How can I make my toddler stop picking on other kids?
How can I stop my toddler from hitting, biting, and pulling other kids' hair?
Submitted by Parents.com Team

Most kids hit or bite at some point. However, those who keep it up usually feel they're getting something out of it -- earning attention (even the negative kind), making their sibling unhappy, or just having a chance to express anger. To help this phase pass more quickly, immediately go to the child who was hurt, scoop her up for a hug, and say "No biting" to your toddler. Then put him in time-out, set a timer for a few minutes, and don't pay him any attention. For most kids, it's better not to have a designated "time-out" spot because if they leave, they're getting away with something or you pay attention to them trying to get them to stay. The timer is important so that the end of the session is not subjective. After the timer rings, treat your child normally, but be sure to first repeat the message that there's no biting in your family.
Trust that this behavior should subside as your child becomes more verbal and better able to express his emotions without resorting to hitting or hair-tugging.

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Community Answers (4)

My 16 month old hits and bites me. He doesn't have enough attention span to stay in a time out and he just finds it funny when I say we don't bite or put his hand down. What can I do to better this situation?
Submitted by NGELLOVE

I have the same issue with my 16 month old. Often the advice for "toddlers" is for older toddlers. The lack of attention and praise does have an affect on my son, though. I also try to make a "sad face" to show that something hurts, since saying "ouch" can make him laugh.
Submitted by carancrawford

I understand the purpose behind the time out but is my 16 month old old enough to understand time out and how do i keep her in time out. Also what if i am the one she is biting and hitting
Submitted by lmfarr1