What can I do when my baby constantly cries?
My baby's always crying, and it's stressing me out. What can I do?
Submitted by Parents.com Team

It's natural to feel overwhelmed (or like the worst mommy on earth) if your newborn seems like she screams all the time, especially when nothing you do seems to comfort her. First, try to get a handle on why your baby may be crying. After checking for the obvious (hunger, poop, sleep), know that some infants are simply more sensitive to the sights and sounds of the world around them and crying is their way of letting you know they're distressed. If you can identify what specific stimuli may be triggering the meltdowns, you can tweak the environment to make your baby more comfortable. Is she sensitive to loud noises or too much light? Is she uneasy around strangers? She might even feel overwhelmed by too many toys around her nursery.

If making subtle changes to your baby's surroundings doesn't help, look at the number of hours she spends crying. It's considered excessive for a baby to cry for three hours or more a day for three or more days a week. If this is the case, talk to your pediatrician -- your baby may have colic (which usually subsides by 3 or 4 months) or bad acid reflux, which can be treated with medication.

Recognize that adjusting to a new baby -- especially a fussy one -- can be hard, particularly for first-timers, so it's important to take care of yourself too. This means accepting offers of help and getting as much rest as you can. Try to carve out some alone time whenever possible (even if it's only an hour) to take a walk, browse in a quiet bookstore, or meet a friend for coffee. If you find yourself becoming anxious during a crying spell, it's okay to put your baby down in a safe place (like a crib or swing) for a few minutes while you collect yourself. Remember, even at this tender age, your baby picks up on your tension, and it will be much harder to soothe her if you aren't calm yourself.

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Community Answers (3)

Dealing with a colicky baby is one of the hardest things you can do. My son had it real bad. First raise the head of his bed slightly by rolling a towel and placing it under his mattress this will help reduce the gas. There are many things you can do to try to release the pressure. Lay your baby on his left side, lay on his back and move his legs in a bicycling motion, rub his tummy, lay across your knees on your belly and sway your legs back and forth while patting his bottom. Some babies prefer movement. Try baby swing, going for a drive, place him in his carseat ontop of the dryer. You may just have to try new things. My son liked the shower. I would get in the shower with him to calm him down. I also gave my son pedialyte to help him burp more. Crying makes the pain worse so try to calm him down as soon as you can. Aslo change formula he could have an allergy to cows milk, If all fails your ped. can prescribe oral drops to help.
Submitted by ashleyshark11

I get stressed too when my son cries for what seems like all day sometimes. I've been reduced to tears many times and when that happened, he stopped crying and would just look at me and smile and then he'd make little gestures to me that made me feel like he was trying to comfort me. If you don't want to cry in front of your baby, try putting him or her in front of a mirror with you. That works every time for my son. He loves to see himself and smiles every time.
Submitted by gensaxton