Why does my toddler refuse to take a nap even though she is exhausted?

My 17 month old sleeps amazing at night & for her first nap, but refuses to go to sleep for her 2nd nap, even though it is VERY clear that she is exhausted. We lay her down awake for the 1st nap & bedtime, & she falls asleep with not even a whimper. She physically keeps herself away for the 2nd nap, doing things like smacking her face, kicking legs, flailing arms or babbling. HELP! I have an extremely exhausted baby in the evenings, & I have ran out of options.

Submitted by dottiedowell84

I know it's painful to see an obviously tired child refuse to sleep. But we can't "force" our children to eat, sleep, or poop -- they are in control of those basic bodily functions. And children rapidly change in their sleep cycles and need for sleep, so it's not uncommon to experience what you describe. It may be that she's ready to try to drop that second nap of the day. Experiment with it for awhile, putting her to bed at night earlier than usual to make up for the lost sleep -- and expect more afternoon crabbiness until she adjusts. It may take a week or more. Just be glad that she sleeps so well for you at nighttime and her first nap -- lots of other parents out there envy your good luck!

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Community Answers (3)

I had the same problem with my son, but my fiance and I just readjusted his naps. He now wakes up at around 7:30 or 8am, takes a longer nap in the middle of the day at around noon or 1pm and then goes to bed around 6 or 7pm. It was hard to readjust his sleeping times at first and it took about 2 weeks for him to get fully used to it, but eventually it worked. Just remember, when rearranging a child's structured day it gets harder before it gets easier. Hang in there and it will all work out.
Submitted by firefly19860521

TWO NAPS! That is the dream :) Good luck!
Submitted by elboogee