began changing. Since she is an avid reader I though this would be a detailed way to give her answers, "The Girl's Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing Up YOU" by Kelli Dunham and Laura Tallardy. She loved it and anything she had questions on we discussed. She is now 12 and a very confident young lady, I hope she is able to come to me or able to talk to me about any issues she faces now and in the future.
Submitted by acox15

One day your going to have to tell them i told my daughter when she was nine and she told me she knew because she asked her friend how are babies made ? but later is better to tell them because she is sixteen now and pregnant.
Submitted by brookshireeliza