Why is my kindergartener having behavioral issues in school?
I am a single mother of a 5 year old who just started Kindergarten this year. My child has been in preschool since she was 1 year old and I have never had any issues with or negative complaints about my her until now. Almost everyday her teacher is telling me that she is having problems listening in class and doing what she is asked to do. I have spoken with my child and disciplined her and I don't know what else to do.
Submitted by kiwiredd1

Generally teachers are quite experienced with groups of children, and there is often something useful in the teacher's observations. But you might want to learn more about the specifics here. Is it possible to meet with the teacher in a relaxed atmosphere? If the parent and teacher form a "team," it is often more effective in finding solutions. What are the circumstances in which your daughter seems to have problems? What time of day? Is it alone, or with other children? Has the child had a hearing test? Does she appear over-excited, over-tired, angry, distractible? Does she get along well with other children? Does she sleep well? Perhaps you can spend an hour or so one day in the classroom observing your daughter in kindergarten--then you and the teacher might have a better basis of discussion.


I would suggest, too, that you hold off on "disciplining" your daughter until you have a clear idea what is going on with her. Is it possible that the circumstances that led to your being a single mother have had some impact on your daughter and yourself emotionally? Are there stresses in your lives at home right now? Perhaps the teacher can suggest someone at school or elsewhere who can make a more comprehensive evaluation of your daughter's overall situation and give you some recommendations how to proceed. The family doctor is another resource for referrals.


Adding punishment to the mix may backfire, and only give your daughter more reason to "not listen." Giving your child more time, patience, and attention right now may help her settle down into the challenges of school.


The fact that a youngster has not presented problems in previous years does not guarantee that problems may not emerge as the child is older--there are more demands placed on a child's maturity at each new grade.


It is possible, too, that you and your daughter both need some additional supports. Can you reach out for some extra help? Good luck!

Answered by EBerger
Community Answers (3)

Putting a child on medication does not solve any problems it creates excuses. Medication is not the best way to solve any behavior problem with any child
Submitted by twalker1986

Step back and check out your daughters class and teachers. Perhaps there is something going on within her peer group that she is reacting to by misbehaving. Also, it wouldn't help to see if she has ADD or ADHD. This is the age that it begins to manifest itself. Check with your pediatrician for current information on signs of ADD or ADHD. Most preschool and elementary teachers are not aware of the signs and symptons in younger children. As a parent of a 14 year old who was just recently diagnosed it was an "Ah Ha" moment. Had we been educated when he was younger we could have saved all of us a lot of tears and frustration. Good luck! S. Geoghegan
Submitted by stacygeoghegan